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Rebuilding After a Fall: How We’re Putting Our Family Back Together

by Denise Wright

Life has a way of humbling you when you least expect it. For years, we lived with purpose and a clear direction—or so we thought. Then, in what felt like a moment, everything shifted, leaving us scrambling to pick up the pieces. This post isn’t about tying everything up in a neat little bow. We’re still very much in the process of rebuilding our lives. But I want to share what this journey looks like—raw, messy, and real—and how we’re learning to grow as a family through it all.

The Moment It Fell Apart

For over two decades, Matt carried his minister’s license. It wasn’t just a credential; it represented his calling and became a cornerstone of our lives. In 2021, when we felt the Lord leading us to pastor a small church in Montana, it felt like everything was falling into place. Working for the Lord in that capacity was something we always wanted, filled with both challenges and triumphs.

But life rarely follows a straight path. In Montana, Matt made a mistake that cost him his license, shaking the foundation of our lives. The weight of that loss hit us hard, forcing him to confront questions he didn’t have answers to: Who was he without that identity? How could we move forward as a family?

As if that weren’t enough, financial struggles forced us to leave Montana and return to Oklahoma. The move felt like defeat, as if everything we had worked for had crumbled beneath us. Moving back in with my parents—something we’ve had to do more than once in our 12 years of marriage—required a level of humility we weren’t sure we had in us to summon yet again.

In those moments, we felt like failures—sometimes, we still do. But we’re learning to show ourselves the same grace the Lord so freely gives. It’s a daily process, but that grace is what keeps us holding on and moving forward.

Rebuilding is a Choice

Hitting rock bottom brings an overwhelming temptation to stay there. Letting the pain consume you feels easier than facing the daunting climb out. When we were isolated in Montana—far from family support and grappling with the aftermath of Matt’s mistake—the weight of it all felt suffocating, as if being consumed was inevitable.

For our family, though, staying down was not an option. We committed to making changes—not just to our circumstances, but to our hearts, priorities, and vision for the future. Matt’s mistake painfully exposed a disconnect between us that we could no longer ignore. Addressing that divide became a necessary part of rebuilding and moving forward.

Rebuilding Trust, One Step at a Time

When everything finally came to light, the revelation hit like a tidal wave. I hadn’t seen it coming, and the weight of it left me reeling. I found myself questioning how we had strayed so far off track and wondering what we could have done differently.

Healing wasn’t just about addressing the mistake itself—the loss of Matt’s license, the move, or the ripple effects on our family. It also forced us to confront the deep wound of broken trust. Knowing that something so significant had been hidden from me cut deeper than I was prepared for, and it created additional friction between us that we couldn’t ignore.

While Matt and I worked through the fallout in our own ways, I wrestled with feelings of betrayal and sadness. Rebuilding wasn’t just about moving forward; it became a process of repairing trust, piece by fragile piece. Hurt like that doesn’t fade overnight. It demands time, honesty, and an enormous amount of grace—for him, for myself, and for us together.

Even with the challenges, we chose to see this season as an opportunity—a chance to reset, refocus, and rebuild. The path hasn’t been easy, but it has required us to let go of the need to have all the answers and instead commit to taking one step at a time, one day at a time, always together.

What Rebuilding Looks Like for Us

Rebuilding isn’t glamorous. It’s messy, raw, and often filled with hard conversations and uncomfortable truths. There have been more tears than I can count. But even in the midst of all that, this season has also brought glimpses of grace, hope, and growth that remind us why we’re fighting to move forward.

Here’s what this journey looks like for us right now:

1. Focusing on Family First

Our family has become the foundation of everything we’re rebuilding. That means learning to show up for each other even when emotions are high and wounds are fresh. We’ve had to be intentional about creating routines that bring stability to our kids, even on days when Matt and I are struggling with our own emotions.

Open and honest communication has become non-negotiable. We talk with our kids about the challenges we’re facing in age-appropriate ways, and Matt and I are working hard to model what it looks like to face struggles together, with honesty and humility.

2. Rebuilding Trust in Our Marriage

The hardest part of this season has been the work Matt and I have done as a couple. Rebuilding trust after it breaks requires immense effort. The hurt cuts deep, and we’ve both had to confront it directly.

This process demands constant listening, unwavering honesty, and a shared commitment to rebuild our relationship piece by piece. Forgiveness isn’t something you choose once; it’s a decision we make every day. Some days feel easier than others, but we remain determined to move forward together, even when the path feels challenging.

The Hidden Struggles Behind the Scenes

Matt and I have been married for 12 years, a journey marked by highs, lows, and everything in between. The mistake that happened wasn’t small; it was the kind of event that can tear couples apart. To clarify, this wasn’t infidelity or anything of that sort. It stemmed from a series of poor financial decisions and compromised choices, made because Matt found himself in a position where he was forced to choose between meeting our family’s needs and doing what was right.

The pain it caused created distance, fueled resentment and brought heartbreak that seemed impossible to overcome.

These struggles often remain hidden from the outside world. To others, we might appear as though we have it all together. People assume everything is fine because we’ve learned how to show up, smile, and keep moving forward. The reality, however, is far different. There were moments when we were barely holding on—moments when the weight of it all felt crushing and left us questioning whether we could make it through.

Facing the Pain and Choosing to Stay

What made it even harder were the comments and beliefs tied to the idea that, as a married couple, we are “one.” While I respect and understand the biblical foundation of that unity, it was said that Matt’s mistake was my mistake too. But I can’t fully agree with that. His actions were his own, and while they deeply impacted us both, they weren’t something I caused or participated in. That belief added a layer of pain I wasn’t prepared for and made an already difficult situation even more complicated.

By the grace of God and the foundation laid by our upbringing, we somehow managed to hold it all together. But that doesn’t mean it was easy—far from it. There were moments when it felt like we were hanging on by a thread, moments when one or both of us thought about walking away. There were nights of silence, days filled with tension, and times when we wondered if we had anything left to give to each other.

Yet, through it all, we kept choosing to stay. To fight for what we had built. To believe that healing was possible, even when it felt out of reach. Holding it together didn’t mean pretending everything was perfect. It meant being willing to face the broken pieces and work together to rebuild them—no matter how messy or painful the process might be.

3. Setting Long-Term Goals

We have focused on moving forward by setting clear, tangible goals for the future. For us, this means achieving financial freedom, planning for a home of our own, and building a strong foundation for our kids’ futures.

The road ahead feels overwhelming at times. The distance between where we are and where we want to be can seem daunting. But these goals keep us grounded and provide a sense of direction. They give us something to work toward as a family, even when challenges arise.

This journey has also driven us to share openly about the raw, unfiltered reality of raising kids and navigating life’s hardships. Many versions of our story have been shared from different perspectives. While we understand those perspectives exist, we feel strongly about sharing our journey in our own voice.

Our intention is not to stir hurt or cause division but to offer honesty about where we are and how we are working to rebuild. Through transparency, we hope to encourage others who might feel alone in their struggles. If there’s one thing we’ve learned, it’s that connection and healing come from stepping into the light, even when it feels uncomfortable.

4. Leaning Into Faith

Our faith has endured challenges we never anticipated. Trusting God as life falls apart hasn’t been easy, but it has grounded and anchored us throughout this season.

We place our trust in Him, even when the “why” remains unclear. Prayer and scripture provide daily reminders of His grace and strength, becoming essential for not only rebuilding our lives but also healing our hearts.

Matt and I have always leaned toward introversion, but the events we’ve faced have caused us to retreat even further. Letting people into our lives feels riskier now, knowing how easily relationships can unintentionally cause hurt. Right now, we are prioritizing what matters most: the physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being of our family and its future.

If we seem less present or show up differently than we once did, please know it’s not about anyone else. We are intentionally creating the space we need to heal and regroup as a family. This season demands our full attention, and we deeply appreciate the patience and understanding of those who care about us.

The Lessons We’re Learning

This season has been filled with hard-earned lessons:

  • Grace Matters: We’ve had to learn to extend grace to ourselves and each other. Mistakes don’t define us—how we choose to move forward does.
  • Humility Is a Gift: Living with my parents again has been humbling, but it’s also reminded us of the power of starting over with help.
  • Trust Takes Time: Rebuilding trust isn’t a quick process. It’s built through consistent actions, honesty, and a willingness to confront the hard stuff together.
  • Faith Isn’t Easy, but It’s Worth It: Trusting God through uncertainty is challenging, but it’s also what sustains us when everything else feels shaky.

A Work in Progress

We haven’t reached the finish line yet. Truthfully, I’m not even sure what the finish line looks like. What I do know is this: rebuilding doesn’t require perfection. It demands showing up every day, even when it’s hard. It’s about choosing hope over despair and consistently taking small, intentional steps forward.

If you’re in a season of rebuilding, remember—you’re not alone. The process is messy and painful, but it also holds the potential for growth, healing, and grace. Let’s navigate this journey together, one step at a time.

A Season of Healing and Hope

This season of life has been heavy, but it’s also been one of reflection, growth, and hope. We’re learning that rebuilding doesn’t happen overnight—it’s a series of small, deliberate steps. And while the process isn’t easy, it’s teaching us the value of grace, perseverance, and faith.

If you’re in a season of rebuilding, whether it’s your marriage, your family, or even just yourself, know that you’re not alone. Healing is possible, even in the messiest and most painful moments. Lean into grace, take it one step at a time, and remember that progress, no matter how small, is still progress.

Let’s keep the conversation going! If this post resonated with you, you might also find these resources helpful:

We’d love to hear from you—what’s been your greatest lesson in seasons of rebuilding? Share in the comments or connect with us through the links above. Together, we can find strength and encouragement for the journey ahead. ❤️

Encouraging Kids
Faith and Family

How Encouraging Kids Can Shape Their Future and Build Their Confidence

by Denise Wright

Parenting is filled with questions, but one of the most important is this: How can we help our kids become the best versions of themselves? Encouraging kids to follow their passions is a powerful way to support their growth, confidence, and happiness. But it’s not always easy. As parents, we walk the fine line between guiding them and allowing them to explore their interests.

In this post, I’m sharing practical, heartfelt advice on how to encourage your kids to pursue their passions and embrace who they’re meant to be.

Why Encouraging Kids to Pursue Their Passions Matters

Encouraging kids to follow their passions isn’t just about helping them find a hobby or career; it’s about nurturing their confidence and teaching them that their interests have value. When kids feel supported, they’re more likely to:

  • Take risks and try new things.
  • Develop resilience when faced with challenges.
  • Build a strong sense of self and identity.
  • Learn the importance of dedication and hard work.

Passions spark creativity and joy, and as parents, we have the privilege of fanning that flame.

Redefining Success: Preparing Our Kids for a Future Beyond the 9-to-5

For Matt and me, we’ve recently come to a profound realization about the future we’re setting up for our kids. We’re not just guiding them toward independence but also encouraging them to think beyond the traditional “career” path. In today’s world, where opportunities extend far beyond the typical 9-to-5 job, we want to prepare them to embrace flexibility, creativity, and self-reliance in how they approach work and life.

Matt and I are both content creators who work from home, and our careers are anything but conventional. Matt is an SEO writer, crafting articles that help businesses thrive online, and he’s also channeling his passion for storytelling into publishing several fictional books. On top of that, he joins me every week on our parenting podcast, where we share the ups, downs, and lessons of raising a family.

As for me, I’ve poured my heart into building and operating our family blog, a space where I connect with other parents to offer advice, share stories, and create resources. Together, our work reflects the kind of future we envision for our kids—one where they can pursue their passions, embrace creativity, and design a life that brings them joy and fulfillment.

By modeling this lifestyle, we hope to inspire our children to explore their interests and develop the skills they need to carve out their own unique paths. After all, the world is evolving, and so should the way we think about careers and success.

Signs Your Child Has Found a Passion

It can be exciting to watch your kids light up about something, but how do you know when they’ve truly found a passion? Look for these signs:

  1. They talk about it constantly.
    Whether it’s art, sports, or science, kids who are passionate will find every opportunity to bring it up. Currently, for our kids, it’s video games, their desire to create custom mods, and how the games can be improved.
  2. They dedicate free time to it.
    If your child willingly spends hours practicing, creating, or diving deeper into their interests, it’s a strong sign they’ve discovered something truly special. Our daughter Addison has recently been honing her drawing skills with the guidance of her cousins and grandfather. Creativity seems to run in my family—several relatives are talented artists, including one who achieved remarkable success as a portrait and sculptor artist. One of my uncle’s proudest moments and missed opportunities was being featured alongside Michael Jackson at his studio in Arizona. It’s inspiring to see Addison carry on this artistic legacy and make it her own.
  3. They show pride in their progress.
    Seeing them beam with pride over a new skill or achievement is a clear indicator that they’ve found something meaningful.

5 Ways to Encourage Your Kids to Follow Their Passions

1. Pay Attention to What Lights Them Up

The first step to encouraging kids is to observe. What excites them? What topics do they keep coming back to? Take note of the activities that spark their interest and ask open-ended questions like:

  • “What do you love about this?”
  • “How does it make you feel?”

Even if their current passion seems fleeting, showing interest tells them their feelings and experiences are valid.

2. Provide Opportunities to Explore

Sometimes, kids need hands-on experiences to truly discover their passions. Look for local classes, workshops, or clubs that align with their interests. For example:

  • If they love animals, consider a junior zookeeper program.
  • If they enjoy building, try a LEGO robotics camp.

These opportunities not only refine their skills but also show them that their passions are worth investing in.

3. Offer Support Without Taking Over

It’s easy to want to jump in and “help” when we see our kids exploring their passions. But there’s a fine line between supporting and taking over. Let your kids take the lead, and remember:

  • Encourage them to set their own goals.
  • Celebrate progress, not just achievements.
  • Be their cheerleader, not their manager.

For instance, if your child is passionate about drawing, provide the supplies and a dedicated space but let them decide what they want to create.

4. Share Stories of Perseverance

Kids need to understand that pursuing passions isn’t always easy. Share stories of people (including yourself!) who overcame obstacles to follow their dreams. Highlight lessons like:

  • Failure is a stepping stone to success.
  • Growth happens outside of your comfort zone.
  • Hard work often leads to the most rewarding results.
  • The things worth having in life take work and consistency.

These lessons help kids see challenges as opportunities rather than roadblocks.

5. Be Flexible and Open-Minded

Passions can evolve over time, and that’s okay! What your child loves today might not be their dream tomorrow. Encourage exploration and remind them it’s all part of the journey.

  • “It’s great that you’re curious about so many things.”
  • “Trying new interests helps you learn what you truly love.”

Early on Ethan was insistent that he wanted to grow up to be an engineer and design robots for a living. However, that has recently evolved into wanting to design wooden toys for children to play with. Only 11 years old and completely addicted to video gaming, I’m confident that his passion will only continue to evolve. One thing is for sure, he has a creative mind like his mama.

Addressing Parental Doubts

Sometimes, it’s hard not to question our kids’ interests, especially if they don’t align with our own. Maybe you’re unsure how a passion will translate into a career or worry they’re wasting time. Here’s the thing: passions are about joy and growth, not practicality. Trust that the skills they gain—like discipline, creativity, and resilience—will serve them no matter what.

What doesn’t always make sense to us as parents might make perfect sense to our kids. And honestly, that’s okay. They’re growing up in a world that’s constantly changing, one that looks vastly different from the one we knew even a decade ago.

How Things Used to Be

Take my husband, for example. Ten years ago, he made the bold decision to leave a traditional 9-to-5 job and pursue a career in writing while working from home—long before remote work became a mainstream concept. It wasn’t an easy decision, and it came with its fair share of criticism. His mom, bless her, had a hard time wrapping her head around it. She was raised in a generation where success was measured by climbing the corporate ladder and staying in a stable job for decades. To her, his choice seemed risky, even irresponsible.

What she couldn’t see at the time was the potential he saw in a new and evolving career path. Her concerns came from a place of love and a desire for him to succeed, but they were rooted in the mindset of her upbringing, not the changing opportunities of today. It wasn’t about doubting his abilities—it was about the fear of the unknown.

Fast forward to now, and that once unconventional decision has paid off in ways we couldn’t have imagined. It taught us an important lesson: just because something doesn’t align with the way we were raised or the rules we lived by doesn’t mean it’s wrong. Sometimes, it’s about trusting our kids to see possibilities we might miss and giving them the freedom to explore their own paths. After all, the world they’re navigating is theirs to shape, and it’s not always going to look like what we expect—or understand. And that’s okay.

How Faith Plays a Role in Encouraging Kids

For our family, faith is the foundation of everything we do, including how we parent. Encouraging kids to follow their passions includes reminding them that they are uniquely designed by God with talents and gifts meant to be nurtured. We often share Jeremiah 29:11 with our kids:

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”

This verse reassures them (and us) that their passions have a purpose, even if we don’t fully understand it yet.

Our Personal Experience with Encouraging Passions

Let me share a story about Ethan and Addison. Ethan discovered his love for building when he was just five years old, using blocks to construct anything from castles to robots. We provided him with opportunities to explore, from LEGO kits to STEM classes. Today, he’s still passionate about creating, and it’s been incredible to watch him grow.

Addison, on the other hand, has a creative soul and loves crafting. While it’s not my forte, I’ve learned to embrace her glitter-covered projects because they bring her so much joy. Seeing her confidence grow has been worth every vacuuming session!

The Benefits of Encouraging Kids to Follow Their Passions

When you encourage your kids, you’re not just supporting their hobbies—you’re building their confidence, strengthening your bond, and helping them discover who they are. Here are some lasting benefits:

  • Emotional well-being: Kids who feel supported are happier and more secure.
  • Stronger relationships: Shared passions create opportunities for connection.
  • Life skills: From discipline to problem-solving, they’ll gain tools for future success.

Final Thoughts

Encouraging kids to follow their passions is one of the greatest gifts we can give as parents. It’s about showing them that their interests matter and helping them grow into confident, capable individuals. So whether it’s art, sports, science, or something else entirely, take the time to cheer them on—you won’t regret it.

Want more tips on supporting your kids’ growth and happiness? Check out our post on 10 Tips for Strengthening Family Bonds and subscribe to our newsletter for weekly parenting inspiration.

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Why Consistency Is Key in Parenting

by Denise Wright

Parenting isn’t for the faint of heart, is it? From sleepless nights to the whirlwind of emotions that come with raising kids, every day can feel like an experiment. But if there’s one thing I’ve learned as a mom, it’s that consistency in parenting is a game-changer. It’s so important it’s included in our very first podcast releasing January 6, 2025!

It’s not always easy, and I’ll be the first to admit that my husband Matt and I still struggle with it from time to time. But when we’ve leaned into consistency—whether it’s with routines, rules, or expectations—the results have been undeniable. It brings stability to our family life and, more importantly, helps our kids feel secure.

In this post, I’ll share why consistency matters, how it benefits your kids (and your sanity), and practical ways to stay consistent, even when life gets hectic.

What Does Consistency in Parenting Look Like?

Consistency doesn’t mean you have to become a drill sergeant or run your household like a boot camp. It’s about setting clear expectations and following through on them—whether that’s with discipline, daily routines, or how you react to your kids’ behavior.

Here’s a simple example from our home: Bedtime. If we let bedtime slide by even 30 minutes, it throws off the entire night and, honestly, the next morning too. Consistency in our bedtime routine—wind down time, brushing teeth, hugs & kisses, bed—gives our kids the structure they need to wind down and sleep peacefully.

It’s not about being perfect; it’s about being predictable.

Why Consistency in Parenting Matters

1. Kids Thrive on Routine

Have you ever noticed how much smoother the day goes when your kids know what to expect? Routines provide a sense of security and help kids navigate their world with confidence.

For example, when our daughter Addison knows that Sundays mean family dinner and time with her older girl cousins, she has something to look forward to. It’s a small thing, but it makes her feel grounded and safe.

Consistency has been a challenge for us over the years, but it’s something we’re striving to improve on every single day. The reason it’s been such a struggle is a long story, but in short, we’ve moved houses so often throughout our kids’ lives that it’s felt like hitting the reset button every time. Each move has meant establishing new routines, adjusting to a new environment, and trying to blend our family dynamic with the dynamics of living with extended family. It’s been tough, but we’re learning and growing together.

2. Consistency Builds Trust

When you’re consistent, your kids know they can rely on you. Whether it’s sticking to a rule or keeping your promise, consistency builds trust and strengthens your relationship.

There have been times when I’ve had to remind myself that “no” has to mean “no,” even when it’s easier to give in. It’s hard in the moment, but it’s worth it when your kids learn that your words have weight.

Just this past week, while we had family visiting for the holidays, Addison and Ethan couldn’t stop bickering. Tensions were high, and with so many people around, it was hard to intervene effectively. Finally, I had enough and told them both that if they didn’t start treating each other with kindness and stop yelling, there would be consequences. In our house, that usually means a spanking—though it’s not a common occurrence, it has been necessary on rare occasions.

They both responded with their “Yes, ma’am’s,” but not much later, chaos erupted again. It felt like I was watching it unfold in slow motion, powerless to stop it in time. I was right in the middle of preparing the last dish for Christmas dinner when I put the knife down, turned around, and without hesitation, said to Addison, “I told you there would be consequences for screaming at your brother. I promised.”

As much as I hated it, I stopped everything, took her to her room, and gave her a small spanking. And you know what? It worked. They stopped screaming at each other after that.

It wasn’t a moment I enjoyed, but it was a reminder that when we set boundaries and follow through, it helps create a sense of structure and accountability.

3. It Reduces Anxiety

Uncertainty can be overwhelming for kids, especially when they’re little. Clear expectations and consistent reactions help reduce their anxiety. They don’t have to guess how you’ll respond or whether the rules will change.

Matt and I have seen this firsthand with our son Ethan. When we’re consistent with screen time rules, he’s less likely to push boundaries because he knows exactly what’s allowed and what isn’t.

How to Be Consistent Without Feeling Overwhelmed

1. Start Small

Don’t try to overhaul your entire parenting style overnight. Focus on one area where consistency could make the biggest impact, like bedtime routines or screen time limits.

Matt was sharing with me just the other day about a book he’s been listening to called The Slight Edge. The concept of the book is simple yet powerful: it emphasizes how successful people don’t necessarily make giant, life-altering changes all at once. Instead, they focus on being consistent in the small, seemingly insignificant things. Over time, these small, consistent actions create a ripple effect, ultimately building a strong foundation for a better future.

It’s not about perfection or big wins—it’s about the daily habits that may feel mundane or even trivial in the moment. Brushing your teeth, exercising for just 15 minutes a day, choosing water over soda—all of these small decisions compound over time, leading to big results. And the same principle applies to parenting.

For example, consistently setting aside 10 minutes each day to talk with your child or sticking to a bedtime routine might not feel groundbreaking in the moment. But over time, these consistent actions build trust, security, and stronger family bonds. The Slight Edge teaches us that success—whether in parenting, career, or personal goals—isn’t about the big leaps; it’s about the small steps we take every single day.

Hearing Matt talk about the book was a reminder for me to look at my own parenting through that lens. It’s easy to get caught up in wanting to fix everything all at once, especially when chaos seems to take over. But the truth is, real change comes from those small, intentional actions we take consistently. It’s a humbling realization, but also a hopeful one. Because when you focus on the little things, you’re not just getting through the day—you’re planting seeds for a brighter future for yourself and your family.

2. Communicate Clearly

Make sure your kids know what the rules and expectations are. Use age-appropriate language and explain the “why” behind your decisions.

For example, we’ve told our kids that limiting screen time isn’t about punishment—it’s about making sure they have time for other activities, like playing outside or doing crafts.

Don’t get me wrong—there are times when we give instructions and the kids, not liking what they hear, ask, “Why?” And let’s be honest, in those moments when we’re in the middle of our own thoughts or feeling overstimulated, we might default to the age-old response: “Because I said so.” And you know what? That’s okay… sometimes.

But most of the time, kids need to understand why we’re asking them to do—or not do—something. Why is that important? Well, because they’re still learning about life, how things work, and how to navigate the world. Curious minds are strong minds. And when we take the time to explain, we’re encouraging that curiosity, which is a critical part of their development.

Teaching them to question and seek understanding helps them grow into independent thinkers. It also sets the stage for a future where they don’t just accept everything at face value. Without that curiosity, they may grow up believing everything they hear simply because “someone said so.” So yes, sometimes “because I said so” is enough, but most times, it’s worth pausing to give them the why they’re searching for.

3. Involve Your Partner

Consistency works best when both parents are on the same page. Sit down with your partner and agree on the rules, consequences, and routines you want to prioritize.

Matt and I didn’t always do this well. In the early days of parenting, we’d accidentally send mixed messages to the kids because we hadn’t communicated with each other first. Now, we make it a point to have regular “parent meetings” to stay aligned.

Tell me your kids haven’t learned to work the system of going to mom, but if she says no, go to dad? Yeah… name me a kid who hasn’t tried that at least once. Be on the SAME PAGE!

4. Be Flexible When Needed

Consistency doesn’t mean rigidity. Life happens—there will be days when routines go out the window, and that’s okay. The key is to get back on track as soon as possible.

One summer, we took a last-minute road trip that completely derailed our usual schedules. Instead of stressing, we embraced the chaos and returned to our normal routines once we got home.

Common Challenges (and How to Overcome Them)

1. Feeling Like the Bad Guy

It’s tough to enforce rules when your kids are upset about them. But remember, consistency is an act of love. You’re teaching your kids important life skills, even if they don’t appreciate it in the moment.

2. Burnout

Parenting is exhausting, and staying consistent can feel like just one more thing on your plate. Give yourself grace, and don’t be afraid to lean on your partner, friends, or even a parenting group for support.

3. Pushback from Kids

Kids will test limits—it’s part of their job description. Stay calm, stand your ground, and remind yourself that consistency now will pay off in the long run.

Practical Tips for Creating Rules and Routines

  1. Use Visual Aids: A simple chart or calendar can help younger kids remember their daily routines.
  2. Set Clear Consequences: Be specific about what will happen if rules aren’t followed, and STICK TO IT!
  3. Celebrate Wins: Acknowledge when your kids follow the rules or stick to a routine. Positive reinforcement goes a long way.

The Long-Term Benefits of Consistency in Parenting

When you’re consistent, you’re not just making life easier today—you’re setting your kids up for success in the future. They’ll grow up with a strong sense of responsibility, self-discipline, and respect for others.

Parenting is hard work, in fact, the hardest job on the planet! But the effort you put into being consistent will pay off in the form of confident, well-adjusted kids.

Moving Forward Together

Consistency in parenting isn’t about being perfect—it’s about showing up, day after day, with love and intention. It’s about teaching your kids that they can trust you and that they are safe in the structure you provide.

So, parents, let’s commit to being consistent, not just for our kids but for ourselves. The journey might be challenging, but the rewards are worth it.

Need more parenting tips? Check out our post on 10 Tips for Strengthening Family Bonds.

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How to Manage Parenting Stress During the Holidays

by Denise Wright

The holidays are a magical time, but let’s be honest—they can also make it difficult to manage parenting stress, inevitably taking things to a whole new level. Between coordinating schedules, shopping for gifts, and managing the inevitable sugar-induced meltdowns, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed. But don’t worry—you’re not alone, and there are ways to handle the chaos while still enjoying the season.

1. Plan Ahead to Tame Holiday Stress

One of the best ways to start managing stress is to get ahead of the chaos. Use a family calendar or planner to organize events, shopping lists, and meal plans. When everything is written down, it’s easier to see what’s coming up and avoid last-minute panic.

This is something Matt and I have started doing since being back in Oklahoma, living with family especially. Not only do we need to keep track of our own lives, but on occasion, we have to keep up with my parents as well. It’s hard for anyone, let alone busy parents to remember all the things! We started using the See It Bigger Padfolio Planner to help us stay on track with everything from shower schedules to doctor appointments. We can replace the insert every year which makes it convenient. Don’t make it harder than it has to be. Work smarter, not harder! Anything you can do to help manage parenting stress should be a top priority in my opinion!

2. Simplify Your Gift-Giving

You don’t have to do it all! Stick to a simple gift-giving formula, like the popular “Something they want, something they need, something to wear, something to read.” This not only reduces holiday stress but also keeps the budget in check.

I enjoy giving gifts, but don’t you dare ask me what I want or need because I don’t have a clue! As a mom, I’m always thinking about what everyone else wants or needs. I used to get so irritated with my mom when I was younger and would ask her to tell me what she wanted for Christmas or her birthday. She’d say, “I have no idea.” Now here I am… Mrs. I have no idea Jr.

However, when I’m stuck I enjoy visiting Etsy. There is always something there for everyone! I’d tell you what we’re getting the kids and each other… but we all read this blog. So I won’t spoil any surprises. 😉

3. Take Breaks to Recharge

As parents, we’re often so focused on making the holidays perfect for everyone else that we forget about ourselves. Schedule small breaks for self-care—even if it’s just 10 minutes to enjoy a cup of tea or read a book.

For Matt and me, living in someone else’s home makes it challenging to find a quiet space. So, we’ve turned our bedroom into a little getaway suite, complete with my Xbox and TV and Matt’s gaming PC. Most evenings, after the kids are asleep, we unwind together by playing our favorite games and chatting about our day.

It’s honestly my favorite time of the day—especially now that Matt added a wax warmer to his desk that looks like a miniature fire burning! It sets such a cozy, relaxing mood in the room and fills the air with all the holiday scents we love.

4. Delegate and Ask for Help

Remember, you don’t have to do everything alone. Enlist your partner, kids, or extended family to pitch in with decorating, wrapping, or cooking. Sharing the load can reduce parenting stress significantly. Which reminds me… If I don’t put up the kids’ miniature Christmas tree this weekend for them to decorate, they might never let me live it down!

This week in Children’s Church the kids’ teacher brought them each these scratch art ornaments to design however they wanted. I was blown away when my 11-year-old son brought his ornament to show me after church. Nobody suggested to him what to scratch into this ornament, but they had just been learning about the Virgin Mary and her Virgin birth. Didn’t the kids do such a good job?!

5. Prioritize Family Time

It’s easy to get caught up in the busyness, but some of the most cherished memories are the simplest ones. Set aside time for family traditions, like baking cookies or watching a favorite holiday movie together. These moments can ease holiday stress and bring joy to everyone. Do what works for you and your family.

My mother is great about pulling the kids into the kitchen to help her bake cookies. She’s already started her holiday baking spree to hand out trays of cookies to her neighbors. DO NOT touch the cookies. That’s a really difficult thing to do when she so rudely makes it smell like a holiday baker’s market in here. I prefer to do things outside of the kitchen with my kids because the kitchen is my space. HA! This is how I manage parenting stress. I avoid moments that are bound to cause me stress because I know myself pretty well.

Haven’t developed any of your own family traditions for the holidays? I’ll let you borrow one of ours! We love going to our local grocery store and picking up a gingerbread house-making kit to do together. We’ve even been known to order a special kit online a time or two. Check out this adorable gingerbread barn. Or if you’re like me and aren’t a fan of the taste of gingerbread… this chocolate cookie house is a must!

6. Keep Expectations Realistic

Not everything has to be perfect. The tree doesn’t need to look like it belongs in a magazine, and it’s okay if the cookies come out a little burnt. Embrace the imperfections—they’re often the moments you’ll laugh about later.

This is one I’m still working on, to be honest. My nerves and OCD get the better of me. Not gonna lie, I’ve been refraining from adjusting the garland on my mother’s Christmas tree because it isn’t evenly placed toward the bottom. THE GAP IS TO MUCH! I digress. As I was saying… not everything has to be perfect. HA!

Pro-tip: maybe write that on your hand this holiday season so you don’t forget.

7. Focus on Gratitude

During the hectic moments of the holiday season, it’s easy to get caught up in the whirlwind of to-do lists, gift shopping, and family gatherings. But when you feel overwhelmed, take a step back and reflect on what truly matters—what you’re grateful for. The holidays are about so much more than the presents we give or receive; they’re about celebrating the ultimate gift given to all of us—the birth of Jesus Christ.

This season is an opportunity to remember God’s incredible love for us, demonstrated in the gift of His Son, who came to bring hope, joy, and salvation. Share this profound truth with your family as you talk about what you’re thankful for. Encourage your kids to think about the blessings in their lives and how they can share that same love and kindness with others.

By grounding your family in gratitude and focusing on the real reason for the season, you can create a holiday filled with meaning, connection, and joy. After all, it’s not about the gifts under the tree, but the gift of grace that was given to us all. ✨

Closing Thoughts to Manage Parenting Stress

The holidays don’t have to be perfect to be memorable. If you think about it, your most memorable holiday moments probably weren’t these grand expensive gestures. But the simple smell of Grandma baking a card table full of homemade pies or riding on your brand new bean bag down the basement stairs with your siblings hoping mom doesn’t stop you.

By taking a step back, planning ahead, and prioritizing what truly matters, you can enjoy the season while keeping parenting stress at bay. Remember, the best gift you can give your family is a happy, present version of yourself.

If these tips resonate with you, share your own strategies for managing parenting stress during the holidays by sending us a quick email to [email protected]. Let’s navigate this season together!

From Our Family Experiment to yours… Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!

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The Importance of Building Strong Family Traditions

by Denise Wright

Family traditions are more than just routines—they’re the threads that weave together a family’s identity. From simple rituals like Friday movie nights to elaborate holiday celebrations, traditions help create a sense of belonging, stability, and love within a family. They remind us of who we are and what we stand for, even amidst life’s constant changes.

In this post, we’ll explore why building traditions is vital for family stability and share tips for creating meaningful rituals that your family will cherish for generations.

Why Are Family Traditions So Important?

1. They Create a Sense of Belonging

Family traditions provide a sense of connection that strengthens family bonds. Whether it’s a weekly Sunday dinner or an annual camping trip, these consistent practices remind everyone that they are part of something bigger.

In today’s world, the concept of family is being redefined in ways that often stray from its biblical roots. The family unit, as God designed it, is foundational to society—a husband and wife committed to one another, raising children in love and faith. Yet, modern culture often diminishes the importance of this sacred institution, promoting ideas that normalize divorce for reasons like “falling out of love” or redefining family in ways that stray from biblical teachings.

This shift can lead to confusion, instability, and the loss of the deep meaning and purpose God intended for families. Family traditions rooted in biblical principles help ground us in God’s design, creating a firm foundation that honors His plan and provides a sense of security and identity for children.

2. They Promote Family Stability

Traditions offer a comforting sense of predictability, which becomes especially valuable during times of change or uncertainty. Children thrive on routine, and knowing certain traditions will always be there provides a sense of security and stability.

Simple rituals, like a bedtime routine or a family holiday tradition, can serve as anchors, offering comfort and reassurance even during the most challenging times.

During one period when we lived with my parents, our kids shared a room with a bunk bed. We developed a nightly routine together: family devotion, prayer, and lights out. Our prayers were heartfelt moments where we asked God to watch over each child, bless them with restful sleep, and give them sweet dreams. When we eventually moved into our own home and the kids had their own rooms again, they wouldn’t let me get away with praying for just one of them. They insisted on hearing me pray for each other in their separate rooms. Addison would remind me, “Mommy, you didn’t pray for Bubba.” “Of course, I did… when I tucked Bubba into bed,” I’d respond.

This small tradition became a meaningful way for our children to feel connected, both to their family and to God. It wasn’t just about routine; it was about the love, faith, and reassurance that our prayers symbolized. Moments like these show the lasting impact of traditions—they provide stability in uncertain times and create a legacy of connection and care that children carry with them for years to come.

3. They Pass Down Values and Culture

Family traditions are a powerful way to instill values and share cultural heritage. By involving your kids in meaningful rituals—whether it’s holiday celebrations, cherished family recipes, or cozy storytelling nights—you’re passing down a part of who you are. These moments teach your children about respect, gratitude, and love while ensuring your family’s legacy continues for generations.

When Matt and I got married, we quickly realized our family traditions couldn’t have been more different. Now and then, I’ll share a story about a tradition from my family or a quirky habit of one of my siblings. Without fail, Matt will respond with, “Yep, we were definitely raised by two very different sets of parents.”

I grew up in a Christian home. My father, a minister, and retired pastor, and my mother who still embodies the role of the quintessential pastor’s wife—creative, compassionate, and always brimming with ideas, even as she works tirelessly to help others while maintaining a full-time secular job. Sitting still isn’t her strong suit; she’s always busy, often worrying about everyone else’s needs.

Matt, on the other hand, grew up in a non-Christian home where drinking, cussing, and a more casual approach to family life were the norm.

Despite these differences, one thing remains constant: both of our families have traditions. Over the years, we’ve taken pieces from each of our upbringings and blended them into something uniquely ours. These combined traditions have become the foundation of what we pass on to our children—traditions we hope they will carry forward to their own families one day, Lord willing.

How to Build Meaningful Family Traditions

1. Start Simple

You don’t need elaborate plans or a big budget to build family traditions. Start with something small and meaningful, like a game night, a monthly picnic, or a “family gratitude jar.”

The key is consistency—make it something your family looks forward to and can rely on.

ome of our family traditions that come to mind are simple yet deeply meaningful. For example, every Thanksgiving, Matt insists on having his mother’s cornbread dressing. It’s a recipe he cherishes, especially now that his mom has passed. Making it each year is more than just preparing a dish—it’s a way of honoring her memory and keeping her presence alive during the holidays.

Another cherished tradition is letting the kids pick out a new Christmas ornament every year for the tree. It’s a small tradition, but over time, our tree has become a timeline of memories. Each ornament tells a story—what they were interested in that year, or even a reminder of the season of life we were in as a family. Unboxing those ornaments every December is like taking a stroll through a scrapbook of our lives.

Even our dogs are included in our family traditions! Every year, for each of their birthdays, we take them to PetSmart. The kids look forward to this just as much as the dogs do. It’s become a ritual: we let them pick out a new toy and a special treat, and the joy it brings is something we all share.

These traditions, while seemingly small, weave together the fabric of our family life. They offer comfort, joy, and a sense of continuity—reminding us of the value of honoring the past while creating new memories together.

2. Get Everyone Involved

The best family traditions are those that reflect everyone’s interests and personalities. Ask your family members for ideas and ensure that everyone has a say.

For instance, let each person choose a favorite meal for family dinner night or pick a holiday activity that everyone can enjoy together.

One tradition my mother started, and that I’ve continued with my own family, is letting everyone choose their favorite dinner and dessert for their birthday meal. This tradition often means I’m cooking up a storm in the kitchen—unless, of course, it’s my own birthday. On my special day, we usually end up going out to eat, or on rare occasions, Matt will step in and take over the kitchen, cooking or grilling something I love. It’s a fun and meaningful tradition that makes each birthday feel extra special.

3. Make It Unique

Traditions don’t have to follow societal norms—they should reflect what makes your family unique. Whether it’s creating a yearly playlist for your family or hosting a “family awards night” to celebrate each other’s accomplishments, building traditions that are truly yours adds an extra layer of meaning.

Growing up in tornado-prone Oklahoma, my family’s favorite movie was Twister. We can quote it word for word, and by the end of the movie, you’ll either be wondering what’s wrong with us or be completely sucked in—just like the “suck zone”! Now, after 13 years of being part of my family, my husband has embraced our quirky hand gestures and sayings, all of which stemmed from that film.

We always thought our traditions—rooted in Twister—were uniquely ours, until one day my dad saw a friend of his doing the exact same things with his own kids. That’s when we realized Twister had made its way into more families than we realized!

4. Be Flexible

While consistency is important, I’ve learned that flexibility is what truly allows traditions to grow and evolve with our family. As the kids get older and circumstances change, I’ve come to realize that being open to adjusting our rituals helps keep them meaningful and enjoyable. It’s the adaptability that allows these traditions to stay relevant and continue bringing us together.

For example, our bedtime story routine, which was once a nightly ritual when the kids were younger, has naturally shifted over time. While we still enjoy reading together, it’s also become a time for us to share more personal moments, like praying for each other or talking about our day. As the kids get older, the stories and conversations we have together become richer, and it’s been wonderful to watch them evolve.

Adapting Traditions to Grow with Your Family

Another example of how we adjust traditions is how we celebrate birthdays. When the kids were younger, it was all about the party and the toys, but now that they’re getting older, we’re finding that we prefer to focus on spending quality time together. Whether it’s doing something special like volunteering or simply reflecting on the past year, our birthday celebrations are becoming more about connection and creating lasting memories, rather than just gifts and parties.

I think the flexibility in our traditions also reflects the blend of both mine and Matt’s backgrounds. We’ve both brought pieces of our own family traditions into ours, and the way we’ve combined them has made them even more meaningful. As our children grow, the traditions we’ve started together evolve too. Something as simple as our bedtime prayers, which once focused on the comfort of routine, now reflects our children’s personalities and needs, and it’s beautiful to see how they contribute their own ideas to it.

Flexibility ensures that the traditions we’ve built will continue to hold significance in the years to come, no matter how much our family changes. It allows us to celebrate who we are and how we’ve grown, while still keeping that same foundation of love, faith, and connection.

Examples of Family Traditions to Build Stability

  • Weekly Rituals: Family game night, movie night, or a special breakfast.
  • Seasonal Activities: Picking pumpkins in the fall, decorating the Christmas tree, or summer beach trips.
  • Milestone Celebrations: Celebrating birthdays with handwritten letters or hosting a “first day of school” photo tradition.
  • Faith-Based Practices: Attending worship services together, reading devotionals, or participating in service projects as a family.
  • Cultural Celebrations: Honoring heritage through recipes, stories, or traditional festivities.

Traditions Create Lifelong Memories

The importance of family traditions goes beyond the present moment. They become the stories your children will tell, the practices they’ll carry forward, and the moments they’ll treasure long after they leave home.

By intentionally building traditions, you’re giving your family the gift of stability, love, and a shared identity. In a constantly changing world, these rituals remind us of the strength and beauty of family.

What Are Your Family Traditions?
We’d love to hear about the traditions that make your family unique. Share them with us at [email protected]!

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5 Ways to Stay Grounded During Parenting Challenges

by Denise Wright

Parenting is one of life’s greatest joys, but it’s also one of its toughest challenges. There are days when nothing seems to go as planned—tantrums erupt, schedules fall apart, and patience is tested to its limits. Staying grounded during parenting challenges is crucial for your peace of mind and your family’s well-being. Here are five tips we try to follow to help navigate the tough times with grace and resilience.

1. Start with Self-Care to Stay Grounded in Parenting

It’s easy to put yourself last when juggling the demands of family life. However, neglecting self-care can leave you feeling drained and overwhelmed. Even small steps like walking, journaling, or spending five quiet minutes can make a big difference. And let’s be honest—we’ve all escaped to the bathroom behind a locked door at least once! We parents do what we gotta do to stay grounded in parenting. Am I right?

The truth is, you can’t pour from an empty cup. If your cup is empty, no one is going to be happy.

Tip for parents: Schedule self-care moments like an appointment you can’t miss. When you care for yourself, you’ll be better equipped to tackle parenting challenges.

2. Lean on Your Support System

Parenting isn’t meant to be done alone. A spouse, family member, friend, or fellow parent can be invaluable when you need advice or simply a listening ear.

I’ll admit, as a wife and mother, it’s not always easy to be on the listening end when my spouse vents. I’ve failed countless times by taking his words too personally. But I’ve learned that he needs the same things I do—grace, understanding, and a safe space to say, “I’m overwhelmed, overstimulated, and overworked.”

Stay grounded: Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Whether it’s delegating tasks or venting to someone who understands, leaning on others can lighten the load.

3. Focus on What You Can Control

Parenting throws curveballs—unexpected meltdowns missed appointments, or sudden changes in plans. Instead of stressing over what’s out of your control, focus on what you can manage.

For example, you might not be able to stop your child’s tantrum immediately, but you can control your response—calm and empathetic instead of reactive.

I often remind myself that kids are still learning how to handle their emotions and anxieties. I’m almost 35 years old, and I’m still learning how to cope with my anxieties. Our kids deserve the same respect we demand from them.

Just today, my kids were arguing over something trivial because neither was truly listening to the other. I finally said, “Guys, slow down and listen to each other. You’re making a big deal out of nothing. It’s called respect—try it.”

Parenting challenges become less overwhelming when you focus on your actions rather than the external chaos.

4. Practice Gratitude in the Chaos

When life feels overwhelming, it’s easy to lose sight of the good. Taking a moment to reflect on what you’re grateful for can shift your perspective. Gratitude doesn’t erase challenges, but it helps you focus on the bigger picture.

I often watch my kids and reflect on growing up with my brothers. After losing my older brother when I was nine, I tell my kids often, “What I’d give for just one more minute with him. Don’t waste time arguing over things that won’t matter tomorrow.”

At the end of the day, family is what matters most. Challenges are just a part of life, but we have so much to be thankful for.

Tip for parents: Keep a gratitude journal. Jot down three things each day that brought you joy, no matter how small. For example:

  1. I had an amazing sandwich at lunch.
  2. The kids and I shared a hilarious moment of uncontrollable laughter.
  3. I spent a peaceful moment admiring the twinkling lights on the Christmas tree.

5. Turn to Faith and Reflection to Stay Grounded in Parenting

For many parents, faith provides strength during hard times. Prayer, meditation, or reading scripture can bring peace amidst the chaos and help keep you grounded in parenting. Proverbs 22:6 reminds us, “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” Even on the hardest days, your efforts are building a foundation for your child’s future.

If you’re unsure how to lean on faith or want to learn more about having a relationship with God, we’d love to help. Reach out to us—we’d be honored to walk with you on this journey.

Stay grounded: Reflect on the values you want to instill in your children. If you don’t stand for something, you’ll fall for anything.

Remember, Challenges Are Temporary

No matter how tough parenting feels right now, it won’t last forever. By staying grounded, you’ll help yourself and model resilience for your kids. Parenting challenges test us, but they also provide opportunities for growth and deeper connection.

What’s Your Go-To Tip?
How do you stay grounded during parenting challenges? We’d love to hear your insights—share them with us at [email protected]!

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The Role of Faith in Our Parenting Journey

by Denise Wright

Parenting is an adventure—a messy, beautiful, and transformative journey that shapes not just our children but also ourselves. Through every joy and challenge, our faith has been the anchor that keeps us grounded. Even during the season when we put God on the back burner for nearly a year, He remained faithfully nearby, patiently waiting for us to turn back to Him. Parenting with faith isn’t just a choice for our family; it’s the foundation of everything we do.

Just as we love it when our kids come to us, asking for things we already know they want or need, God delights in the same from us. Why? Because it’s about communication, love, and respect. It shows trust and humility. Though God knows our needs and even the desires of our hearts, He longs for us to bring them to Him in prayer.

The Early Days: Learning to Trust

When we first became parents, we thought we had everything figured out. We’d read the books, listened to advice, and made detailed plans about how we wanted to raise our children. “We’ll do things differently than our parents!” we told ourselves. But then life happened. Sleepless nights, unexpected health challenges, and moments of complete exhaustion quickly showed us the limits of our own strength.

My mom always says, “Life is what happens while you’re busy making plans!” And she’s right. In those moments of weakness, we learned to lean on God. Proverbs 3:5-6 became our lifeline:

“Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct thy paths.”

Our family’s success wasn’t about having all the answers—it was about trusting the One who does.

Faith as Our Foundation

In a world that often feels chaotic, Christian parenting provides clarity and direction. Our faith shapes how we approach discipline, the values we instill in our kids, and the way we handle family challenges. We strive to model Christ’s love, grace, and forgiveness in our home—not perfectly, but intentionally.

The other day, Matt told our son, Ethan, “It’s Mom and Dad’s job to help mold you into the person you’re going to be when you’re grown. That isn’t always easy, but it’s necessary. Because we want the world for you. We want you to be better than us.”

One of the biggest lessons we’ve learned is that faith is caught, not just taught. Our children are watching how we live, not just what we say. Do we pray when things get hard? Show kindness to others? Admit our mistakes and ask for forgiveness? These daily actions shape the role of faith in our family.

When Matt or I make mistakes that affect our children, we go to them, admit our fault, and apologize. Why? Because if we expect respect from our children, we must show respect to them. Do unto others, right? This is called, “Leading by example.” Just as Christ led a life that we are to mimic to the best of our ability, and learn from the lessons he has given us in His word.

I’ll never forget the time our daughter asked us a question, and we responded with, “Yes, ma’am,” before providing instructions. A family member overheard and asked, “Why are you saying ‘ma’am’ to your daughter?!” Caught off guard by their surprise, I replied with an obvious, “Because I want my daughter to respect me because she deserves the same respect as a person.”

Handling Challenges with Faith

Parenting isn’t always easy. Financial struggles, relationship tensions, and the pressures of modern life can feel overwhelming. But our faith reminds us we’re not walking this road alone.

Philippians 4:13 is a promise we hold onto: “I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.”

We’ve been teaching our children to turn to prayer when they’re scared, frustrated, or unsure of what to do. It’s a simple but powerful habit that will strengthen their own walk with God.

Building a Legacy of Faith

Our ultimate goal as parents isn’t just to raise happy, well-adjusted kids—it’s to raise children who know and love the Lord. We want our family to be a light in a dark world, showing others the hope and peace that come from parenting with faith.

This means prioritizing spiritual practices, like family devotions, prayer, and attending church together. It also means being honest about our own struggles. We openly admit failures and mistakes to our kids, showing them how we take the next steps to overcome them. Why? Because the best way to teach resilience is to model it.

How will our children know we’ve overcome challenges if we never tell them what we’ve faced? How will they see God’s power in our lives if we don’t share how He’s helped us through? Life isn’t a bed of roses, and we want our kids to see how faith equips us to navigate the thorns.

Encouragement for Your Journey

If there’s one thing we’ve learned, it’s that you don’t have to be perfect to parent with faith. God doesn’t call us to be flawless; He calls us to be faithful.

No matter where you are in your parenting journey, remember that God sees you, knows you, and loves you. Lean on Him for wisdom, strength, and patience. Surround yourself with a community of believers who can encourage you. And trust that, through every trial and triumph, He is shaping you into the parent your children need.

What’s Your Story?

How has faith shaped your parenting journey? We’d love to hear your stories! Share your thoughts by emailing us at [email protected]. Together, we can encourage and uplift one another as we navigate this beautiful adventure of Christian parenting—one experiment at a time.

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Why We Started Our Parenting Blog

by Denise Wright

Welcome to Our Family Experiment

We’re thrilled to share this space with you finally—a place where we can connect, encourage, and navigate the beautiful chaos of life and parenting together.

Starting this blog has been a dream of mine for a long time. Over the years, I’ve started several blogs for our family, but I’d abandon them whenever a stressful life event happened. I convinced myself that no one wanted to read about our struggles. But after countless late-night conversations with my husband, sleepless nights, and more than a few trial-and-error moments, we realized something powerful: hearing about other people’s stresses and how they overcame them has always been what inspired us to keep going.

That realization became the foundation for this blog. Here, we’ll share our story—including the messy, stressful moments—and the lessons we’ve learned along the way. We hope to inspire other parents to embrace the highs and lows of this unpredictable journey with grace and faith.

Why We Started This Blog

Parenting doesn’t come with a playbook (trust us, we’ve checked!). Over the years, we’ve faced our fair share of challenges—financial struggles, health scares, and seasons where we leaned heavily on the love and support of our family. Through it all, one thing has remained constant: our commitment to building a strong, faith-centered family.

Early in our marriage, we made a mistake we’ll never forget. We told ourselves, “We love God and church, but right now, we just need to focus on our family.” It didn’t take long for everything to crumble—finances, family dynamics, mental health, and even our faith. It was a mess. A mess Matt barely made it out of alive.

Thankfully, God’s grace showed up through my mother, who drove from Oklahoma and helped the four of us pack up and move from Kentucky to her home over the course of one weekend.

From that experience, we learned a crucial lesson: God should always come first. It’s a lesson we thought we had mastered, but as life threw more challenges our way, we realized how easy it is to momentarily forget just who our provider is.

Time and time again, we’ve been reminded that true peace comes from surrendering control and trusting God in every aspect of our lives. And while it hasn’t always been easy, it’s a lesson we’re finally starting to catch onto.

We want to share the real, unfiltered moments of family life—because let’s be honest, it’s not all picture-perfect smiles and Pinterest-worthy parties. It’s the messy mornings, heartfelt conversations, trials that test us, and quiet victories that make this journey meaningful.

What You Can Expect

This blog isn’t just about us—it’s about building a community where parents can find encouragement, practical advice, and maybe even a laugh or two. Here are some topics you can look forward to:

  • Faith-Based Parenting: Raising children with strong values and deep faith.
  • Creative Family Life Solutions: Tips for navigating chaos and finding balance in the midst of it all.
  • Stories of Resilience: Lessons we’ve learned through trials, triumphs, and God’s unending grace.

Whether you’re looking for help building family routines, navigating tough seasons, or simply need reassurance that you’re not alone, we hope Our Family Experiment becomes a source of encouragement and inspiration for you.

Our Mission

We’re here to remind you that there’s no such thing as a perfect parent, and that’s okay. Our mission is to share authentic stories, foster meaningful conversations, and create a space where parents can come as they are—messy, tired, and doing their best.

Join Us!

We’re so glad you’re here at the start of this journey. Whether you’re a seasoned parent or just beginning, we’d love to hear your stories, questions, and feedback. Let’s grow and learn together—one experiment at a time.