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Life is One Big Experiment: Our Goals for the Year

March 19, 2025

Life is one big experiment. We don’t always have the answers, and sometimes, it feels like we’re hoping our goals will pay off. At times, it’s overwhelming, right? You know those moments when the road ahead feels uncertain and the end goal is hard to see. But, we remind ourselves that this is all part of the journey. And maybe, just maybe, that’s what makes the process worthwhile.

This year, Matt and I have set some big goals for ourselves—both financially and physically. Saying it out loud feels intimidating, though. What if we fall short? What if things don’t work out? But even with those doubts, we’re putting ourselves out there. We’re taking a leap of faith—and we invite you to join us on this journey.

Financial Goals: One Step at a Time

Matt has been working tirelessly at his freelance writing, and his progress has been nothing short of inspiring. He’s dedicated time and energy, and we’re starting to see the rewards. By the end of this week, we should finally have our own car. After months of relying on old, worn-out vehicles, this feels like a major win.

Back in Montana, we had a paid-off van, but it was falling apart. We knew it couldn’t make the trip to Oklahoma, so we let it go. Now, we’re looking ahead to getting our financial ducks in a row—nothing huge, but some important steps that will set us up for the next phase.

Next, we plan to move into our own place by Thanksgiving. We’re all ready for our own space, especially after months of living with my parents. We are so grateful for their support, but there’s something about having our own place that brings peace of mind. We’re looking forward to it, and we believe it’s within reach.

Physical Goals: A Personal Push

Alongside financial goals, we’re focused on getting healthy. For me, this feels like a final push. I’ve struggled with my health and weight for years. Mentally, I know I can’t fail again. So, I made a decision: gastric bypass. I’m not taking this lightly. I have extreme determination to make lasting changes.

I’ve already started the process and attended the seminar. Now, I’m waiting for my appointment with the surgeon to begin the next steps. It’s not going to be easy, but I’m committed to doing the hard work and making the changes I need to improve my health. My blood sugar is dangerously close to type 2 diabetes, and I’m tired of feeling frustrated when I look in the mirror. I’m more than ready for my efforts this time to truly stick.

When Effort Doesn’t Match Results

I’m tired of taking my kids to the park and sitting on the sidelines because I’m too exhausted from walking from the parking lot to the playground. I watch as other parents play effortlessly, and it’s hard not to feel left out. Some may tell me to just get active—and I have.

Here’s the thing: I walked 5 miles a day for an entire summer. My muscles toned but I barely lost any weight. I was in a calorie deficit, and yet, nothing changed. I enjoyed walking, but for the weight I needed to lose, it shouldn’t have been so hard. Then winter hit, and the walking stopped. In just a couple of months, despite maintaining the same calorie deficit, I gained weight and lost the toning I had built. Something in my body is working against me, and I can’t keep fighting it alone anymore.

Taking the Leap

Sharing these goals publicly feels scary. But that’s the point, right? We’ve shared my weight loss journey before, so that’s not the hard part. What if we fail again? What if we fall short of what we’re working so hard to achieve? But maybe that’s why it matters. By putting these goals out there, we hold ourselves accountable, and we share this journey with others going through the same thing. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, uncertain, or exhausted by your own goals, know that you’re not alone.

This year, we’re stepping into a season of growth—personally, financially, and physically. These goals also align with our faith. God calls us to care for ourselves and our families. If we fail at that, we miss something crucial. It won’t be easy, but we’re ready to face the challenges head-on. The road might be bumpy, but we’re determined to keep moving forward—one step at a time.

Join Us on This Journey

Life is full of unknowns. We don’t have all the answers, but we can take small steps toward our goals every day. Whether it’s achieving financial stability, getting healthy, or creating the life we want for our family, we’re taking it one day at a time.

We invite you to join us on this journey. We can’t do it alone, and neither can you. Let’s support each other as we work toward our dreams, face our fears, and celebrate every win along the way. It’s all part of the process—and together, we’ll make it through.

Children's Books

The Unexpected Adventure of Writing My First Children’s Book

March 16, 2025

Reading has always been a part of my life, but I wasn’t always as passionate about it. In elementary school, I was an avid reader—books were my escape. But by the time I reached middle school, the joy of reading faded. Then, in a twist of fate, I married a book lover. Matt has always had a deep love for reading. After 12 years of marriage, he finally convinced me to listen to audiobooks. It was a game-changer. I quickly discovered the relaxation and enjoyment I had been missing. This all came together as we began discussing the idea of creating a children’s book together.

But the real magic happened when our daughter, Addison, came into the picture.

The Inspiration Behind Our Children’s Book: Fox Friends

Addison has always had a natural love for animals, particularly foxes. It all started when she received a stuffed fox named Foxy during a trip to The Garden of the Gods in Colorado Springs, Colorado. Ever since then, foxes have been her thing. Her love for these adorable creatures has only grown. Her creativity shines through every day, especially when she starts telling stories. Addison is a chatterbox—she’s been that way since her first words—and she has an incredible gift for storytelling. If you give her the floor, she’ll keep talking about her foxes and their adventures all day long.

For the past couple of years, Addison has dreamed of creating something that kids would love. She’s always said that she wants to be a YouTube influencer when she grows up. She’s not entirely sure where to start. Honestly, I have no clue either! But I knew one thing for sure—I wanted to help her bring her dreams to life in a way that she’d be proud of.

The Christmas Spark That Led to Our First Children’s Book

The turning point came on Christmas 2024 when Addison was playing with her much older cousin, Lydia. They were talking about her beloved foxes, and Addison was enthusiastically introducing her new foxes to the others. It didn’t take long for Lydia, an amazing artist, to start drawing the foxes for Addison to color. What began as a simple conversation soon became something magical. Addison and Lydia even made up a little song about the Fox Friends and Addison. It was the cutest thing ever.

That conversation sparked an idea. Lydia agreed to illustrate Addison and her foxes for a coloring book. This wasn’t just any ordinary coloring book, though—it was going to tell a story that kids could interact with. The idea was to create a world where kids could read and color at the same time. A book that would bring the story to life in an engaging way, creating the ultimate children’s book.

The Beginning of the Journey: The Forest Adventure

Fast forward to a few months later. Matt and I were deep in thought, brainstorming ways to build a future for ourselves and our children. We’ve always been determined to work smarter, not harder, so we can achieve financial freedom and spend more time together. As we were brainstorming, Matt suggested something that would change the course of our year. Why not create a children’s book with Addison and her foxes?

Within hours, I had mapped out a full book outline—a story about Addison and her foxes having an adventure in the forest. The idea was that kids would not only read the story but also get to color the pages, making the experience even more immersive.

I immediately called Lydia, our Illustrator, and by the end of the day (with Matt’s budget approval), the project was officially underway. We were on our way to creating something special, and it felt like everything was falling into place.

The Magic Behind The Forest Adventure

The process wasn’t always smooth—getting the perfect illustrations, finalizing the story, and making sure everything fit together just right—but it was such a rewarding experience. The Forest Adventure tells the story of Addison, Foxy, and the gang as they navigate through the forest, teaching kids valuable lessons along the way. But it’s not just a book to read—it’s interactive! With every page, kids can color and create their own version of the forest adventure.

We created three versions of the children’s book to make it accessible to everyone: the coloring book version, which allows kids to color as they read; an early readers’ non-colorable storybook that introduces the adventure in a simple, fun way for younger children; and a more immersive, extended storybook for older readers, fully colored with stunning double-page illustrations. Each version brings the adventure to life in a unique way, giving kids the chance to explore their creativity while enjoying the fun and lessons of the story.

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Expanding the Fox Friends Brand: What’s Next

But the fun doesn’t stop there! I’ve already started expanding the Fox Friends brand even further. Addison and I, along with Ethan (who got excited when I mentioned my idea for a chapter book aimed at his age), have begun developing Fox Friends Adventures, a middle school-aged children’s book series. This new series will take kids on an exciting, magical quest to save the forest—and maybe even the world! The first book in the series, The Whispering Shadow, is shaping up to be an adventure that will captivate young readers.

Fox Friends Adventures will be filled with mystery, bravery, and the kind of heartwarming friendships that kids love. It’s all about teaching them how to face their fears and work together to solve problems, all while having fun with our beloved fox characters… and maybe even a few sneaky coyotes.

Join Us on This Adventure

The journey of writing and publishing Fox Friends and Addison: The Forest Adventure has been an incredible adventure for both me and Addison. It’s a labor of love, creativity, and family. We’ve learned so much about publishing a children’s book, and we’re excited to continue sharing this journey with all of you.

If you want to follow along with our story, get updates on new books, or purchase Fox Friends and Addison: The Forest Adventure, head over to our website www.foxfriendsandme.com for all the details!

Family Journey

Behind Closed Doors: How to Turn Conflict into Strength

March 14, 2025

In Part 1, we discussed the pressures of constant togetherness. Part 2 tackled the impacts of overstimulation, while Part 3 focused on managing the friction that comes with living, working, and parenting under one roof. But now, let’s shift gears and talk about the silver lining—the growth that comes from navigating conflict. Because, believe it or not, conflict doesn’t have to be a relationship killer. In fact, it can actually help you grow stronger as a couple, if you let it.

Conflict is a natural part of any relationship, and in our house, it feels like it’s almost inevitable. But as we’ve learned over time, how we handle the conflict matters far more than the conflict itself. It’s easy to get caught up in the heat of the moment and let frustration or miscommunication drive a wedge between us, but the truth is, those moments of tension don’t have to define us. Instead, they can be opportunities to deepen our connection and strengthen our understanding of each other.

Turning Conflict into Connection

One of the biggest lessons we’ve learned, and perhaps are still learning, is that conflict can be an opportunity for understanding. When friction arises, it’s easy to see it as a sign of failure, like something is wrong with the relationship. But the reality is, it’s just part of the process. Every time we argue, we learn something new about ourselves and each other. We start to recognize patterns in our communication, discover the things that trigger us, and learn how to respond better in the future.

Take that time when Matt and I had the whole “Ethan didn’t get in trouble because I didn’t hear him” situation. It could’ve been just another fight that left us frustrated and distant. But we chose to dig deeper. Instead of just arguing, we took a moment to pause and reflect on why we were reacting the way we were. I realized that it wasn’t just about what happened in the moment—it was about feeling overstimulated, stressed, and unable to communicate effectively. Once we recognized that, we were able to see the situation through a different lens. And just like that, a fight turned into a moment of growth and understanding.

Communication: The Key to Avoiding Conflict

It’s no surprise that communication is the key to turning conflict into growth. It’s the cornerstone of every strong relationship. But, let’s be real—communication doesn’t always come easily. Especially when you’re both overstimulated or frustrated. It can feel like every word out of your mouth is a potential landmine. But even when things are heated, we’ve learned that taking a step back and communicating calmly can prevent the friction from escalating.

When we’re in the middle of a disagreement, we recognize that it could be helpful to start checking in with each other. Asking questions like, “What’s really bothering you here?” or “How can I help?” could be a great way to shift the focus from winning the argument to understanding each other’s perspectives. I’ll admit, we don’t always do this—but I can see how it would make a huge difference in navigating conflict. It’s not always easy (sometimes it feels like trying to speak two different languages), but this approach could help us connect better, especially when emotions are running high.

Humility and Apologizing: The Secret to Healing

Another key lesson we’re learning is the importance of humility in conflict. I’m not talking about being a doormat, but about recognizing when you’ve been wrong or when your actions have contributed to the friction. For me, this has been a huge eye-opener. Growing up, I wasn’t exactly taught conflict resolution skills, and I was surrounded by people who didn’t often acknowledge when they were wrong or apologize. As a result, I didn’t always see the value in owning up to my mistakes. Over time, though, I’ve learned that taking responsibility doesn’t make me weak—it actually makes me stronger. It’s a sign of maturity and growth in the relationship.

Matt and I are both guilty of letting our pride get in the way sometimes. But we’ve learned that swallowing our pride and offering a sincere apology can go a long way in healing the hurt and rebuilding the bond. When I’ve messed up, I now make a conscious effort to apologize and take responsibility. And when Matt does the same, I’m reminded that we’re in this together—not as opponents, but as a team. It’s not always easy, but it’s always worth it.

Laughing Through the Tension

Now, I know we’ve been talking about heavy stuff, but here’s the good news—laughter can be a great tool for easing the tension during conflict. As intense as things can get, sometimes we just need to stop, take a deep breath, and laugh at how ridiculous we’re being. If we’ve argued about something silly—like the TV remote, or who left the laundry on the floor again—it helps to take a step back and laugh at ourselves.

Looking Ahead: Continuing to Grow Together

The bottom line is that conflict doesn’t have to tear us apart. If we approach it with humility, patience, and a commitment to understanding, it can bring us closer together. Conflict and friction are inevitable in any relationship, but how we handle them can either strengthen or weaken the bond we share. We’re still learning, still growing, and still figuring it out as we go, but with each disagreement, we grow stronger, more connected, and more resilient as a couple.

In the next post, we’ll wrap up this series by sharing the lessons we’ve learned about navigating life’s challenges together. We’ll talk about how we’re continuing to grow as a family, how we deal with conflict on a daily basis, and how we make space for joy—even in the middle of the chaos.

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Behind Closed Doors: How to Manage Friction at Home

March 12, 2025

Part 3: Managing Friction Without Letting It Define You

In Part 1, we talked about the pressures of constant togetherness, and in Part 2, we explored how overstimulation can lead to all kinds of stress. But now, let’s get into the heart of the matter: friction. You know, those moments where the small stuff turns into big stuff, and suddenly, you’re arguing over who left the socks in the hallway like it’s the end of the world. We’ve all been there, right?!

Friction is inevitable in any relationship, especially when you’re living, working, and homeschooling together under the same roof 24/7. It’s like having a constant buzz of static in the background that only gets louder when everything else is stressful. But here’s the good news: even though friction happens, it doesn’t have to control us. We can handle it without letting it define our relationship.

Recognizing the Source of Friction (It’s Not the Socks)

The first thing we’ve learned is that recognizing the source of friction is crucial. And no, it’s not the socks—although sometimes it sure feels like it! The truth is, the small things that set us off are usually just the tip of the iceberg. It’s not about the missing TV remote or who forgot to take out the trash; it’s usually a buildup of everything else—the overstimulation, the stress of work, and the lack of personal space.

For example, that fight over the lens wipes? It wasn’t about the lens wipes. It was about the fact that we’ve both been running on empty, and suddenly, that little inconvenience was the final straw. We’ve had to remind ourselves that friction often comes from the build-up of everything we’re not addressing. The key is realizing that before it explodes into something bigger than it needs to be.

Communicating Through the Friction (Before It Turns into World War III)

One of the hardest lessons I’ve learned is that when the friction heats up, communication is the best tool to diffuse it. If we’re not careful, frustration can build so quickly that we start snapping at each other over things that don’t really matter. Take the time I was playing with Ethan, being silly, and singing along to a song to make him laugh. I had my headphones in, dancing away, when suddenly Addison started getting obnoxiously loud in the other room. Ethan, of course, yelled at her to “shut up,” which led me to get onto him. I was frustrated because he could’ve handled it better.

Well, some time passed, and the same thing happened again, but this time I didn’t hear Ethan yell. Matt, who was trying to work from the other room, came into the kitchen to get on to Ethan about it. Later, Matt asked me why I hadn’t said anything to Ethan. I told him that I had, but in reality, I hadn’t. I just wasn’t thinking clearly after already being overstimulated and stressed from a previous disagreement with Matt which led me to getting defensive.

Admitting You Messed Up is Hard Sometimes

Matt kept asking why I hadn’t gotten onto Ethan, and eventually, I admitted that I hadn’t heard him that time. It seemed simple enough, but instead of just letting it go, we found ourselves in a back-and-forth argument over something that should’ve been a quick fix. And just like that, what started as a silly, lighthearted moment of play quickly spiraled into frustration.

This is where communication becomes crucial—especially when we’re both overstimulated. Instead of letting our frustrations take over, we have to learn to slow down and talk about how we’re feeling. It’s not always easy, but saying something like, “I’m really overwhelmed, can we hit pause for a second?” helps us reset before we start going at each other like we’re in a boxing ring.

Confessing My Faults

I’ll be the first to admit it: I’m really bad at communicating—about 90% of the time. Whether in calm moments or heated ones, sometimes the words that come out of my mouth aren’t even close to what I meant to say. If I can’t rehearse what I want to say beforehand, it’s almost guaranteed that I’ll end up in a jumbled mess of words and probably trouble. Take, for example, a time I testified at a church event. What I meant to express was that I felt thankful, despite never seeing myself as a pastor’s wife. I wanted to say that God had given me a burden for the souls He’d entrusted to us.

What came out, though? Well, apparently it sounded very different. Members later told me that they interpreted my testimony as if I was saying they were a burden. Talk about a facepalm moment. I honestly wish I’d rehearsed what I wanted to say because, like I said, if I don’t prepare beforehand, I might as well stay silent. It’s definitely left me a little timid about impulsive public speaking, so if I ever seem quiet—yeah, that’s probably why.

What Was I Saying…?

When it comes to communicating how I feel or what I think, my thoughts rarely come out the way I mean them, which gets me into trouble more often than not. This is also why blogging comes so much easier to me—because I can sit down, type out my thoughts, and meticulously go over them until they make sense. In person, though? Not so much. I’ve learned that my memory is awful most of the time, so I’ll say something—or even type something—and then forget where I was going with it. This happens all the time, and I mean all the time.

Take, for example, my recent trip to the salon. I was telling my stylist about how my grandfather’s hair went completely white in his twenties. Well, that was my point, anyway. I started talking, and then suddenly went completely blank. I just looked at her and said, “I forgot what I was saying,” and then, thankfully, she reminded me, and I was able to finish my thought. It’s bad, y’all.

Setting Boundaries to Prevent Escalation (Taking a “Break” Doesn’t Mean Giving Up)

When the friction gets too much to handle, we’ve found it’s important to set some boundaries. And by boundaries, I mean taking a break. I know, I know—it sounds like we’re avoiding the problem, but actually, giving ourselves a break helps us address the issue without letting it spiral out of control.

When Matt and I hit that boiling point, we’ve learned that it’s okay to say, “Let’s take some time and come back to this.” Whether that means stepping outside, grabbing a quick coffee, or locking ourselves in the bathroom for a moment of peace (I’m not above that), a little distance can do wonders. It gives us time to calm down, think clearly, and avoid saying things we’ll regret.

Keeping the Big Picture in Mind (It’s Not the End of the World)

Finally, we’ve learned that it’s essential to keep the big picture in mind when the friction is at its peak. In the heat of the moment, it feels like the whole world is falling apart, but when we take a step back, we realize that it’s just a bump in the road. We aren’t actually each others enemy. This is just something we need to slow down and work through.

I’ll be the first to admit how easy that sounds when everything is currently smooth sailing. And I’d probably roll my eyes at hearing that said to me when I’m in the middle of those kinds of moments. I’m in a work in progress. And I do love and appreciate my husband deeply.

I can’t tell you how many times we’ve had arguments that felt like the end of the world, only to laugh about it later. The small annoyances, the miscommunications, and the little things that cause friction? They’re just part of living together. The key is not to let them define us. We’ve learned to remind each other that our relationship is built on love and trust, and those small issues don’t take away from that.

Looking Ahead: Turning Friction into Growth

In the next post, Part 4: Growing Stronger Through Conflict, we’ll dive into how conflict and friction can actually strengthen our relationship if we handle it the right way. We’ll share the tools we’ve learned to turn these moments of tension into opportunities for growth, understanding, and better communication. It’s not always easy, but with patience and a little humor, we’re learning how to handle it all together.

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Behind Closed Doors: How to Handle Overstimulation

March 10, 2025

Part 2: How to Handle Overstimulation

In Part 2, we’re diving into how overstimulation —whether from parenting, work, or the constant demands of daily life—can impact our relationships. We’ll also share what we’re doing to handle it (spoiler alert: it’s not always pretty). If you’ve been following the series, you know that in Part 1, we explored the pressures of constant togetherness and the friction it creates in our relationships. If you haven’t read it yet, I highly recommend starting there. It will help you understand the foundation of the tension we’re navigating as a family.

The Impact it Has On Relationships

Ever feel like your nerves are about to short-circuit? Either by the endless demands of parenting, working from home, and balancing everything else? You’re definitely not alone. Overstimulation is the real deal, and when it hits, it feels like you’re constantly running on empty. For Matt and me, this is all too familiar. We both get overwhelmed by the sheer volume of life happening around us. Before we know it, small annoyances turn into big problems—think “snapping over the missing TV remote” level problems.

When we’re overstimulated, everything feels like it’s turned up to 11. I’m talking about that moment when you feel like you’re about to lose it. Like just one more interruption will make you burst into a thousand tiny pieces. It’s not that spending the entire day with Matt is the issue—honestly, we could be together all day and it would be totally fine. The problem is when everyone else in the house interrupts our flow. Interruptions are fine, but when you’re overstimulated, even the smallest disruption feels like the last straw.

The Breaking Point: When Small Things Turn into Big Problems

When overstimulation takes over, it’s like your whole world shifts in an instant. One minute, you’re fine, and the next, you’re mentally screaming, “I CAN’T DO ONE MORE THING!” You’re trying to focus on a task, and then bam—the kids are fighting over who gets to be what character in a game, or someone needs something right now. Suddenly, your mind feels like it’s short-circuiting. The constant noise, the interruptions, the endless to-do list—it all builds up, and before you know it, you’ve snapped. And then, of course, you feel like a jerk for reacting the way you did, but sometimes it’s just too much.

Real Life Examples of Overstimulated Parents

And Matt? He’s in the same boat. When we’re both running on empty, even the simplest exchanges quickly turn into big arguments. For example, I ask him to pass me a couple of lens wipes while he’s working. When I hear what sounds like frustration in his sigh, I automatically assume he’s irritated. I snap, “Never mind, I’ll figure it out myself.” He responds, “You didn’t even give me a chance to respond!” Small things spiral out of control when we’re both overstimulated.

Then there’s the time Matt’s been dealing with the kids arguing all day. I finally get them to bed, only for others in the house to bring more issues our way—things that aren’t ours to solve. I ask, “Is there anything I can do to help?” but before he can fully express how overwhelmed he feels, I interrupt, trying to correct him. “It’s not like that, Matt.” Naturally, that makes things worse. He says, “I can’t even tell you how I’m feeling without you telling me why I shouldn’t feel that way.” When both of us are overstimulated and running on fumes, the miscommunication snowballs into something much bigger than it needs to be.

Recognizing When You’ve Hit Your Limit with Overstimulation

It’s tricky to recognize when you’re overstimulated. It’s like that moment in a TV show when a character faces an intense situation, and you realize you’ve been holding your breath. Then, you suddenly gasp for air—thinking it will help, even though it doesn’t. The problem is, you didn’t even realize you were holding your breath. When we’re both overstimulated, we often forget to pause and check in with each other. Instead, we try to power through, thinking, “We just need to get through this.” But the reality is, we’re both reaching our limits. Instead of addressing it, we push on—and that’s when things start to spiral.

The best way we’ve found to deal with overstimulation is to hit pause. I know, easier said than done, but we’ve learned we have to recognize it before it explodes. When we feel overwhelmed, we need to communicate that. Even if it’s just saying, “I’m about to lose my mind, can we take a quick break?”. It’s not a perfect system, but recognizing when we’re overstimulated before things spiral has helped us more times than I can count.

Where it gets us in trouble is when we acknowledge it and don’t pause because we are right in the middle of a pressing issue or at least it feels pressing because we’ve been trying to accomplish that one thing for hours now.

How We’re Managing Overstimulation

So, how do we manage overstimulation when life keeps coming at us fast? Well, it’s not magic, but here’s what’s been working (and by “working,” I mean it helps most days, but it’s definitely still a learning process):

Setting Boundaries for Downtime: We’ve started setting clear boundaries around when we need quiet time. This might mean one of us takes a walk alone or just spends 15 minutes in a room by themselves to unwind. Even a short break can reset our brains and help us think clearly. I’m not saying a full spa day (though that would be nice), just a quick breather so we don’t go completely bonkers.
Checking in with Each Other: Communication is key! We try to ask each other how we’re doing throughout the day. Are we both feeling overwhelmed? Do we need to divide up responsibilities? A simple check-in goes a long way in preventing one of us from blowing up over something small (like the fact that the laundry basket is too full—again).
Taking Small Breaks: “Me time” isn’t always easy to find, but it’s important. We carve out small moments during the day to recharge. Go to the store alone? Yes, please. Stepping outside for five minutes of fresh air? Absolutely. These mini-breaks make a world of difference, even if they’re short.
Understanding It’s Okay to Not Be Perfect: Overstimulation can make you feel like you’re failing as a parent or partner. But we’ve learned that struggling sometimes is okay. We don’t need to handle everything perfectly. It’s okay to ask for help, take breaks, and lean on each other when needed. We’re in this together—imperfections and all.

Looking Ahead: Moving Past Overstimulation

The reality of overstimulation is something many parents face, especially in high-stress situations like working from home and living with extended family. But it doesn’t have to control us. By recognizing the signs of overstimulation and making space for rest, we’re learning how to navigate these challenges more effectively.

In the next post, Part 3: Managing Friction Without Letting It Define You, we’ll explore how to handle the moments when the tension reaches its peak. We’ll dive into how we’re working through our conflicts and finding better ways to communicate so that the friction doesn’t define our relationship. It’s not always easy, but we’re taking it one step at a time, and we’ll share the lessons we’ve learned along the way.

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Behind Closed Doors: The Hidden Strain of Life Under One Roof

March 8, 2025

Introduction to “Behind Closed Doors”

When you’re dealing with friction in the home it feels like there isn’t any safe place to just be. If you’ve ever found yourself feeling like your family is one step away from an emotional explosion, you’re not alone. Parenting, marriage, and life in general can bring a lot of joy, but it can also bring a whole lot of friction—especially when you’re living, working, and homeschooling under one roof with no break in sight.

In this four-part series, Behind Closed Doors, I’m opening up about the realities of life as a parent and partner, navigating the unique challenges that come with constant proximity. It’s raw. It’s real. And it’s something many of us are struggling with but rarely talk about.

From the emotional toll of constant parenting to the miscommunications that build up between partners, this series will explore the tension that arises from living and working together 24/7. But it’s not all negative. I’ll also share how we’re learning to manage these challenges, work through the friction, and grow as a family.

This is your invitation to look behind the scenes of our home life, where moments of joy mix with tension, and where we’re doing our best to get through with love, patience, and a whole lot of grace.

If constant togetherness has worn you down, you’ve struggled to find space for yourself, or dealt with communication breakdowns with your partner, this series is for you. Let’s dive into the realities of life behind closed doors.

The Pressure of Living with Friction in the Home: When Parenting and Work Collide

Parenting is a full-time job on its own, but add in the stress of working from home, homeschooling, and living with extended family, and it feels like the pressure builds every single day. For Matt and me, it’s like clockwork—every few weeks, we end up in a blowout argument that leaves us both emotionally drained. And honestly? Most of the time, it’s because we haven’t communicated properly or we’ve become overstimulated by the constant demands of parenting.

We’re together all the time. Both of us work from home, and the kids are homeschooled, so we rarely get a break from one another. For a lot of people, that might sound like paradise, but for us, it starts to feel like being on the edge of a pressure cooker that might blow at any moment. It’s not that we don’t love each other—trust me, we do. But after a while, the constant togetherness wears on you, and little things start to feel way bigger than they are.

When Constant Togetherness Feels Like Too Much

I don’t think either of us expected how intense the pressure would be when we’re together all the time. We both love being home, and honestly, I wouldn’t have it any other way. But when you’re always under the same roof, there’s a point where it can start to feel like there’s no escape—no moment to step back and breathe.

Living in someone else’s home only adds to the complexity. Matt and I have so many responsibilities, and while we’re grateful for the support of our extended family, it can get tough. We’re balancing work, parenting, and trying to maintain some sense of privacy, and honestly? It’s exhausting.

It’s hard to find that mental space to unwind, especially when it feels like everyone’s needs are constantly being piled on top of each other. I find myself wishing for just a little space to think.

Why Little Things Turn into Big Fights

Have you ever noticed how, when you’re stressed, the smallest things can send you into a tailspin? For us, when we’re both overwhelmed, friction builds. It’s usually nothing major—just small miscommunications that snowball into something bigger. What starts as a minor misunderstanding quickly turns into exhaustion, frustration, and us wondering how we got here.

It’s easy to let frustration take over when both of us are running on empty. We try to keep things light, but sometimes it feels impossible. Especially when we’re both overstimulated and in desperate need of downtime. Suddenly, something as small as a misplaced item or a misheard comment feels like the biggest issue in the world. The tension builds, and it feels impossible to break through.

The Pressure Cooker Effect: When Friction in the Home is Too Much to Handle

Sometimes, it feels like we’re living in a pressure cooker. The constant stress of balancing everything we do just piles up until it all comes out in one big release. It’s not something we plan for, but the tension builds, and before long, we’re both feeling the weight of it.

It’s tough because we both know we’re trying our best. But when communication breaks down (or I get too overwhelmed to communicate properly), frustration kicks in. The hardest part is realizing that friction isn’t a sign of failure. It’s a natural part of the process. What matters is how we handle ourselves during the friction. And I rarely handle myself with grace, which only makes things harder for Matt. Even knowing this doesn’t make it any easier when you’re in the middle of it.

Friction in the Home Isn’t a Sign of Failure: It’s Just Part of the Journey

One thing I’ve learned is that friction in the home is normal. I used to believe that arguments and frustration meant we were doing something wrong. But now, I realize that conflict simply comes with being in close relationships. It’s not a failure; it’s a sign that we’re living life together, and things won’t always go smoothly.

This is a lesson we’re still working on, but I’m getting there. The key to getting through these moments is understanding that stress and tension are temporary. They’re hard, yes, but they don’t define us. The real work is in how we come together afterward, how we talk it out, and how we make space for the rest and recovery we both need.

Matt is the type that just needs to talk things out then and there otherwise he can’t get anything done. While I’m the type that just needs you to leave me alone to process my own way and in my own time before I can talk about it. Which brings its own level of stress because clearly those are two very opposite ways of handling frustrations.

So, yeah—living with friction isn’t easy. But I’m learning that it’s part of the process of building a family and navigating life together. Communication, patience, and a little bit of grace go a long way. I just need to learn to give us much grace as I want from others.

Key Takeaways:

Understanding the emotional toll and working through it together is key to growing stronger as a couple and as a family.
Balancing parenting, work, and living with extended family can be a huge source of stress.
Constant togetherness, while often enjoyable, can lead to overstimulation and tension.
Miscommunication, or lack of communication, is often the root of big blowouts.
Friction in the home doesn’t mean you’re failing—it’s a natural part of family life.

Looking Ahead: Tackling Overstimulation in Parenting

Now that we’ve acknowledged the friction that naturally builds up in our home, the next step is figuring out how to manage the overstimulation that so often triggers these conflicts. In the next post, Part 2: The Impact of Overstimulation on Relationships, I’ll dive into how both Matt and I deal with the stress of constant demands—whether it’s from the kids, work, or just being together all the time. Understanding how overstimulation affects us as individuals and as a couple is crucial to finding better ways to manage these moments before they boil over.

So, stick around for the next part of this journey. I’m excited to share how we’re learning to recognize when we’ve hit our limit and how we can work through these stress points as a team. It’s not always easy, but we’re getting there one step at a time.

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Have you experienced similar friction in your home? How do you manage the tension that comes with constant togetherness? Share your thoughts and tips in the comments below—we’d love to hear how you navigate the challenges of family life!

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Why Improving as a Parent is More Important Than Being Perfect

February 25, 2025

Ever feel like the task of improving as a parent is as daunting as climbing Mount Everest? As a mom, it’s easy to get caught up in the chaos of everyday life. You know… like the endless laundry, the never-ending to-do lists, and the moments when everything feels out of control. There are days when I feel like I’m failing as a parent, or as the wife I want to be. There are moments when the weight of responsibility feels overwhelming, and the pressures of life leave me wondering if I’m doing enough. But despite it all, I am beyond grateful for my family.

In the midst of the beautiful mess, I realize that what truly matters is not perfection, but the love and commitment we share with one another. Life will throw challenges our way, and not every day will go as planned. We may face struggles we didn’t see coming, or bumps in the road that feel too big to handle. Yet, when I stop to reflect, I see that I am blessed beyond measure. Because every day, I have the chance to try again. I have the chance to be a little better than I was yesterday. And that, to me, is enough.

Improving as a Parent, One Step at a Time

There’s so much pressure to be the perfect parent, the perfect spouse, the perfect everything. But what I’ve come to realize is that perfection isn’t the goal—improving as a parent is. No matter how hard things get or how imperfect we may feel, what matters most is that we keep showing up. Every single day, we have the opportunity to improve, even just a little bit. Whether it’s being more patient with our kids, being more present for our spouse, or finding the courage to face the day with a positive attitude, it’s all about striving for progress, not perfection.

Today, like every Monday, I had a long to-do list. But every time I started on a task, my daughter had ten things she was dying to tell me—every two seconds. Needless to say, my list didn’t get done. But that’s okay! Why? Because she’ll remember that Mommy embraced the chaos, took the time to play along, and listened. I know this can’t happen all the time, especially with both Matt and I working from home. But the truth is, there’s nothing more important than pausing to engage with your kids. Some kids shy away from talking to their parents—mine, on the other hand, just can’t stop. Am I the only one?

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To me, this is a sign that we’re doing something right. The fact that my kids want to talk to us is proof that, despite all our imperfections, we’re showing up for them. It’s a reminder that, even with all the mistakes we make, we are growing and learning and doing everything we can to raise our kids with all the love we have for them.

When we slip up, when we make mistakes, it’s okay. It doesn’t erase all the love and care we give. What matters is that we get up the next day and try again. We may not be perfect, but we’re always growing. We’re always learning. And we’re always showing our family that no matter what life throws our way, we are committed to improving as a parent, a better spouse, and a better person—for them and for ourselves.

Why Embracing the Chaos is the Key to Improving as a Parent

Through the hard times, the tears, and the frustrations, there’s one constant that keeps me going—my family. My kids and my spouse—they are the reason I keep trying, the reason I keep striving to be better. We are a team, and even when we don’t get it right, the love we share makes everything worthwhile.

No, we don’t have it all figured out. We still make mistakes. But we have each other, and that’s something I’ll never take for granted. The beauty of family is in its imperfection—its messiness, its ups and downs—and through it all, we grow stronger together. The moments of laughter, the shared experiences, and the support we give each other make everything else fade away.

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Sometimes, you just need to sit there and focus on controlling your face as your child enthusiastically tells a story about something they learned. It can take them ten minutes to get to the simple point, and you’re doing your best to stay patient, nodding along, even when you have a million things on your mind.

The Power of Listening: A Simple Way to Improve as a Parent

I remember one afternoon when my daughter excitedly started talking about a show she had watched. She jumped from one detail to the next, revisiting parts of the show, asking questions that didn’t quite make sense, and pausing to make sure I was listening intently. I could see the excitement in her eyes, but all I could think was, please just get to the point already.

In those moments, it’s easy to get frustrated, but I’ve learned to remind myself that this is her way of connecting with me. And if it takes ten minutes for her to share a simple fact, so be it. The joy in her voice and the effort she puts into sharing what she learned is priceless.

As parents, we have the incredible privilege of shaping our children’s lives, but we also have the chance to teach them that life isn’t about being flawless. It’s about love. It’s about trying our best, learning from our mistakes, and always striving to be better, not just for ourselves, but for those we love.

The Importance of Showing Up Every Day

To all the moms and dads out there who feel like they’re not doing enough or who feel like the tasking of improving as a parent is beyond your ability, I want to say this: You are enough. You are doing the best you can with what you have. And that’s what matters. We’re all just trying to do our best, one day at a time. We may not be perfect, but as long as you’re trying, that’s all that matters. And that is something to be proud of.

So, no matter what life throws at you today or tomorrow, remember that tomorrow is a new day—a fresh start. You have the opportunity to be a better version of yourself than you were yesterday. And that’s all you need to focus on. You’re doing great. Keep going.

Conclusion: A Grateful Heart

I’m grateful for my family—for the chaos and the calm, for the laughter and the tears, for the lessons learned and the love shared. No matter what comes our way, we will face it together. Every day is a new opportunity to try again, to improve as a parent, and to love one another more deeply.

So, as I wake up each day, I’m determined to be a little better, to show up with a grateful heart and an open mind. For my family, for me, and for all the little moments that make life truly beautiful. Being not much of a morning person makes this battle twice as hard! But if I can do it, so can you!

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Join Us for New Adventures: Fox Friends and Podcast News

February 22, 2025

Hello, Friends! We’re thrilled to share some exciting adventures with you. We have updates on the Our Family Experiment podcast, as well as the launch of a new project that’s near and dear to our hearts—Fox Friends and Addison! As we continue to grow and navigate the many adventures of work, parenting, and creative projects, we are excited to bring you along on this journey with us.

New Adventures for the Podcast: A Fresh Bi-Weekly Schedule!

Life has been a whirlwind of adventures, and sometimes that means juggling a lot of different things. Between work, parenting, and our creative projects, we have found that the quality of our podcast episodes was starting to feel a bit stretched. We want to ensure we’re bringing you the best possible content. So after thoughtful consideration, we’ve decided to shift to a bi-weekly podcast schedule. This change will give us more space to focus on delivering the high-quality episodes you deserve, while balancing all the other exciting adventures in our lives. But don’t worry—the Our Family Experiment podcast isn’t going anywhere! We’re just adjusting our schedule to make sure we continue bringing you great content.

Addison’s Big Adventure: Fox Friends is Coming!

Now for the most exciting part: we’re embarking on a brand new adventure with the Fox Friends project! This has been a dream come true for Addison, who has always had a passion for creativity and storytelling. After years of dreaming about creating her own world of adventures, Addison is finally ready to share it with you. We are beyond proud of all the hard work Addison has put into bringing Fox Friends to life. We we can’t wait for you to join the adventure!

Here’s a sneak peek at what’s coming soon:

A 14-Page Hand-Drawn Coloring Book: Featuring the lovable Fox Friends characters, this coloring book will bring the adventures of the foxes right into your hands!
Fox Friends and Addison: The Forest Adventure Storybook: Available in multiple reading levels, this storybook will take kids on an exciting adventure in the forest.
Fox Friends-Branded Merchandise: Bring the adventures of Fox Friends into your home with our soon-to-be-released merchandise.
A Fully Animated YouTube Series: Watch as the Fox Friends characters embark on even more adventures in an animated series that will bring the stories to life!

This is just the beginning of the Fox Friends adventure, and we’re so excited for what lies ahead. With Addison’s creativity and passion leading the way, we’re confident that there are many more adventures to come.

How You Can Support Addison’s Adventure

You can support Addison and her adventure by subscribing to the project.Your encouragement and support mean the world to us. We are so grateful for everything you’ve done to be part of this journey.

Stay Tuned for More Adventures!

We’ve got more adventures to share with you, and can’t wait for you to join us on this exciting ride. Thank you for being part of the Our Family Experiment family. Your support makes all of our adventures possible, and we hope that we continue to inspire, bless, and help you along the way.

With love,
Denise and Matt

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Releasing the Burden: How Forgiveness Sets Us Free

February 19, 2025

Sometimes, life brings challenges that feel overwhelming—when we’re faced with hurtful actions or misunderstandings, it can be difficult to see a way forward. In these moments, forgiveness might feel impossible, and our emotions may be raw. But there’s one thing that can bring us peace: choosing forgiveness.

Last year, I struggled with truly forgiving and moving forward from a difficult situation. It was hard to release the pain and let go of the anger that weighed me down. But God, in His grace, used a recent experience to show me what forgiveness truly looks like. Through this situation, He helped me understand that forgiveness isn’t just a decision made once—it’s a continual choice, a daily act of letting go and choosing peace. This revelation is transforming how I approach healing, not only for myself but also for the well-being of my family.

Forgiveness is not about forgetting or excusing the wrong. It’s about finding freedom from the burden of anger and pain, and choosing to heal. It’s a decision that doesn’t always align with our feelings, but it’s a powerful step toward emotional peace—not only for ourselves but for our families, too.

The Burden of Holding On

When we hold onto hurt, it’s like carrying a heavy weight that only gets heavier over time. Anger, resentment, and confusion cloud our hearts and minds, preventing us from moving forward. Forgiveness doesn’t mean pretending the hurt didn’t happen. It simply means choosing to release the emotional weight that holds us back.

Forgiving is a step toward peace—not for anyone else, but for ourselves. By choosing to forgive, we take back control of our hearts, refusing to let the past dictate our future.

“For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.” (Matthew 6:14, KJV)

Forgiveness is a gift we give ourselves, as it allows us to move forward with a lighter heart. It’s not about making the hurt okay; it’s about choosing to let go of what we can’t change, and trusting that healing will come over time.

The Unseen Transfer of Hurt

When we carry the roots of unforgiveness and unresolved hurt, we can unintentionally pass those emotions onto others. It happens subtly—without us even realizing it. Hurt, anger, and bitterness, when left unchecked, can seep into our relationships, affecting how we interact with those closest to us. This is the essence of the saying “misery loves company.” If we’re not careful, our own unresolved pain can influence how we view others, how we respond to them, and how we treat them.

Whether it’s snapping at a loved one in frustration, projecting fear or distrust onto someone else, or withdrawing emotionally, the hurt we carry can create a ripple effect. What’s inside of us—when left unaddressed—can easily find its way out and impact those we care about most. It’s why choosing forgiveness is so vital. Not only does it free us, but it prevents the transfer of negativity, ensuring that we’re not unintentionally passing on the burden of our own pain to those around us.

Forgiveness Isn’t About Condoning the Wrong

It’s important to understand that forgiveness doesn’t mean condoning what happened or excusing anyone’s actions. Sometimes, the hurt we face is deep and complicated. But forgiveness isn’t about approving of the wrong; it’s about choosing not to let it define us.

It’s about choosing to heal, despite the hurt. By forgiving, we’re freeing ourselves from the grip that past actions can have on our peace. Forgiveness is about releasing bitterness, not for the person who hurt us, but for our own well-being. This decision doesn’t just benefit us individually—it benefits our family as well. When we choose to forgive, we clear the path for peace to return to our home and relationships.

The Danger of Waiting for an Apology

One of the hardest things about forgiveness is the temptation to wait for an apology—especially when the person who hurt us doesn’t recognize the wrong they’ve done. They may believe they were in the right or acted with good intentions, making it even more difficult to reconcile our feelings. But if we wait for an apology that may never come, we risk prolonging the pain and lack of peace in our own hearts and within our families.

The truth is, forgiveness isn’t conditional on someone else’s acknowledgment of their wrongdoing. While an apology can offer healing, it’s not necessary for us to forgive. In fact, waiting for it can hold us hostage to unresolved hurt, keeping us stuck in a cycle of bitterness and resentment.

Choosing forgiveness is an act of releasing the hold that another person’s actions have on our peace, regardless of their recognition of the hurt. Jesus didn’t wait for us to apologize before offering His forgiveness; He chose to forgive while we were still sinners, knowing that we could never earn or deserve it on our own. When we wait for an apology that may never come, we are not following Christ’s example. We are called to forgive, not because it’s deserved, but because it frees us to heal and move forward in peace—and for the well-being of our families.

The Strength in Forgiveness

Choosing forgiveness is not an easy task, and it doesn’t come naturally. But it’s one of the most empowering choices we can make. It’s an act of strength, not weakness. Through forgiveness, we let go of the power that the hurtful situation holds over us.

In the moments when we don’t know how to forgive, we can find strength in our faith.

“I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.” (Philippians 4:13, KJV)

Even in the hardest moments, He gives us the strength to move forward and make the choice to forgive. And when we choose to forgive, we create an environment of peace in our homes—a place where healing and love can flourish, where our families feel safe and supported, and where we are free to move forward together.

The Illusion of Time Healing All Wounds

There’s a common saying that “time heals all wounds.” While time may help calm the immediate rush of emotions and allow our hearts and minds to gain some distance from the pain, it doesn’t necessarily heal the wound. The scars may fade, but they remain, and beneath them lies the lingering pain that hasn’t been addressed.

The problem with waiting for time to heal or waiting for an apology is that it allows bitterness to take root. When we delay forgiveness, we give space for negative emotions to grow and entrench themselves deep within our hearts. Bitterness doesn’t just go away with time—it festers, slowly poisoning our peace and our ability to move forward. The longer we hold onto that bitterness, the more it can harden our hearts, making it even harder to forgive if and when the time finally comes.

Forgiveness doesn’t happen passively as time passes—it’s a conscious choice. Choosing to forgive is the act of addressing the wound and allowing God to bring true healing. It’s about acknowledging the hurt, feeling it, and then choosing to let go of the bitterness that would otherwise anchor us to the past. Forgiveness is the way to freedom, not time alone.

The Journey of Forgiveness

Forgiveness is not a single, sweeping decision—it’s an ongoing journey, one that requires intentional effort every day. There will be days when the weight of the hurt feels too heavy to bear, and forgiving may feel impossible. On those days, it’s important to remember that it’s okay to feel those emotions. What matters most is that we choose to forgive, even when the path feels unclear or difficult.

Forgiveness is a choice that we make over and over again—it’s not something we do once and forget about. Some days, we may need to forgive the same hurt multiple times, as the memories or feelings resurface. Each time we choose to forgive, we make the decision to release the pain and bitterness, and instead, allow healing to take place. It may take time, and it may require more effort than we initially anticipated, but with every conscious choice to forgive, we move a little closer to emotional peace.

In those moments when forgiveness feels particularly difficult, we can find strength in remembering that it’s not about being perfect or getting it right on the first try—it’s about being willing to keep choosing healing. And with each choice, we grow stronger, more resilient, and more at peace with ourselves, our families, and our loved ones.

What to Do When the Hurt Comes from Those You Love

When the hurt comes from people we are close to—family, friends, or those we consider our inner circle—the decision to forgive becomes even more complicated. It’s easy to feel that, if someone close to us has caused us pain, we should distance ourselves or even sever ties to protect ourselves. The temptation may be to block them on all fronts, cutting off communication and guarding our hearts from further harm. But is that the answer? What would Jesus do in these situations?

In the face of hurt caused by loved ones, forgiveness doesn’t necessarily mean embracing the hurtful behavior or tolerating abuse. It doesn’t mean allowing ourselves to remain in a toxic situation where we are continually wounded. But it does mean choosing to extend grace, even when it’s difficult. The question we should ask ourselves is not “How can I cut them out of my life?” but “How can I love them, even through the pain?”

Jesus’ response to those who hurt Him wasn’t to block them or shut them out. Instead, He extended forgiveness, even to those who betrayed, rejected, and crucified Him. “Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do.” (Luke 23:34, KJV) Jesus didn’t embrace the harm, but He embraced forgiveness. He chose to release the anger and let go of bitterness, while still loving His enemies and showing them grace.

In our own lives, the call is to do the same. Forgiveness doesn’t always require us to stay close to those who hurt us, especially if continuing a relationship would put us in harm’s way. Sometimes, forgiveness means setting healthy boundaries while choosing to release the anger or pain we carry. It’s possible to forgive without necessarily allowing access to our hearts in the same way as before.

Ultimately, the goal isn’t to embrace the person’s harmful actions, but to embrace the process of healing and to trust that God will work in both our hearts and theirs. Just as Jesus forgave those who didn’t understand the depth of their actions, we are called to forgive—not to pretend the harm never happened, but to free ourselves from the grip of resentment and bitterness, so we can walk in peace.

Choosing Forgiveness for the Well-Being of Your Family

Choosing forgiveness isn’t just about us as individuals—it’s about the health of our families, too. When we choose to forgive, we are creating a home environment of peace, safety, and emotional healing. Our children, spouses, and loved ones look to us for guidance in how to handle conflict and pain. When we model forgiveness, we teach them that healing is possible, even in the face of deep hurt.

Choosing to forgive allows us to preserve our family’s emotional well-being. It prevents bitterness from taking root, which can affect not only us but everyone in our household. Forgiveness clears the way for love to grow, for communication to improve, and for stronger relationships to be built.

The decision to forgive, especially when it’s hard, is an act of love that honors God and strengthens the bond within our families. It’s not about excusing the wrong, but about choosing peace—peace for ourselves and for those we love the most.

Conclusion

Forgiveness is a process, one that brings freedom and healing. It’s not about condoning what happened, but about choosing peace for ourselves and for our families. Each day is a step toward letting go of the past and embracing the future with an open heart.

As you walk your own journey, remember that forgiveness is a choice. It’s a choice that brings peace and healing, even when it feels impossible. With each step, we grow stronger in our ability to trust, heal, and find peace.

A Prayer for Forgiveness and Healing

Dear God,
We come to You with heavy hearts, seeking Your help to forgive and heal. Please give us the strength to release the pain we carry and replace it with peace. Help us to forgive, not because it’s easy, but because it brings freedom to our hearts and our families. Guide us in setting healthy boundaries while extending grace to others, as You have extended grace to us. Thank You for Your love and the peace You offer.
In Jesus’ name, Amen.

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Faith vs. Fear: Parenting With Courage When Life Feels Uncertain

February 12, 2025

Introduction: Parenting in a World of Uncertainty

Parenting has never been easy, but in today’s world, uncertainty seems to be around every corner. Whether it’s financial struggles, health concerns, world events, or just the everyday chaos of raising children, the weight of it all can feel overwhelming. It’s in these moments of doubt and fear that we have a choice: to let worry consume us or to lean into faith.

I won’t pretend I have this all figured out. Like so many parents, I have my share of sleepless nights, my moments of panic, and those days when I wonder if I’m doing anything right. But I’ve learned that faith is the anchor that keeps me steady, even when everything else feels out of control.

In this post, I want to share what it looks like to choose faith over fear in parenting, practical ways to strengthen our trust in God, and how to model that same faith for our children.

Why Faith Matters in Parenting

Parenting is full of unknowns, and if I let myself dwell on everything that could go wrong, I’d never find peace. Fear thrives in uncertainty—it sneaks in, whispering worst-case scenarios, convincing us that we’re not enough, that we’re failing, that we’re alone in the struggle. But faith? Faith reminds us that we don’t have to carry the weight of the unknown alone. We don’t have to have all the answers—we just need to trust the One who does.

The Bible reminds us in 2 Timothy 1:7 (KJV):
“For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.”

This verse is one I’ve heard all my life, but if I’m being honest, I still struggle to apply it. In a recent Sunday School lesson at our local church, we were discussing fear and all the ways it creeps in unnoticed—through our worries, our anxieties, our need for control. At one point, I turned to my husband and asked, “But how does someone just stop being fearful?” It wasn’t a rhetorical question; I genuinely wanted to know. Because if fear isn’t from God, why does it feel so impossible to shake?

Replacing Fear with Faith

That’s when it hit me—fear doesn’t just disappear on its own. It has to be replaced. And what replaces fear? Faith.

It’s what reminds us that even when we don’t see the full picture, God does. Faith is what keeps us standing when uncertainty tries to knock us down. It doesn’t mean we ignore reality or pretend we aren’t struggling. It means we trust that God is bigger than anything we face—that His strength will carry us through when our own strength isn’t enough.

Letting go of fear is a daily choice. Some days, I make that choice easily. Other days, fear wraps around my heart like a vine, and I have to fight to loosen its grip. But every time I choose faith—every time I surrender my worries to God—I feel lighter. The unknown may still be there, but I don’t have to be afraid of it. Because my faith tells me that no matter what comes next, God is already there.

Recognizing Fear-Based Parenting

If we’re not careful, fear can start shaping the way we parent. Here are some signs that fear is taking over:

Constantly worrying about the future – Instead of enjoying the present, we find ourselves stressing over things that might happen.
Overprotecting our kids – While safety is important, we can’t shield our children from every hardship.
Making decisions out of anxiety – If we’re saying “no” or making choices because we’re scared of what could go wrong, we may be letting fear lead.
Doubting our ability to parent well – Fear makes us feel unqualified, but faith reminds us that God equips us for this role.

Parenting from a place of fear is exhausting. It drains our joy and makes every decision feel heavier than it needs to be. The good news? We don’t have to stay stuck there.

How to Choose Faith Over Fear

Choosing faith in uncertain times is an active decision. Here are some ways I’ve learned to shift my mindset and lean on God rather than my fears:

1. Pray Through the Worries

When fear creeps in, my first instinct is to overthink. But I’m learning to replace that with prayer. Instead of spiraling into What if?, I’m choosing to pause and pray:

“Lord, I don’t know what’s ahead, but You do. Help me trust You with my children, my future, and my fears.”

Prayer isn’t about having perfect words—it’s about surrendering our worries to the One who can handle them.

2. Focus on What You Can Control

Faith doesn’t mean ignoring reality. It means doing what we can while trusting God with the rest. Instead of worrying about the unknown, focus on the things within your control:

Creating a loving home environment
Teaching your kids strong values
Making wise decisions based on faith, not fear

3. Speak Truth Over Your Family

Our kids are watching how we handle life’s uncertainties. If we constantly express fear, they’ll learn to be fearful. But if we show faith, they’ll learn to trust God in all circumstances.

A simple way to do this is by speaking truth over them. Remind them (and yourself!) of scriptures like:

Joshua 1:9 (KJV) – “Have not I commanded thee? Be strong and of a good courage; be not afraid, neither be thou dismayed: for the Lord thy God is with thee whithersoever thou goest.”
Psalm 56:3 (KJV) – “What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee.”

When fears arise, let’s be the voice that points our children back to faith.

4. Find Strength in Community

Parenting can feel lonely, but we’re not meant to do this alone. Surround yourself with friends, family, or a faith-based community that encourages and uplifts you. A simple conversation with someone who shares your values can remind you that you’re not in this by yourself.

5. Trust That God Loves Your Kids Even More Than You Do

As much as we love our children, God loves them infinitely more. He created them, knows their futures, and has plans for them that we can’t even imagine.

One of the hardest lessons I’ve had to learn as a mom is that my job isn’t to control every outcome—it’s to guide, love, and trust that God is working in my children’s lives.

Faith in Action: Teaching Our Kids to Trust God

It’s not enough for us as parents to have faith—we need to teach our children how to trust God, too.

Here are some simple ways to model faith for our kids:

Pray together – Show them what it looks like to turn to God with worries and gratitude.
Talk about answered prayers – Remind them of times when God has come through for your family.
Encourage scripture memorization – Even simple verses can help them develop their own faith.
Let them see your trust in God – If they hear you speak words of faith instead of fear, they’ll learn to do the same.

Raising children who trust God starts with showing them what faith looks like in everyday life.

Final Thoughts: Choosing Faith Every Day

Parenting in uncertain times isn’t easy, but we don’t have to do it alone. Fear will always try to creep in, but faith gives us the strength to face each day with hope and confidence.

When we choose faith over fear, we create a home filled with peace instead of panic, trust instead of anxiety, and love instead of worry.

So today, let’s take a deep breath, surrender our fears, and remind ourselves:

“God’s got this. And He’s got us, too.”

Keep the Faith!

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A Story That Helps Kids Navigate Big Feelings

As parents, we’re not the only ones who struggle with fear, uncertainty, and overwhelm—our kids do too. They might not always have the words to express it, but they feel it. The good news? We can help them process those big emotions in a way that’s healthy, comforting, and full of faith.

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