The Benefits of Family Game Night

January 2, 2025

In today’s busy world, finding quality time for family can feel like an uphill battle. Between work, school, and extracurricular activities, it’s easy to let the days slip by without truly connecting. That’s where family game night comes in. It’s more than just rolling dice or shuffling cards—it’s about creating memories, building relationships, and even sneaking in some life lessons along the way. So grab your favorite board game (or video game if you’re a nerd like us) and settle in as we explore why family game night is a tradition worth starting.

Strengthening Family Bonds Through Play

One of the greatest benefits of game night is how it brings everyone together. In our house, the laughter, groans over losing, and cheers of victory are some of the sweetest sounds. For just a few hours, distractions like work emails, school projects, and even screens take a backseat to genuine connection.

Playing games as a family helps bridge the age gap between parents and kids. Whether it’s toddlers stacking blocks in a simple game or teenagers strategizing their way through a game of Catan, the shared experience strengthens relationships. Even when the competitive spirit kicks in, the time spent together outweighs the outcome of the game.

Life Lessons Wrapped in Fun

What’s great about game night is that it’s like a secret classroom. Without even realizing it, kids are learning crucial life skills while they’re busy having fun.

Communication and Teamwork

Games that require teamwork teach kids how to communicate effectively, listen to others, and solve problems collaboratively. These skills are essential not just at home but also in school and later in life.

Emotional Resilience

Let’s be honest—nobody likes losing. But family game night provides a safe space to experience losing gracefully. Learning to cope with setbacks and cheering for someone else’s success are invaluable lessons wrapped in the guise of play.

This new-age notion of “everyone is a winner” might sound nice in theory, but in practice, it does little to prepare our kids for the realities of life. The truth is, that losing is a part of life, and shielding children from it only does them a disservice. When kids are taught that failure isn’t an option, they miss out on crucial opportunities to develop resilience, perseverance, and problem-solving skills.

Family game night is a perfect opportunity to show that losing isn’t the end of the world. It’s a chance to teach our kids that it’s okay to try, fail, and try again. Whether it’s a missed roll in Yahtzee or landing on Boardwalk in Monopoly with someone else’s hotel on it, these moments are valuable lessons in grit and grace.

When we model good sportsmanship and encourage our kids to do the same, we’re teaching them to celebrate the victories of others without diminishing their own efforts. That’s not just a game-night lesson—it’s a life lesson. Life doesn’t always hand out trophies for participation, but it does reward those who keep going, even when the odds are stacked against them. So, no, not everyone needs to “win” every time. Instead, we can focus on helping our kids win in the ways that matter most: through growth, character, and the joy of simply playing the game.

Strategic Thinking and Patience

Games like chess or Monopoly encourage kids to think several steps ahead while waiting their turn fosters patience. These moments of learning often happen naturally and make a lasting impact.

Creating Priceless Memories

In a world where schedules dominate, game night stands out as a time when we can just be together. As a mom, I treasure the moments when everyone’s laughter fills the room or when one of the kids pulls a surprising move that has everyone in stitches.

I remember one night when Addison convinced everyone to play charades. She acted out her favorite character in such a hilariously over-the-top way that we couldn’t stop laughing. Even Ethan, who tends to be more reserved, joined in and had us cracking up with his version of a zombie. Moments like that remind me why family time is so precious.

Tips for a Successful Family Game Night

Game night doesn’t have to be complicated to be successful. Here are some tips we’ve picked up over the years:

Pick the Right Games

Choose games that suit the ages and interests of your family members. For younger kids, simple games like Trouble or Candy Land work well. For older kids and adults, games like Scrabble, Ticket to Ride, or Exploding Kittens can be a hit.

Keep It Lighthearted

The goal is to have fun, not spark arguments. Encourage good sportsmanship and take breaks if things get too competitive.

Make It a Tradition

Choose a day of the week or month that works for everyone and stick to it. Having a regular game night gives everyone something to look forward to.

Snacks and Atmosphere

Turn game night into an event with fun snacks and a cozy atmosphere. Whether it’s popcorn, cookies, or a simple fruit platter, having treats on hand makes the evening even more enjoyable.

For us game night has also turned into pizza night and a movie night! A whole evening for just being together and having fun.

Expanding Beyond the Living Room

Game night doesn’t always have to involve traditional board or card games. Here are a few creative alternatives to keep things fresh:

Outdoor Games: When the weather’s nice, bring the fun outside with cornhole, ladder ball, or a scavenger hunt.
DIY Games: Let the kids get creative by making their own games. Not only does this keep them engaged, but it also sparks their imagination.
Video Game Night: Yes, even video games can be a bonding experience. Choose multiplayer games that require teamwork and include everyone in the fun.

Building a Family Tradition That Lasts

Family game night is more than a one-time event; it’s an opportunity to establish a meaningful tradition. As your kids grow up, these moments become the memories they’ll cherish—and possibly recreate with their own families one day.

Even on weeks when it feels like there’s no time, making the effort to sit down for a game can be the reset button your family needs. Whether it’s a quick card game before bedtime or a long Monopoly marathon on a Sunday afternoon, the benefits go far beyond the game itself.

Ready to Start Your Own Family Game Night?

If you’re looking for more ways to connect as a family, check out our other posts on creating meaningful family traditions and strengthening family bonds. Remember, it’s not about winning or losing—it’s about the time spent together and the memories made.

So, what are you waiting for? Dust off those board games, gather the family, and let the fun begin!

Faith and Family

Why Consistency Is Key in Parenting

December 31, 2024

Parenting isn’t for the faint of heart, is it? From sleepless nights to the whirlwind of emotions that come with raising kids, every day can feel like an experiment. But if there’s one thing I’ve learned as a mom, it’s that consistency in parenting is a game-changer. It’s so important it’s included in our very first podcast releasing January 6, 2025!

It’s not always easy, and I’ll be the first to admit that my husband Matt and I still struggle with it from time to time. But when we’ve leaned into consistency—whether it’s with routines, rules, or expectations—the results have been undeniable. It brings stability to our family life and, more importantly, helps our kids feel secure.

In this post, I’ll share why consistency matters, how it benefits your kids (and your sanity), and practical ways to stay consistent, even when life gets hectic.

What Does Consistency in Parenting Look Like?

Consistency doesn’t mean you have to become a drill sergeant or run your household like a boot camp. It’s about setting clear expectations and following through on them—whether that’s with discipline, daily routines, or how you react to your kids’ behavior.

Here’s a simple example from our home: Bedtime. If we let bedtime slide by even 30 minutes, it throws off the entire night and, honestly, the next morning too. Consistency in our bedtime routine—wind down time, brushing teeth, hugs & kisses, bed—gives our kids the structure they need to wind down and sleep peacefully.

It’s not about being perfect; it’s about being predictable.

Why Consistency in Parenting Matters

1. Kids Thrive on Routine

Have you ever noticed how much smoother the day goes when your kids know what to expect? Routines provide a sense of security and help kids navigate their world with confidence.

For example, when our daughter Addison knows that Sundays mean family dinner and time with her older girl cousins, she has something to look forward to. It’s a small thing, but it makes her feel grounded and safe.

Consistency has been a challenge for us over the years, but it’s something we’re striving to improve on every single day. The reason it’s been such a struggle is a long story, but in short, we’ve moved houses so often throughout our kids’ lives that it’s felt like hitting the reset button every time. Each move has meant establishing new routines, adjusting to a new environment, and trying to blend our family dynamic with the dynamics of living with extended family. It’s been tough, but we’re learning and growing together.

2. Consistency Builds Trust

When you’re consistent, your kids know they can rely on you. Whether it’s sticking to a rule or keeping your promise, consistency builds trust and strengthens your relationship.

There have been times when I’ve had to remind myself that “no” has to mean “no,” even when it’s easier to give in. It’s hard in the moment, but it’s worth it when your kids learn that your words have weight.

Just this past week, while we had family visiting for the holidays, Addison and Ethan couldn’t stop bickering. Tensions were high, and with so many people around, it was hard to intervene effectively. Finally, I had enough and told them both that if they didn’t start treating each other with kindness and stop yelling, there would be consequences. In our house, that usually means a spanking—though it’s not a common occurrence, it has been necessary on rare occasions.

They both responded with their “Yes, ma’am’s,” but not much later, chaos erupted again. It felt like I was watching it unfold in slow motion, powerless to stop it in time. I was right in the middle of preparing the last dish for Christmas dinner when I put the knife down, turned around, and without hesitation, said to Addison, “I told you there would be consequences for screaming at your brother. I promised.”

As much as I hated it, I stopped everything, took her to her room, and gave her a small spanking. And you know what? It worked. They stopped screaming at each other after that.

It wasn’t a moment I enjoyed, but it was a reminder that when we set boundaries and follow through, it helps create a sense of structure and accountability.

3. It Reduces Anxiety

Uncertainty can be overwhelming for kids, especially when they’re little. Clear expectations and consistent reactions help reduce their anxiety. They don’t have to guess how you’ll respond or whether the rules will change.

Matt and I have seen this firsthand with our son Ethan. When we’re consistent with screen time rules, he’s less likely to push boundaries because he knows exactly what’s allowed and what isn’t.

How to Be Consistent Without Feeling Overwhelmed

1. Start Small

Don’t try to overhaul your entire parenting style overnight. Focus on one area where consistency could make the biggest impact, like bedtime routines or screen time limits.

Matt was sharing with me just the other day about a book he’s been listening to called The Slight Edge. The concept of the book is simple yet powerful: it emphasizes how successful people don’t necessarily make giant, life-altering changes all at once. Instead, they focus on being consistent in the small, seemingly insignificant things. Over time, these small, consistent actions create a ripple effect, ultimately building a strong foundation for a better future.

It’s not about perfection or big wins—it’s about the daily habits that may feel mundane or even trivial in the moment. Brushing your teeth, exercising for just 15 minutes a day, choosing water over soda—all of these small decisions compound over time, leading to big results. And the same principle applies to parenting.

For example, consistently setting aside 10 minutes each day to talk with your child or sticking to a bedtime routine might not feel groundbreaking in the moment. But over time, these consistent actions build trust, security, and stronger family bonds. The Slight Edge teaches us that success—whether in parenting, career, or personal goals—isn’t about the big leaps; it’s about the small steps we take every single day.

Hearing Matt talk about the book was a reminder for me to look at my own parenting through that lens. It’s easy to get caught up in wanting to fix everything all at once, especially when chaos seems to take over. But the truth is, real change comes from those small, intentional actions we take consistently. It’s a humbling realization, but also a hopeful one. Because when you focus on the little things, you’re not just getting through the day—you’re planting seeds for a brighter future for yourself and your family.

2. Communicate Clearly

Make sure your kids know what the rules and expectations are. Use age-appropriate language and explain the “why” behind your decisions.

For example, we’ve told our kids that limiting screen time isn’t about punishment—it’s about making sure they have time for other activities, like playing outside or doing crafts.

Don’t get me wrong—there are times when we give instructions and the kids, not liking what they hear, ask, “Why?” And let’s be honest, in those moments when we’re in the middle of our own thoughts or feeling overstimulated, we might default to the age-old response: “Because I said so.” And you know what? That’s okay… sometimes.

But most of the time, kids need to understand why we’re asking them to do—or not do—something. Why is that important? Well, because they’re still learning about life, how things work, and how to navigate the world. Curious minds are strong minds. And when we take the time to explain, we’re encouraging that curiosity, which is a critical part of their development.

Teaching them to question and seek understanding helps them grow into independent thinkers. It also sets the stage for a future where they don’t just accept everything at face value. Without that curiosity, they may grow up believing everything they hear simply because “someone said so.” So yes, sometimes “because I said so” is enough, but most times, it’s worth pausing to give them the why they’re searching for.

3. Involve Your Partner

Consistency works best when both parents are on the same page. Sit down with your partner and agree on the rules, consequences, and routines you want to prioritize.

Matt and I didn’t always do this well. In the early days of parenting, we’d accidentally send mixed messages to the kids because we hadn’t communicated with each other first. Now, we make it a point to have regular “parent meetings” to stay aligned.

Tell me your kids haven’t learned to work the system of going to mom, but if she says no, go to dad? Yeah… name me a kid who hasn’t tried that at least once. Be on the SAME PAGE!

4. Be Flexible When Needed

Consistency doesn’t mean rigidity. Life happens—there will be days when routines go out the window, and that’s okay. The key is to get back on track as soon as possible.

One summer, we took a last-minute road trip that completely derailed our usual schedules. Instead of stressing, we embraced the chaos and returned to our normal routines once we got home.

Common Challenges (and How to Overcome Them)

1. Feeling Like the Bad Guy

It’s tough to enforce rules when your kids are upset about them. But remember, consistency is an act of love. You’re teaching your kids important life skills, even if they don’t appreciate it in the moment.

2. Burnout

Parenting is exhausting, and staying consistent can feel like just one more thing on your plate. Give yourself grace, and don’t be afraid to lean on your partner, friends, or even a parenting group for support.

3. Pushback from Kids

Kids will test limits—it’s part of their job description. Stay calm, stand your ground, and remind yourself that consistency now will pay off in the long run.

Practical Tips for Creating Rules and Routines

Use Visual Aids: A simple chart or calendar can help younger kids remember their daily routines.
Set Clear Consequences: Be specific about what will happen if rules aren’t followed, and STICK TO IT!
Celebrate Wins: Acknowledge when your kids follow the rules or stick to a routine. Positive reinforcement goes a long way.

The Long-Term Benefits of Consistency in Parenting

When you’re consistent, you’re not just making life easier today—you’re setting your kids up for success in the future. They’ll grow up with a strong sense of responsibility, self-discipline, and respect for others.

Parenting is hard work, in fact, the hardest job on the planet! But the effort you put into being consistent will pay off in the form of confident, well-adjusted kids.

Moving Forward Together

Consistency in parenting isn’t about being perfect—it’s about showing up, day after day, with love and intention. It’s about teaching your kids that they can trust you and that they are safe in the structure you provide.

So, parents, let’s commit to being consistent, not just for our kids but for ourselves. The journey might be challenging, but the rewards are worth it.

Need more parenting tips? Check out our post on 10 Tips for Strengthening Family Bonds.

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Building Healthy Boundaries with Your Kids for Stronger Family Relationships

December 29, 2024

Building Healthy Boundaries with Your Kids

Parenting is one of the most fulfilling yet challenging roles you’ll ever take on. One of the keys to fostering a harmonious family dynamic is setting clear and healthy boundaries with your kids. These are essential for teaching respect, building trust, and helping your children feel secure—all while preserving your own sanity.

In this post, we’ll explore why healthy limits matter, practical ways to establish them, and the long-term benefits for your family.

Why Setting Limits Matters

Healthy limits go beyond rules—they’re about fostering an environment where everyone feels valued, respected, and safe. They provide a clear framework for acceptable behavior, helping to reduce misunderstandings and prevent unnecessary conflict.

Building a Foundation for Respect
When kids understand what’s expected, they learn to respect others’ space, time, and emotions. This understanding helps them build better relationships with peers, teachers, and family members.

Encouraging Emotional Security
Clear expectations give children a sense of safety. When they know their boundaries and what to expect, they feel confident navigating the world. Structure isn’t restrictive—it’s a way of showing love and care.

Fostering Independence
Limits help kids develop self-discipline and decision-making skills. They learn to manage their emotions, responsibilities, and time—skills that will serve them for a lifetime.

Reducing Family Conflict
Without clear guidelines, misunderstandings can escalate into arguments. A structured approach helps resolve issues calmly and respectfully, maintaining peace at home.

How to Establish Healthy Boundaries with Your Kids

1. Set Clear Expectations

Children thrive on clarity. Instead of vague rules, be specific. For example:

Vague: “Be good at dinner.”
Clear: “At dinner, we sit at the table, use polite words, and wait for everyone to finish eating.”

2. Model the Behavior You Want to See

Children learn by example. If you want them to respect limits, demonstrate them yourself.

Respect personal space by knocking before entering their rooms.
Limit your own screen time if you expect them to do the same.

3. Involve Your Kids in the Process

When children contribute to setting family expectations, they’re more likely to respect them. Sit down together and discuss:

Why certain rules are important.
Consequences for breaking them.

For instance, if bedtime is a recurring issue, involve your child in creating a routine that works for both of you.

4. Use Positive Reinforcement

Celebrate when your kids follow the rules. Acknowledge their efforts with praise or small rewards, such as:

“You finished your chores on time—great job! Let’s pick a movie for family night.”

Positive reinforcement builds motivation and encourages continued cooperation.

5. Enforce Consequences Calmly

When rules are broken, consistent consequences are key. Avoid yelling or shaming—use a calm, firm tone to explain why the consequence is necessary.

Example: “You didn’t finish your homework, so no tablet time tonight. Let’s try again tomorrow.”

6. Be Flexible When Necessary

While consistency is important, there are times when flexibility is essential. If your child is having a rough day or facing unexpected stress, adjust the rules temporarily to show compassion.

Practical Examples for Common Situations

Screen Time

Technology often causes tension in families. To create balance:

Set specific screen time hours, such as after homework is done.
Create device-free zones during meals or in bedrooms.

Respecting Personal Space

Teach kids to knock before entering rooms or ask permission before borrowing items. Lead by example to reinforce this habit.

Chores and Responsibilities

Assign age-appropriate tasks that contribute to the household. Explain how their efforts make a difference for the entire family.

Balancing Family Time and Alone Time

While family time is crucial, everyone needs personal space to recharge. Encourage kids to communicate when they need quiet time and respect those boundaries.

Challenges in Maintaining Healthy Boundaries

Resistance from Kids

Children may test the limits to see if you’ll hold firm. Stay calm and consistent, reiterating the importance of the rules.

Guilt as a Parent

Enforcing rules can feel tough, especially if it upsets your kids. Remember, providing structure is an act of love that helps them grow into responsible adults.

Inconsistency

Life gets busy, and it’s easy to let things slide. Acknowledge when this happens and reestablish the rules as soon as possible.

The Benefits of Establishing Healthy Boundaries

Healthy limits benefit your family in countless ways:

Improved Communication: Clear expectations foster open dialogue.
Stronger Relationships: Mutual respect strengthens family bonds.
Life Skills: Kids learn essential skills like time management, respect, and accountability.
Reduced Stress: Knowing the limits provides a sense of security for everyone.

Moving Forward as a Family

Establishing healthy boundaries with your kids is an ongoing process that evolves as your family grows. It requires patience, clear communication, and a willingness to adapt.

Remember, these limits aren’t about control—they’re about creating a nurturing environment where everyone can thrive. By fostering respect, trust, and structure, you’re laying the foundation for a stronger, happier family.

Looking for more tips to strengthen your family bond? Check out our post on 10 Tips for Strengthening Family Bonds.

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Dealing with Parental Guilt: Letting Go of the Perfect Parent Myth

December 27, 2024

Dealing with Parental Guilt and Letting Go

Parenthood is one of the most rewarding journeys, but it also comes with its fair share of challenges—one of the biggest being parental guilt. Whether it’s feeling like you’re not spending enough time with your kids, questioning a disciplinary decision, or comparing yourself to other parents, guilt can creep in and weigh you down.

The good news is that you’re not alone. Guilt is something every parent faces, but it doesn’t have to control your parenting journey. Let’s explore why guilt happens, how it affects us, and most importantly, practical ways to let it go and focus on what truly matters.

Understanding Parental Guilt

Guilt is an emotion all parents experience at some point. It often stems from high expectations, societal pressure, or our own inner voices telling us we’re falling short. Here are some common examples you might relate to:

You forgot to pack their lunch for school.
You missed their big game or recital because of a work deadline.
You snapped at them after a long and stressful day.

These moments are inevitable, but they don’t define your worth as a parent. Guilt can actually be a sign of how much you care. However, when left unchecked, it can spiral into feelings of inadequacy or even lead to burnout.

The Impact of Comparison on Guilt

One of the biggest contributors to parental guilt is comparison. It’s easy to look at other parents on social media or in your community and feel like you’re not measuring up. But here’s the truth: what you see is only a highlight reel.

Every family has its struggles, and comparing yourself to others only magnifies feelings of guilt. Instead, focus on your unique strengths and what works best for your family.

How to Let Go of the Guilt: Practical Tips

1. Reframe Your Perspective

Instead of viewing guilt as a sign of failure, see it as a reminder of your love for your kids. Acknowledge the feeling, but don’t let it consume you.

For example, if you missed a school event, remind yourself of the countless other ways you’ve shown up for your child. Focus on the bigger picture rather than one isolated moment.

2. Embrace Imperfection

Perfection doesn’t exist in parenting, and chasing it will only leave you exhausted. Embrace the fact that mistakes are a natural part of the journey.

For instance, if you forget something important, own up to it. Apologizing and taking responsibility can teach your children valuable lessons about accountability and resilience.

3. Focus on Quality Over Quantity

It’s not about how much time you spend with your kids but the quality of that time.

Turn off distractions and be fully present during the moments you share. Whether it’s a family game night, bedtime stories, or a quick chat about their day, these intentional interactions leave lasting impressions.

4. Practice Self-Compassion

Would you criticize a fellow parent for making the same mistakes you do? Of course not. So why hold yourself to impossible standards?

Treat yourself with the same kindness you’d extend to a friend. Remind yourself that you’re doing the best you can, and that’s enough.

5. Communicate with Your Kids

Open communication is a powerful tool for building trust and alleviating guilt.

If you feel guilty about losing your temper, apologize and explain why. For example: “I’m sorry for yelling earlier. I was feeling overwhelmed, but that’s no excuse. Let’s talk about what happened and how we can handle it better next time.”

This not only models accountability but also shows your kids that it’s okay to express emotions in a healthy way.

Additional Strategies for Letting Go of Guilt

Create a Support Network
Parenting wasn’t meant to be done alone. Surround yourself with people who uplift you and remind you of your worth. This could be fellow parents, close friends, or even online communities where you can share experiences and advice.
Celebrate Small Wins
Instead of dwelling on what you didn’t do, focus on the small victories. Did you get the kids to school on time? Did you share a laugh over dinner? These moments matter more than you realize.
Focus on Gratitude
Shift your perspective by focusing on what you’re grateful for in your parenting journey. Gratitude can transform guilt into appreciation for the moments you’ve been given.
Teach Your Kids About Grace
When you extend grace to yourself, you teach your kids to do the same—for themselves and for others. This creates a culture of understanding and forgiveness in your home.

The Impact of Letting Go of Guilt

Letting go of guilt allows you to be more present and intentional in your parenting. It clears the emotional clutter, giving you space to focus on what truly matters.

Your kids don’t need you to be perfect—they need you to be present. By releasing unrealistic expectations, you’ll find greater joy in the little moments and build stronger, more authentic connections with your children.

The Ripple Effect on Your Family

When you let go of guilt, you also create a healthier environment for your children. They learn that it’s okay to make mistakes, as long as they learn and grow from them. This mindset builds resilience and emotional intelligence, equipping them to navigate life’s challenges with confidence.

Moving Forward as a Parent

Dealing with parental guilt is an ongoing process, but every step you take to let it go makes a difference. Parenting isn’t about being perfect; it’s about showing up, learning, and growing alongside your children.

Need more support? Check out our post on 10 Tips for Strengthening Family Bonds for more ideas on creating meaningful connections with your kids.

Let’s embrace progress over perfection—together.

Family Bonding

How to Foster Open Communication with Your Kids: Parent-to-Parent Guide

December 25, 2024

Open communication is the foundation of a strong family bond, but as every parent knows, it’s far from easy. Navigating tough conversations and creating a safe space for kids to express themselves is a challenge we all face. That’s why we’re here to share practical, parent-to-parent tips for fostering honest dialogue within your family.

At Our Family Experiment, we pride ourselves on being open, raw, and honest with our readers and listeners. So, let me be real with you—communicating with kids doesn’t always go smoothly. Just last night, I tried to talk to Addison about something she needed help with, and it did not go well. She wouldn’t listen, got an attitude, and I ended up losing my cool and yelling at her.

Later, after stepping away from the situation, I realized I had failed—miserably. Swallowing my pride, I sat down with her to explain why I got upset and how we could avoid this in the future. It wasn’t easy, especially because my parents didn’t do that kind of thing when I was growing up. This wasn’t an action based on experience—it was based on what I wish had been done for me as a child.

I’ve heard baby boomers say over and over how anxiety attacks, panic attacks, or neurodivergence “weren’t an issue back in their day.” My goodness, just because something wasn’t named or talked about doesn’t mean it didn’t exist. Now, generations since that era are trying to navigate and name the challenges they’ve faced as adults and parents.

That said, as a Millennial with iGen kids, I’ve noticed some people take it to the other extreme. They over-excuse bad behavior, slap a diagnosis on it, and use it as a justification: “This is just how I am because I have this medical issue.” Don’t get me wrong—many people truly need understanding and medical support. But not everything requires a pill or a diagnosis. Sometimes, kids just need good old-fashioned discipline. On that one point, I can agree with the baby boomers.

Finding the balance between understanding, discipline, and open communication isn’t easy, but it’s worth striving for. Let’s figure it out together.

Why Open Communication Matters

As parents, we often wish we could read our kids’ minds. But the reality is, trust and open communication take time to build. Creating a safe space for your kids to share their thoughts and feelings helps them feel valued and understood. This foundation of trust not only strengthens your relationship but also equips them to face life’s challenges with confidence.

Matt and I have had countless conversations with our kids, trying to draw out their feelings—sometimes even about us. Hearing their honest thoughts about how we’ve handled a situation or made them feel is never easy. It’s a tough conversation for everyone involved. The kids may feel scared to share something harsh, worried about being ridiculed or punished for their feelings. Meanwhile, we parents have to sit there, biting our tongues, doing everything we can not to react defensively to the information we’re hearing.

For someone like me, who learns best by seeing something done, this makes parenting an even bigger challenge. There’s no example to follow, no perfect guide to refer to. And that’s why it truly feels like an experiment—an ever-evolving, humbling, and rewarding one.

5 Parent-to-Parent Tips for Encouraging Open Communication

1. Create a Safe Space for Honest Conversations

Children are more likely to open up when they feel safe and free from judgment.

Set aside regular one-on-one time to talk with each child.
Avoid interrupting or dismissing their feelings.
Use phrases like, “I’m here to listen, not judge.”

Parent to parent, we know that fostering open communication takes practice, but the effort is absolutely worth it when your kids feel safe sharing their thoughts with you. Our children should feel secure coming to us with their feelings, questions, or concerns. If they don’t, they may eventually turn to other sources for comfort or develop unhealthy coping mechanisms to manage their emotions. Creating that sense of safety now lays the foundation for trust and resilience as they grow.

Am I a licensed professional? Nope. I’m just a mom speaking from experience—someone who was once a child herself and is now navigating the adventure of raising her own.

2. Model the Behavior You Want to See

Kids learn by example, so show them what open communication looks like:

Share your own thoughts and feelings in age-appropriate ways.
Admit when you’re wrong and apologize sincerely.
Discuss family decisions openly to show respect for everyone’s input.

From one parent to another, modeling vulnerability can feel uncomfortable, but it shows your kids that it’s okay to be human. We may never receive apologies for the things that still sting when we think about them. But if our childhoods have taught us anything, it’s this: there are lessons in what we didn’t appreciate, and those lessons drive us to do better for our own children.

3. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Instead of questions that prompt yes-or-no answers, try these:

“What was the best part of your day?”
“How do you feel about what happened at school today?”
“What’s something you’re excited or worried about?”

Open-ended questions invite deeper conversations and create opportunities for your kids to express themselves freely, without fear of giving the “wrong” answer. Instead of shutting down dialogue with simple yes-or-no responses, these questions encourage them to explore their thoughts and feelings. It’s not just about getting them to talk; it’s about showing them that their opinions, fears, and dreams matter.

Questions like, “What was the best part of your day?” or “How do you feel about what happened at school today?” signal to your kids that you’re genuinely interested in their experiences and willing to listen without judgment. This approach fosters a sense of safety and trust, allowing them to open up more readily over time.

It also strengthens your connection as a family. When kids know they’ll be heard, they’re more likely to share not just the good but also the challenges they’re facing. This can lead to meaningful problem-solving discussions and teach them the value of open communication in all areas of life.

When it comes to our kids, Ethan is the tough nut to crack. Getting him to open up feels like solving a puzzle with missing pieces. Addison, on the other hand, is the complete opposite—she’ll happily share every thought and feeling, whether you asked for them or not!

4. Make Time for Family Meetings

Set up regular family meetings to discuss feelings, plans, or challenges as a group.

Keep the tone light and supportive, not punitive.
Encourage everyone, including you, to share their thoughts.
End on a positive note, such as celebrating small wins or planning a fun family activity.

Family meetings show your kids that their voices matter, creating a space where everyone feels valued and strengthening the parent-to-child connection.

We don’t have family meetings as often as we should, but when we do, they’re incredibly helpful! That said, I have to admit—hearing the words “Family Meeting” instantly takes me back to my childhood. For me, those words usually meant mom and dad had reached their limit, and it was time for everyone to sit down and hear about how bad we’d been and how we needed to do better. It wasn’t an open conversation; it was a lecture. Our thoughts and feelings weren’t always welcomed, and if they were, it often felt like our thoughts and feelings were invalid. To be honest, this is probably why I (Denise) have such a hard time communicating with Matt in intense situations.

I want to be clear—I’m not trying to paint a picture of a terrible childhood. My parents did their best, as all parents do. I simply want to point out that all parents, including Matt and me, make mistakes. Sometimes those mistakes are small, and we learn from them quickly. Other times, we don’t realize they were mistakes until it’s too late.

To be fair, there’s a time and place for that kind of family meeting. Matt and I have had to hold those tough conversations ourselves, and they serve an important purpose. But the memory of those “family meetings” from my own childhood comes with a lot of negative connotations. That’s why we aim to create a different kind of family meeting for our kids—one that invites open dialogue, mutual respect, and understanding, rather than fear or frustration. It’s not perfect, but it’s a step toward fostering the kind of connection we want to have as a family.

Matt also dealt with similar situations with his parents growing up. I can’t speak for him because I wasn’t there. But I was there to witness some of the ways his younger sister was parented. And it wasn’t always pretty. I’ve even been on the receiving end of correction from Matts mom early on in our marriage. Just constant reminders of how I don’t want to act toward my kids. But again, as I admitted early on, I too fail at times.

5. Be Patient and Consistent

Building open communication takes time. Some days your kids may talk nonstop, and other days they may give one-word answers.

Stay consistent in your efforts to communicate.
Celebrate the small moments when they open up.
Let them know you’re always there, no matter what.

Patience and consistency are the secret ingredients to fostering trust and strengthening family bonds. I know how cliché that sounds—trust me, I rolled my eyes at myself as I wrote that. Because, let’s be real, some days it’s easy to be patient and consistent, and other days it’s like calmly explaining algebra to a tween who’s dramatically proclaiming they’ll never use math in real life.

The Benefits of Open Communication

When open communication becomes part of your family dynamic, you’ll notice positive changes:

Your kids will feel more confident sharing their thoughts and emotions.
Family conflicts will be easier to resolve.
You’ll build a deeper understanding of each other, creating a stronger family bond.
You’re kids will actually want to spend time with you. Without force!

Conclusion: Building Stronger Bonds

From our chaotic parenting woes to yours, fostering open communication with your kids is a journey, not a destination. By creating a safe space, modeling openness, asking meaningful questions, and staying consistent, you’re building a foundation of trust that will last a lifetime. If you’ve ever watched a foundation being laid, it something that takes time, patience, knowledge, skills, and at times trial and error. It isn’t something that happens over night. So as you put these thoughts into practice, don’t get dissapointed if you don’t see immediate results!

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Creating Peace at Home: Turning Your House into a Sanctuary for Your Family

December 21, 2024

Introduction

Home should be more than just the place where we sleep, eat, and juggle the chaos of daily life—it should feel like a sanctuary. As parents, Matt and I know how challenging it can be to create peace at home, especially with kids, work, and an endless to-do list. But we’ve also learned that with a few intentional changes, it’s possible to build a space that feels calming, welcoming, and restorative for the whole family.

In this post, we’re sharing practical tips and insights from our own journey to make our home a place of peace. From managing the noise and clutter to creating moments of connection, these small changes can have a big impact on the way your family feels at home.

1. Start with Decluttering the Physical Space

It’s hard to feel peaceful when you’re surrounded by piles of stuff. One of the biggest things Matt and I have learned is that clutter isn’t just visual—it creates mental and emotional stress too.

We don’t have a Pinterest-perfect house by any means, but we’ve worked on minimizing the chaos by regularly decluttering. A great place to start is with the common areas: the kitchen, living room, and entryway. Once those spaces feel more open and organized, it’s amazing how much lighter the whole house feels.

💡 Practical Tip: Involve the kids in decluttering by turning it into a fun challenge. Who can fill a box of items to donate the fastest?

2. Prioritize Moments of Connection

Peace at home isn’t just about how a house looks—it’s about how it feels. And nothing creates a sense of calm like meaningful family connections. For us, this means carving out intentional time to connect with our kids, even if it’s just over dinner or playing video games with the kids after their schoolwork is completed.

Sometimes it’s as simple as turning off the TV and really listening to what the kids are saying. Other times, it’s planning a family movie night or taking a walk together. These small moments create a sense of belonging and stability that helps everyone feel more grounded.

3. Create Personal Spaces for Everyone

While we value togetherness, we’ve also learned that everyone needs a little personal space to recharge. For Matt, it’s his desk; for me, it’s a cozy corner with a comfy chair where I can game or work. The kids also have their own spaces where they can read, play, or unwind after a long day.

Having a designated spot for each family member to retreat to can work wonders for creating peace at home. It helps everyone recharge and prevents the whole family from getting overwhelmed by constant togetherness.

4. Add Calming Elements to Your Home

Sometimes, creating peace at home is as simple as changing the atmosphere. Adding soft lighting, calming scents, and cozy textures can completely transform the feel of a space.

We recently added a wax warmer to Matt’s desk that looks like a tiny fireplace, and it’s been such a simple but effective way to create a relaxing vibe. Whether it’s lighting a candle, playing soft background music, or investing in a fluffy throw blanket for the couch, these small touches make a big difference.

5. Establish a Routine That Works for Your Family

Chaos often sneaks into our home when there’s a lack of structure. While we’re not sticklers for a rigid schedule, having a flexible routine helps keep the day-to-day manageable and creates a sense of predictability for everyone.

For example, we’ve established simple morning and evening routines that help set the tone for the day and wind everyone down at night. Knowing what to expect takes the guesswork out of daily life and creates a foundation of peace.

💡 Practical Tip: Start small. Even a 5-minute family check-in at the end of the day can help everyone feel more connected and calm.

6. Model Peaceful Behavior

We’ve learned the hard way that our kids mirror what they see. If Matt and I are constantly stressed, snapping at each other, or rushing from one task to the next, that energy trickles down to the kids, fast.

Instead, we’ve been trying to model calm behavior (as much as possible). This means taking a breath before responding, using kind tones even when we’re frustrated, and showing the kids how we handle stress in healthy ways.

7. Celebrate the Small Wins

Creating peace at home is a process, not an overnight transformation. Celebrate the little victories along the way, whether it’s a decluttered corner, a smooth bedtime routine, or a day when everyone manages to stay calm and connected.

We’ve found that celebrating these small wins helps us stay motivated and reminds us why we’re making these changes in the first place—to create a home where everyone feels loved, supported, and at peace.

Conclusion: Building Peace at Home Takes Intention

Creating a home that feels like a sanctuary doesn’t mean having a perfectly decorated house or a stress-free life. It’s about making intentional choices that bring calm, connection, and joy into your space.

By decluttering, prioritizing family time, and adding little touches of calm, you can transform your house into a place where your family can recharge and grow together. Remember, peace at home isn’t about perfection—it’s about creating an environment where everyone feels safe, loved, and at ease.

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What I Wish I Knew About Parenthood Before Becoming a Parent

December 19, 2024

Parenthood 101

Parenthood is a wild, beautiful, and often unpredictable journey. Before becoming a parent, I had plenty of expectations about what raising children would look like. Some of those expectations were accurate, but most were, well, completely off. Nothing fully prepares you for the emotional rollercoaster, the sleepless nights, or the indescribable joy that comes with the journey.

If I could go back in time and have a conversation with my pre-parent self, there’s so much I’d want to share—lessons learned through mistakes, unexpected triumphs, and the beautiful messiness of parenthood. While it’s true that no one gets it perfect, having some insights beforehand could have made the transition a little smoother.

Before writing this post, I sat down with Matt and asked him what he wished he had known before becoming a dad. Together, we reflected on the lessons we’ve learned along the way. In this post, I’m sharing what both Matt and I wish we had known about parenthood before becoming parents—from the sleepless nights to the everyday joys—and how this journey has shaped our lives in ways we never imagined.

1. Parenthood Redefines Exhaustion (and Joy)

When I asked Matt about the biggest adjustment to sleepless nights and long days, his answer was straightforward: “Having to provide for a kid who couldn’t do anything for himself.” For me, it was the constant worry that I was doing everything wrong or making all the wrong decisions. I quickly learned to trust my instincts when Ethan developed pyloric stenosis at just six weeks old—a moment that taught me the importance of listening to my gut as a parent.

The responsibility of caring for a newborn can be overwhelming. Knowing that someone is entirely dependent on you is both humbling and exhausting. But alongside the hard work comes moments of joy that make it all worthwhile. Watching your child grow, smile, and eventually give you a hug are the priceless moments that redefine what joy means in parenthood.

2. You Don’t Have to Have It All Figured Out

Matt thought he’d naturally be great at giving advice to his kids. Instead, he’s discovered that it’s something he’s still learning. “Kids don’t always want answers,” he admitted, “and sometimes, I’m not sure what the right advice is.”

We often tell our kids, “We’ve never been the parents of an 11-year-old and an 8-year-old before. Have patience with us as we figure it all out.” And that’s exactly how we came up with the name for our blog and podcast. Parenthood really is one big experiment—trial, and error, and everything in between. Sorry, kids!

Parenthood has shown us that it’s okay not to have all the answers. What matters is being present, listening, and showing your kids that you’re willing to learn and grow alongside them. And when we make mistakes… we have gotten pretty good at letting them know and when necessary, apologizing for making said mistakes.

We explore this topic in much greater detail in our eBook, Parenting Without a Playbook: Grace, Not Perfection. And the best part? We’re giving it away for free to our subscribers! Just enter your email below, hit subscribe, and we’ll send the PDF straight to your inbox shortly after.

3. The Little Things Matter the Most

When I asked Matt about moments that make him feel like he’s doing something right as a dad, his answer was simple: “When they come up and hug me, or I see Ethan open a door for somebody.” I’d have to agree with this one 100%! I love it when the kids come to sit next to me for cuddles or just to ask me how my day is going or how I’m feeling.

Those small acts of kindness and love are a testament to the values we’re instilling in our kids. Watching them demonstrate empathy and respect in their everyday lives is one of the most rewarding parts of parenthood. It’s a reminder that the little things—like modeling kindness and giving hugs—really do make a difference.

4. Comparison is the Thief of Joy

Like many parents, Matt admitted that he still compares himself to other dads. “I still do,” he said. And honestly, what parent doesn’t?

It’s easy to fall into this trap, especially when social media often highlights picture-perfect parenting moments. But parenthood isn’t a competition. It’s about doing what works best for your family and focusing on the values you want to instill in your kids. Letting go of comparison is an ongoing process, but it’s worth the effort for your peace of mind and your family’s happiness.

5. Your Identity Will Shift—and That’s Okay

When I asked Matt how becoming a dad changed him, his answer was straightforward and to the point: “More responsibilities.”

Parenthood shifts your identity in profound ways. For Matt, taking on the role of provider, protector, and mentor has brought a new level of accountability and purpose. While the added responsibilities can feel heavy at times, they’ve also given him a deeper sense of fulfillment and pride in being a dad.

For me, becoming a mom was something I had dreamed about since my early teenage years. I absolutely adored my sister’s girls and couldn’t wait for the day I’d have children of my own. I was the teenage girl who always wanted to help young moms with their babies and toddlers. Whether it was volunteering to teach or watching the kids during events, I jumped at the opportunity—not out of obligation, but because I genuinely loved spending time with them.

I laugh at that now, of course, because nothing fully prepares you for having kids of your own. Parenting is a whole different ballgame when you’re on call 24/7, managing the chaos, the mess, and the endless energy. Don’t get me wrong—I love my kids with all my heart, but I’ve also learned to love and appreciate the breaks. Those quiet moments when you can finally breathe and recharge are just as vital to being a good parent as the time spent pouring into your kids.

Parenthood is beautiful and challenging in equal measure. It changes you in ways you don’t expect, and while it’s everything I dreamed of, I’ve also learned the importance of finding balance and giving myself grace along the way.

6. Asking for Help is a Strength, Not a Weakness

One of Matt’s most honest—and funniest—reflections came when I asked if there was ever a time he realized he needed help as a parent. Without missing a beat, he took me back to the early days of parenthood and made me laugh: “We’re pregnant. What do we do now?”

Classic Matt. That single question perfectly summed up the mix of excitement and sheer panic we both felt in those early days. Asking for help during those uncertain times took humility (and a bit of bravery), but it also brought much-needed guidance and reassurance.

Parenthood is a team effort, and seeking support—whether it’s from family, friends, or professionals—doesn’t make you weak. It shows that you’re willing to put your family’s well-being first, even if it means admitting you don’t have all the answers. And let’s be honest—none of us do! Sometimes, all you can do is ask the question, take a deep breath, and figure it out one step at a time.

7. Celebrate Progress, Not Perfection

One of Matt’s proudest moments as a dad is watching Ethan open doors for strangers. “We’ve often been complimented on it by people,” he shared.

Parenthood isn’t about striving for perfection; it’s about celebrating the small wins. Seeing our kids display kindness and respect, even in seemingly minor ways, is a reminder that we’re making progress as parents. Those moments, no matter how small they seem, deserve to be celebrated.

Conclusion: What We’ve Learned About Parenthood

Parenthood has taught Matt and me more about patience, grace, and the art of not losing our minds than we ever thought possible. It’s not an easy journey, but it’s packed with moments that make the chaos and hard days worth it—like when the kids hug you for no reason… or finally remember to flush the toilet.

If there’s one thing we’ve learned, it’s that parenthood is less about having it all figured out and more about figuring it out as you go. It’s messy, unpredictable, and humbling—like stepping on Legos at midnight—but it’s also one of the most rewarding experiences you’ll ever have. And hey, if the kids end up in therapy one day, at least we can say we tried our best!

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Ideas for Building Resilient Kids: Strengthening Emotional Foundations for Your Family

December 17, 2024

Introduction

Raising emotionally strong kids can feel overwhelming, but it doesn’t have to be. If you’re searching for ideas for your family to build resilience, create stronger connections, and help your kids face life’s challenges with confidence, you’re in the right place.

In this post, we’ll explore practical tips, real-life examples, and simple strategies to help your kids grow emotionally while strengthening your family bond. Because when kids learn to manage emotions and overcome obstacles, they don’t just bounce back—they thrive.

1. Creating a Safe Space for Emotions

Building emotional resilience starts with teaching your kids that their feelings are valid and welcome.

Listen First: Encourage your child to share what’s on their mind without jumping in to “fix” the problem. Sometimes, they just need to feel heard.
Model Emotional Awareness: When you’re frustrated, say things like, “I’m feeling upset right now, but I’m going to take a deep breath and calm down.” Kids learn resilience by watching us handle our own emotions.
Tools for Younger Kids: Consider a feelings chart for younger children to name their emotions, or perhaps a journal for older kids over the age of 7.

This is especially important in our household because our daughter Addison experiences a wide range of emotions on a regular basis. Every day, we’re learning a little more about how to help her regulate her feelings, process things that upset her, and prepare for situations that might trigger strong reactions.

Though she’s the loudest in our house and a constant chatterbox, Addison is also incredibly sensitive. She reacts strongly to certain noises, has specific preferences for clothing textures, and is very particular about the foods she eats. Understanding her unique needs has been a journey, but it’s teaching us so much about patience, empathy, and creating an environment where she feels supported.

2. Teaching Problem-Solving Skills

When life gets tough, kids need to know how to work through challenges rather than avoid them.

Encourage Independent Thinking: Next time your child has a problem, ask questions like, “What do you think we should do?” or “What are a couple of solutions you can try?”
Break It Down: Help kids tackle challenges step by step so they don’t feel overwhelmed.
Celebrate Effort Over Outcomes: Remind your kids that trying and failing is often how we grow the most.

✨ Practical Tip: Start a family mantra like “In this family, we try, learn, and try again!”

3. Prioritizing Connection in Your Family

Strong emotional bonds help kids feel secure enough to handle life’s ups and downs. In our family, we’ve found that creating these bonds doesn’t require grand gestures—it’s often the little moments of connection that make the biggest difference. Whether it’s sitting down together for a meal, laughing over a shared joke, or simply being present when emotions run high, these everyday interactions build a foundation of trust and love.

One way we’ve worked on strengthening these connections is by being intentional about how we spend time together. Activities like family game nights or taking time to really listen to what our kids are saying have become simple but meaningful ways to create stability and connection.

There are many ways to strengthen your family’s bonds, from creating special traditions to finding small ways to show support every day. These efforts, no matter how small, provide kids with the stability and security they need to navigate life’s challenges with confidence.

These small, intentional efforts don’t just make kids feel loved—they give them the emotional security they need to face challenges with confidence.

Family Traditions Matter: Whether it’s weekly family game nights or bedtime chats, routines build connection and consistency.
Spend One-on-One Time: Even 10-15 minutes of focused time with each child can make a big difference. Ask about their day, dream with them, or simply share a laugh.

4. Teaching Healthy Coping Strategies

One of the best ideas for your family is helping your kids learn how to manage stress and disappointment in healthy ways.

Breathe Through It: Teach your kids simple deep breathing exercises to calm their minds.
Physical Outlets: Encourage activities like walking, biking, or playing outside when emotions run high.
Create a Calm-Down Space: Set up a cozy corner with soft blankets, books, and stress relief tools such as a box of sensory fidgets for kids who need a break.

In the end, even adults sometimes need a moment to cool down and breathe before reacting or engaging. In fact, I’d go a step further and suggest that those who are quick to react at the drop of a hat likely didn’t have someone teach them healthier ways to cope with their emotions growing up.

I’ll be honest—I struggle with reacting before I think, and I’ve noticed my kids have picked up on that habit too. But the fact that I can acknowledge it gives me hope—for their future and my own. After all, the first step to solving any problem is recognizing that it exists.

5. Practicing Gratitude as a Family

Gratitude shifts the focus from what’s missing to what’s already good in our lives—building a positive, resilient mindset.

Family Gratitude Jar: Have each family member write down one thing they’re grateful for each week and place it in the jar. At the end of the month, read them together.
Gratitude Journals: Encourage kids to list three “good things” each night before bed.
Model Thankfulness: Share your own moments of gratitude out loud.

✨ Reminder: Resilience grows when kids learn to look for the silver lining, even on tough days.

6. Celebrating Small Wins Together

Resilience isn’t about perfection—it’s about progress. Celebrate the effort your kids put into growing, trying, and learning.

Call Out the Little Things: Did your child try something new, stick with a tough task, or handle a disappointment well? Celebrate it!
Create a Family Wins Jar: Write down victories big and small, from “finished my chores without complaining” to “I stayed calm when I felt frustrated.”

Matt and I created an eBook that dives deep into Celebrating the Wins (Big and Small) and is packed with great ideas to help you do just that. Want a copy? Subscribe to Our Family Experiment today, and we’ll send you the eBook for free! It’s our way of saying thank you for joining us on this journey.

Conclusion: Resilience Starts at Home

Fostering emotional resilience in your kids isn’t about having all the answers—it’s about showing up, offering grace, and creating space for them to learn, grow, and bounce back stronger. These ideas for your family can help you build a foundation of emotional strength that will carry your kids through the challenges life throws their way.

Remember, small efforts add up. Every time you connect with your kids, celebrate their progress, or model resilience in your own life, you’re equipping them with tools they’ll carry for a lifetime.

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Balancing Work, Parenting, and Personal Time

December 15, 2024

Balancing work, parenting, and personal time often feels like a juggling act with no manual. As a mom, I know how overwhelming it can be to meet deadlines, keep the house running, and still carve out time for yourself. The truth is, we can’t do it all perfectly—but with a few strategies, we can create a rhythm that works for our families and ourselves.

Let me tell you, I’ve been there. Mid-thought on a work project, and suddenly, my kids, God love them, have the most pressing questions—always at the most inopportune times. Add to that living in someone else’s home, without your own space, and it feels like the chaos is magnified. It’s tough, but these experiences have taught me a lot, and I’m excited to share some of the ways we’re learning to balance it all.

1. Embrace the Power of a Schedule

Having a schedule isn’t just helpful—it’s essential. Start by blocking time for work, parenting, and personal care. Even a loose plan can make a big difference in managing the chaos.

This past Friday, Matt and I planned a date night. We sent the kids to my sister’s house for a sleepover so we could have an uninterrupted deep discussion about our budget and set goals for the next five years. It was a much-needed moment to recalibrate as a team. Thankfully, our trusty See It Bigger Planner kept everything organized because we had a lot to cover!

At the end of the day, having a plan helps reduce the stress of life’s inevitable surprises. A great plan gives you a sense of control in what often feels like uncontrollable circumstances. As we’ve learned in 5 Parenting Lessons We’ve Learned the Hard Way, flexibility is key—because even the best plans require adjustments.

2. Set Clear Boundaries

One of the biggest lessons we’re learning—and trying hard to implement—is setting boundaries between work and family time. This is not easy. When you work remotely or for yourself, it’s tempting for your family to see you at your computer and assume you’re available.

Communicating your work hours is critical. Let your family know when you’re working and when you’ll be fully present with them. And when it’s time to log off, honor that commitment. It’s not just about getting work done; it’s about showing your family that they are a priority, too.

3. Delegate and Accept Help

You don’t have to do everything. Get the kids involved with age-appropriate chores, and don’t hesitate to lean on your support system. For us, it’s a team effort. Matt and I divide tasks based on who’s available and best suited for them. The kids help, too—whether it’s cleaning their rooms or caring for the dogs, every little bit counts.

Sometimes, outside help is a lifesaver. Whether it’s a family member offering to babysit or a food delivery service like DoorDash, don’t be afraid to say yes when help is offered. You’re not failing by asking for assistance—you’re being resourceful.

4. Make Time for Yourself

This one is easier said than done, but personal time is critical. Whether it’s 10 minutes of journaling, a long shower, or pursuing a hobby, prioritize activities that recharge you.

I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again: you can’t pour from an empty cup. Prioritizing yourself isn’t selfish—it’s essential. The other day, I wasn’t feeling well, and we had a grocery pickup scheduled. Matt graciously offered to handle it for me. Normally, I’d push through, but I knew resting was the best choice for everyone.

If you don’t have a spouse or partner, reach out to a trusted friend or family member when you need help. And don’t underestimate the value of community—whether it’s a church group or an online parenting forum, support is always available if you’re willing to ask.

One thing I’ll add here, as someone who has been on the receiving end of being that trusted friend or family member, is this: don’t take that person for granted. A heartfelt “thank you” is a great start and far better than nothing, but consider going a step further. Just because they love you and want to help doesn’t mean they aren’t setting aside their own responsibilities to assist you. Show your appreciation in tangible ways to honor their generosity and the effort they’ve made to support you.

5. Celebrate Small Wins

Balancing work, parenting, and personal time isn’t about achieving perfection. It’s about celebrating the small wins that keep you moving forward.

When life feels overwhelming, it’s easy to overlook small accomplishments. But each goal reached—no matter how small—is progress. Whether it’s finishing a work project, sneaking in a quiet cup of tea, or getting the kids to bed on time, these moments matter. Acknowledging them reminds you that you’re doing enough, even when it doesn’t feel like it.

Conclusion

Finding balance isn’t about fitting everything into one perfect day. It’s about creating harmony over time. By planning, setting boundaries, and giving yourself grace, you can make space for work, family, and yourself without burning out.

You don’t have to be superhuman to be successful. Success doesn’t mean doing everything perfectly—it means showing up, giving your best, and not neglecting yourself in the process. YOU matter. And trust me, your family sees and appreciates all that you do, even on the days when you don’t feel like you’ve done enough.

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How to Manage Parenting Stress During the Holidays

December 13, 2024

The holidays are a magical time, but let’s be honest—they can also make it difficult to manage parenting stress, inevitably taking things to a whole new level. Between coordinating schedules, shopping for gifts, and managing the inevitable sugar-induced meltdowns, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed. But don’t worry—you’re not alone, and there are ways to handle the chaos while still enjoying the season.

1. Plan Ahead to Tame Holiday Stress

One of the best ways to start managing stress is to get ahead of the chaos. Use a family calendar or planner to organize events, shopping lists, and meal plans. When everything is written down, it’s easier to see what’s coming up and avoid last-minute panic.

This is something Matt and I have started doing since being back in Oklahoma, living with family especially. Not only do we need to keep track of our own lives, but on occasion, we have to keep up with my parents as well. It’s hard for anyone, let alone busy parents to remember all the things! We started using the See It Bigger Padfolio Planner to help us stay on track with everything from shower schedules to doctor appointments. We can replace the insert every year which makes it convenient. Don’t make it harder than it has to be. Work smarter, not harder! Anything you can do to help manage parenting stress should be a top priority in my opinion!

2. Simplify Your Gift-Giving

You don’t have to do it all! Stick to a simple gift-giving formula, like the popular “Something they want, something they need, something to wear, something to read.” This not only reduces holiday stress but also keeps the budget in check.

I enjoy giving gifts, but don’t you dare ask me what I want or need because I don’t have a clue! As a mom, I’m always thinking about what everyone else wants or needs. I used to get so irritated with my mom when I was younger and would ask her to tell me what she wanted for Christmas or her birthday. She’d say, “I have no idea.” Now here I am… Mrs. I have no idea Jr.

However, when I’m stuck I enjoy visiting Etsy. There is always something there for everyone! I’d tell you what we’re getting the kids and each other… but we all read this blog. So I won’t spoil any surprises. 😉

3. Take Breaks to Recharge

As parents, we’re often so focused on making the holidays perfect for everyone else that we forget about ourselves. Schedule small breaks for self-care—even if it’s just 10 minutes to enjoy a cup of tea or read a book.

For Matt and me, living in someone else’s home makes it challenging to find a quiet space. So, we’ve turned our bedroom into a little getaway suite, complete with my Xbox and TV and Matt’s gaming PC. Most evenings, after the kids are asleep, we unwind together by playing our favorite games and chatting about our day.

It’s honestly my favorite time of the day—especially now that Matt added a wax warmer to his desk that looks like a miniature fire burning! It sets such a cozy, relaxing mood in the room and fills the air with all the holiday scents we love.

4. Delegate and Ask for Help

Remember, you don’t have to do everything alone. Enlist your partner, kids, or extended family to pitch in with decorating, wrapping, or cooking. Sharing the load can reduce parenting stress significantly. Which reminds me… If I don’t put up the kids’ miniature Christmas tree this weekend for them to decorate, they might never let me live it down!

This week in Children’s Church the kids’ teacher brought them each these scratch art ornaments to design however they wanted. I was blown away when my 11-year-old son brought his ornament to show me after church. Nobody suggested to him what to scratch into this ornament, but they had just been learning about the Virgin Mary and her Virgin birth. Didn’t the kids do such a good job?!

5. Prioritize Family Time

It’s easy to get caught up in the busyness, but some of the most cherished memories are the simplest ones. Set aside time for family traditions, like baking cookies or watching a favorite holiday movie together. These moments can ease holiday stress and bring joy to everyone. Do what works for you and your family.

My mother is great about pulling the kids into the kitchen to help her bake cookies. She’s already started her holiday baking spree to hand out trays of cookies to her neighbors. DO NOT touch the cookies. That’s a really difficult thing to do when she so rudely makes it smell like a holiday baker’s market in here. I prefer to do things outside of the kitchen with my kids because the kitchen is my space. HA! This is how I manage parenting stress. I avoid moments that are bound to cause me stress because I know myself pretty well.

Haven’t developed any of your own family traditions for the holidays? I’ll let you borrow one of ours! We love going to our local grocery store and picking up a gingerbread house-making kit to do together. We’ve even been known to order a special kit online a time or two. Check out this adorable gingerbread barn. Or if you’re like me and aren’t a fan of the taste of gingerbread… this chocolate cookie house is a must!

6. Keep Expectations Realistic

Not everything has to be perfect. The tree doesn’t need to look like it belongs in a magazine, and it’s okay if the cookies come out a little burnt. Embrace the imperfections—they’re often the moments you’ll laugh about later.

This is one I’m still working on, to be honest. My nerves and OCD get the better of me. Not gonna lie, I’ve been refraining from adjusting the garland on my mother’s Christmas tree because it isn’t evenly placed toward the bottom. THE GAP IS TO MUCH! I digress. As I was saying… not everything has to be perfect. HA!

Pro-tip: maybe write that on your hand this holiday season so you don’t forget.

7. Focus on Gratitude

During the hectic moments of the holiday season, it’s easy to get caught up in the whirlwind of to-do lists, gift shopping, and family gatherings. But when you feel overwhelmed, take a step back and reflect on what truly matters—what you’re grateful for. The holidays are about so much more than the presents we give or receive; they’re about celebrating the ultimate gift given to all of us—the birth of Jesus Christ.

This season is an opportunity to remember God’s incredible love for us, demonstrated in the gift of His Son, who came to bring hope, joy, and salvation. Share this profound truth with your family as you talk about what you’re thankful for. Encourage your kids to think about the blessings in their lives and how they can share that same love and kindness with others.

By grounding your family in gratitude and focusing on the real reason for the season, you can create a holiday filled with meaning, connection, and joy. After all, it’s not about the gifts under the tree, but the gift of grace that was given to us all. ✨

Closing Thoughts to Manage Parenting Stress

The holidays don’t have to be perfect to be memorable. If you think about it, your most memorable holiday moments probably weren’t these grand expensive gestures. But the simple smell of Grandma baking a card table full of homemade pies or riding on your brand new bean bag down the basement stairs with your siblings hoping mom doesn’t stop you.

By taking a step back, planning ahead, and prioritizing what truly matters, you can enjoy the season while keeping parenting stress at bay. Remember, the best gift you can give your family is a happy, present version of yourself.

If these tips resonate with you, share your own strategies for managing parenting stress during the holidays by sending us a quick email to contact@ourfamilyexperiment.com. Let’s navigate this season together!