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The Benefits of Family Game Night

by Denise Wright

In today’s busy world, finding quality time for family can feel like an uphill battle. Between work, school, and extracurricular activities, it’s easy to let the days slip by without truly connecting. That’s where family game night comes in. It’s more than just rolling dice or shuffling cards—it’s about creating memories, building relationships, and even sneaking in some life lessons along the way. So grab your favorite board game (or video game if you’re a nerd like us) and settle in as we explore why family game night is a tradition worth starting.

Strengthening Family Bonds Through Play

One of the greatest benefits of game night is how it brings everyone together. In our house, the laughter, groans over losing, and cheers of victory are some of the sweetest sounds. For just a few hours, distractions like work emails, school projects, and even screens take a backseat to genuine connection.

Playing games as a family helps bridge the age gap between parents and kids. Whether it’s toddlers stacking blocks in a simple game or teenagers strategizing their way through a game of Catan, the shared experience strengthens relationships. Even when the competitive spirit kicks in, the time spent together outweighs the outcome of the game.

Life Lessons Wrapped in Fun

What’s great about game night is that it’s like a secret classroom. Without even realizing it, kids are learning crucial life skills while they’re busy having fun.

Communication and Teamwork

Games that require teamwork teach kids how to communicate effectively, listen to others, and solve problems collaboratively. These skills are essential not just at home but also in school and later in life.

Emotional Resilience

Let’s be honest—nobody likes losing. But family game night provides a safe space to experience losing gracefully. Learning to cope with setbacks and cheering for someone else’s success are invaluable lessons wrapped in the guise of play.

This new-age notion of “everyone is a winner” might sound nice in theory, but in practice, it does little to prepare our kids for the realities of life. The truth is, that losing is a part of life, and shielding children from it only does them a disservice. When kids are taught that failure isn’t an option, they miss out on crucial opportunities to develop resilience, perseverance, and problem-solving skills.

Family game night is a perfect opportunity to show that losing isn’t the end of the world. It’s a chance to teach our kids that it’s okay to try, fail, and try again. Whether it’s a missed roll in Yahtzee or landing on Boardwalk in Monopoly with someone else’s hotel on it, these moments are valuable lessons in grit and grace.

When we model good sportsmanship and encourage our kids to do the same, we’re teaching them to celebrate the victories of others without diminishing their own efforts. That’s not just a game-night lesson—it’s a life lesson. Life doesn’t always hand out trophies for participation, but it does reward those who keep going, even when the odds are stacked against them. So, no, not everyone needs to “win” every time. Instead, we can focus on helping our kids win in the ways that matter most: through growth, character, and the joy of simply playing the game.

Strategic Thinking and Patience

Games like chess or Monopoly encourage kids to think several steps ahead while waiting their turn fosters patience. These moments of learning often happen naturally and make a lasting impact.

Creating Priceless Memories

In a world where schedules dominate, game night stands out as a time when we can just be together. As a mom, I treasure the moments when everyone’s laughter fills the room or when one of the kids pulls a surprising move that has everyone in stitches.

I remember one night when Addison convinced everyone to play charades. She acted out her favorite character in such a hilariously over-the-top way that we couldn’t stop laughing. Even Ethan, who tends to be more reserved, joined in and had us cracking up with his version of a zombie. Moments like that remind me why family time is so precious.

Tips for a Successful Family Game Night

Game night doesn’t have to be complicated to be successful. Here are some tips we’ve picked up over the years:

Pick the Right Games

Choose games that suit the ages and interests of your family members. For younger kids, simple games like Trouble or Candy Land work well. For older kids and adults, games like Scrabble, Ticket to Ride, or Exploding Kittens can be a hit.

Keep It Lighthearted

The goal is to have fun, not spark arguments. Encourage good sportsmanship and take breaks if things get too competitive.

Make It a Tradition

Choose a day of the week or month that works for everyone and stick to it. Having a regular game night gives everyone something to look forward to.

Snacks and Atmosphere

Turn game night into an event with fun snacks and a cozy atmosphere. Whether it’s popcorn, cookies, or a simple fruit platter, having treats on hand makes the evening even more enjoyable.

For us game night has also turned into pizza night and a movie night! A whole evening for just being together and having fun.

Expanding Beyond the Living Room

Game night doesn’t always have to involve traditional board or card games. Here are a few creative alternatives to keep things fresh:

  • Outdoor Games: When the weather’s nice, bring the fun outside with cornhole, ladder ball, or a scavenger hunt.
  • DIY Games: Let the kids get creative by making their own games. Not only does this keep them engaged, but it also sparks their imagination.
  • Video Game Night: Yes, even video games can be a bonding experience. Choose multiplayer games that require teamwork and include everyone in the fun.

Building a Family Tradition That Lasts

Family game night is more than a one-time event; it’s an opportunity to establish a meaningful tradition. As your kids grow up, these moments become the memories they’ll cherish—and possibly recreate with their own families one day.

Even on weeks when it feels like there’s no time, making the effort to sit down for a game can be the reset button your family needs. Whether it’s a quick card game before bedtime or a long Monopoly marathon on a Sunday afternoon, the benefits go far beyond the game itself.

Ready to Start Your Own Family Game Night?

If you’re looking for more ways to connect as a family, check out our other posts on creating meaningful family traditions and strengthening family bonds. Remember, it’s not about winning or losing—it’s about the time spent together and the memories made.

So, what are you waiting for? Dust off those board games, gather the family, and let the fun begin!

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Why Consistency Is Key in Parenting

by Denise Wright

Parenting isn’t for the faint of heart, is it? From sleepless nights to the whirlwind of emotions that come with raising kids, every day can feel like an experiment. But if there’s one thing I’ve learned as a mom, it’s that consistency in parenting is a game-changer. It’s so important it’s included in our very first podcast releasing January 6, 2025!

It’s not always easy, and I’ll be the first to admit that my husband Matt and I still struggle with it from time to time. But when we’ve leaned into consistency—whether it’s with routines, rules, or expectations—the results have been undeniable. It brings stability to our family life and, more importantly, helps our kids feel secure.

In this post, I’ll share why consistency matters, how it benefits your kids (and your sanity), and practical ways to stay consistent, even when life gets hectic.

What Does Consistency in Parenting Look Like?

Consistency doesn’t mean you have to become a drill sergeant or run your household like a boot camp. It’s about setting clear expectations and following through on them—whether that’s with discipline, daily routines, or how you react to your kids’ behavior.

Here’s a simple example from our home: Bedtime. If we let bedtime slide by even 30 minutes, it throws off the entire night and, honestly, the next morning too. Consistency in our bedtime routine—wind down time, brushing teeth, hugs & kisses, bed—gives our kids the structure they need to wind down and sleep peacefully.

It’s not about being perfect; it’s about being predictable.

Why Consistency in Parenting Matters

1. Kids Thrive on Routine

Have you ever noticed how much smoother the day goes when your kids know what to expect? Routines provide a sense of security and help kids navigate their world with confidence.

For example, when our daughter Addison knows that Sundays mean family dinner and time with her older girl cousins, she has something to look forward to. It’s a small thing, but it makes her feel grounded and safe.

Consistency has been a challenge for us over the years, but it’s something we’re striving to improve on every single day. The reason it’s been such a struggle is a long story, but in short, we’ve moved houses so often throughout our kids’ lives that it’s felt like hitting the reset button every time. Each move has meant establishing new routines, adjusting to a new environment, and trying to blend our family dynamic with the dynamics of living with extended family. It’s been tough, but we’re learning and growing together.

2. Consistency Builds Trust

When you’re consistent, your kids know they can rely on you. Whether it’s sticking to a rule or keeping your promise, consistency builds trust and strengthens your relationship.

There have been times when I’ve had to remind myself that “no” has to mean “no,” even when it’s easier to give in. It’s hard in the moment, but it’s worth it when your kids learn that your words have weight.

Just this past week, while we had family visiting for the holidays, Addison and Ethan couldn’t stop bickering. Tensions were high, and with so many people around, it was hard to intervene effectively. Finally, I had enough and told them both that if they didn’t start treating each other with kindness and stop yelling, there would be consequences. In our house, that usually means a spanking—though it’s not a common occurrence, it has been necessary on rare occasions.

They both responded with their “Yes, ma’am’s,” but not much later, chaos erupted again. It felt like I was watching it unfold in slow motion, powerless to stop it in time. I was right in the middle of preparing the last dish for Christmas dinner when I put the knife down, turned around, and without hesitation, said to Addison, “I told you there would be consequences for screaming at your brother. I promised.”

As much as I hated it, I stopped everything, took her to her room, and gave her a small spanking. And you know what? It worked. They stopped screaming at each other after that.

It wasn’t a moment I enjoyed, but it was a reminder that when we set boundaries and follow through, it helps create a sense of structure and accountability.

3. It Reduces Anxiety

Uncertainty can be overwhelming for kids, especially when they’re little. Clear expectations and consistent reactions help reduce their anxiety. They don’t have to guess how you’ll respond or whether the rules will change.

Matt and I have seen this firsthand with our son Ethan. When we’re consistent with screen time rules, he’s less likely to push boundaries because he knows exactly what’s allowed and what isn’t.

How to Be Consistent Without Feeling Overwhelmed

1. Start Small

Don’t try to overhaul your entire parenting style overnight. Focus on one area where consistency could make the biggest impact, like bedtime routines or screen time limits.

Matt was sharing with me just the other day about a book he’s been listening to called The Slight Edge. The concept of the book is simple yet powerful: it emphasizes how successful people don’t necessarily make giant, life-altering changes all at once. Instead, they focus on being consistent in the small, seemingly insignificant things. Over time, these small, consistent actions create a ripple effect, ultimately building a strong foundation for a better future.

It’s not about perfection or big wins—it’s about the daily habits that may feel mundane or even trivial in the moment. Brushing your teeth, exercising for just 15 minutes a day, choosing water over soda—all of these small decisions compound over time, leading to big results. And the same principle applies to parenting.

For example, consistently setting aside 10 minutes each day to talk with your child or sticking to a bedtime routine might not feel groundbreaking in the moment. But over time, these consistent actions build trust, security, and stronger family bonds. The Slight Edge teaches us that success—whether in parenting, career, or personal goals—isn’t about the big leaps; it’s about the small steps we take every single day.

Hearing Matt talk about the book was a reminder for me to look at my own parenting through that lens. It’s easy to get caught up in wanting to fix everything all at once, especially when chaos seems to take over. But the truth is, real change comes from those small, intentional actions we take consistently. It’s a humbling realization, but also a hopeful one. Because when you focus on the little things, you’re not just getting through the day—you’re planting seeds for a brighter future for yourself and your family.

2. Communicate Clearly

Make sure your kids know what the rules and expectations are. Use age-appropriate language and explain the “why” behind your decisions.

For example, we’ve told our kids that limiting screen time isn’t about punishment—it’s about making sure they have time for other activities, like playing outside or doing crafts.

Don’t get me wrong—there are times when we give instructions and the kids, not liking what they hear, ask, “Why?” And let’s be honest, in those moments when we’re in the middle of our own thoughts or feeling overstimulated, we might default to the age-old response: “Because I said so.” And you know what? That’s okay… sometimes.

But most of the time, kids need to understand why we’re asking them to do—or not do—something. Why is that important? Well, because they’re still learning about life, how things work, and how to navigate the world. Curious minds are strong minds. And when we take the time to explain, we’re encouraging that curiosity, which is a critical part of their development.

Teaching them to question and seek understanding helps them grow into independent thinkers. It also sets the stage for a future where they don’t just accept everything at face value. Without that curiosity, they may grow up believing everything they hear simply because “someone said so.” So yes, sometimes “because I said so” is enough, but most times, it’s worth pausing to give them the why they’re searching for.

3. Involve Your Partner

Consistency works best when both parents are on the same page. Sit down with your partner and agree on the rules, consequences, and routines you want to prioritize.

Matt and I didn’t always do this well. In the early days of parenting, we’d accidentally send mixed messages to the kids because we hadn’t communicated with each other first. Now, we make it a point to have regular “parent meetings” to stay aligned.

Tell me your kids haven’t learned to work the system of going to mom, but if she says no, go to dad? Yeah… name me a kid who hasn’t tried that at least once. Be on the SAME PAGE!

4. Be Flexible When Needed

Consistency doesn’t mean rigidity. Life happens—there will be days when routines go out the window, and that’s okay. The key is to get back on track as soon as possible.

One summer, we took a last-minute road trip that completely derailed our usual schedules. Instead of stressing, we embraced the chaos and returned to our normal routines once we got home.

Common Challenges (and How to Overcome Them)

1. Feeling Like the Bad Guy

It’s tough to enforce rules when your kids are upset about them. But remember, consistency is an act of love. You’re teaching your kids important life skills, even if they don’t appreciate it in the moment.

2. Burnout

Parenting is exhausting, and staying consistent can feel like just one more thing on your plate. Give yourself grace, and don’t be afraid to lean on your partner, friends, or even a parenting group for support.

3. Pushback from Kids

Kids will test limits—it’s part of their job description. Stay calm, stand your ground, and remind yourself that consistency now will pay off in the long run.

Practical Tips for Creating Rules and Routines

  1. Use Visual Aids: A simple chart or calendar can help younger kids remember their daily routines.
  2. Set Clear Consequences: Be specific about what will happen if rules aren’t followed, and STICK TO IT!
  3. Celebrate Wins: Acknowledge when your kids follow the rules or stick to a routine. Positive reinforcement goes a long way.

The Long-Term Benefits of Consistency in Parenting

When you’re consistent, you’re not just making life easier today—you’re setting your kids up for success in the future. They’ll grow up with a strong sense of responsibility, self-discipline, and respect for others.

Parenting is hard work, in fact, the hardest job on the planet! But the effort you put into being consistent will pay off in the form of confident, well-adjusted kids.

Moving Forward Together

Consistency in parenting isn’t about being perfect—it’s about showing up, day after day, with love and intention. It’s about teaching your kids that they can trust you and that they are safe in the structure you provide.

So, parents, let’s commit to being consistent, not just for our kids but for ourselves. The journey might be challenging, but the rewards are worth it.

Need more parenting tips? Check out our post on 10 Tips for Strengthening Family Bonds.

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How to Foster Open Communication with Your Kids: Parent-to-Parent Guide

by Denise Wright

Open communication is the foundation of a strong family bond, but as every parent knows, it’s far from easy. Navigating tough conversations and creating a safe space for kids to express themselves is a challenge we all face. That’s why we’re here to share practical, parent-to-parent tips for fostering honest dialogue within your family.

At Our Family Experiment, we pride ourselves on being open, raw, and honest with our readers and listeners. So, let me be real with you—communicating with kids doesn’t always go smoothly. Just last night, I tried to talk to Addison about something she needed help with, and it did not go well. She wouldn’t listen, got an attitude, and I ended up losing my cool and yelling at her.

Later, after stepping away from the situation, I realized I had failed—miserably. Swallowing my pride, I sat down with her to explain why I got upset and how we could avoid this in the future. It wasn’t easy, especially because my parents didn’t do that kind of thing when I was growing up. This wasn’t an action based on experience—it was based on what I wish had been done for me as a child.

I’ve heard baby boomers say over and over how anxiety attacks, panic attacks, or neurodivergence “weren’t an issue back in their day.” My goodness, just because something wasn’t named or talked about doesn’t mean it didn’t exist. Now, generations since that era are trying to navigate and name the challenges they’ve faced as adults and parents.

That said, as a Millennial with iGen kids, I’ve noticed some people take it to the other extreme. They over-excuse bad behavior, slap a diagnosis on it, and use it as a justification: “This is just how I am because I have this medical issue.” Don’t get me wrong—many people truly need understanding and medical support. But not everything requires a pill or a diagnosis. Sometimes, kids just need good old-fashioned discipline. On that one point, I can agree with the baby boomers.

Finding the balance between understanding, discipline, and open communication isn’t easy, but it’s worth striving for. Let’s figure it out together.

Why Open Communication Matters

As parents, we often wish we could read our kids’ minds. But the reality is, trust and open communication take time to build. Creating a safe space for your kids to share their thoughts and feelings helps them feel valued and understood. This foundation of trust not only strengthens your relationship but also equips them to face life’s challenges with confidence.

Matt and I have had countless conversations with our kids, trying to draw out their feelings—sometimes even about us. Hearing their honest thoughts about how we’ve handled a situation or made them feel is never easy. It’s a tough conversation for everyone involved. The kids may feel scared to share something harsh, worried about being ridiculed or punished for their feelings. Meanwhile, we parents have to sit there, biting our tongues, doing everything we can not to react defensively to the information we’re hearing.

For someone like me, who learns best by seeing something done, this makes parenting an even bigger challenge. There’s no example to follow, no perfect guide to refer to. And that’s why it truly feels like an experiment—an ever-evolving, humbling, and rewarding one.

5 Parent-to-Parent Tips for Encouraging Open Communication

1. Create a Safe Space for Honest Conversations

Children are more likely to open up when they feel safe and free from judgment.

  • Set aside regular one-on-one time to talk with each child.
  • Avoid interrupting or dismissing their feelings.
  • Use phrases like, “I’m here to listen, not judge.”

Parent to parent, we know that fostering open communication takes practice, but the effort is absolutely worth it when your kids feel safe sharing their thoughts with you. Our children should feel secure coming to us with their feelings, questions, or concerns. If they don’t, they may eventually turn to other sources for comfort or develop unhealthy coping mechanisms to manage their emotions. Creating that sense of safety now lays the foundation for trust and resilience as they grow.

Am I a licensed professional? Nope. I’m just a mom speaking from experience—someone who was once a child herself and is now navigating the adventure of raising her own.

2. Model the Behavior You Want to See

Kids learn by example, so show them what open communication looks like:

  • Share your own thoughts and feelings in age-appropriate ways.
  • Admit when you’re wrong and apologize sincerely.
  • Discuss family decisions openly to show respect for everyone’s input.

From one parent to another, modeling vulnerability can feel uncomfortable, but it shows your kids that it’s okay to be human. We may never receive apologies for the things that still sting when we think about them. But if our childhoods have taught us anything, it’s this: there are lessons in what we didn’t appreciate, and those lessons drive us to do better for our own children.

3. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Instead of questions that prompt yes-or-no answers, try these:

  • “What was the best part of your day?”
  • “How do you feel about what happened at school today?”
  • “What’s something you’re excited or worried about?”

Open-ended questions invite deeper conversations and create opportunities for your kids to express themselves freely, without fear of giving the “wrong” answer. Instead of shutting down dialogue with simple yes-or-no responses, these questions encourage them to explore their thoughts and feelings. It’s not just about getting them to talk; it’s about showing them that their opinions, fears, and dreams matter.

Questions like, “What was the best part of your day?” or “How do you feel about what happened at school today?” signal to your kids that you’re genuinely interested in their experiences and willing to listen without judgment. This approach fosters a sense of safety and trust, allowing them to open up more readily over time.

It also strengthens your connection as a family. When kids know they’ll be heard, they’re more likely to share not just the good but also the challenges they’re facing. This can lead to meaningful problem-solving discussions and teach them the value of open communication in all areas of life.

When it comes to our kids, Ethan is the tough nut to crack. Getting him to open up feels like solving a puzzle with missing pieces. Addison, on the other hand, is the complete opposite—she’ll happily share every thought and feeling, whether you asked for them or not!

4. Make Time for Family Meetings

Set up regular family meetings to discuss feelings, plans, or challenges as a group.

  • Keep the tone light and supportive, not punitive.
  • Encourage everyone, including you, to share their thoughts.
  • End on a positive note, such as celebrating small wins or planning a fun family activity.

Family meetings show your kids that their voices matter, creating a space where everyone feels valued and strengthening the parent-to-child connection.

We don’t have family meetings as often as we should, but when we do, they’re incredibly helpful! That said, I have to admit—hearing the words “Family Meeting” instantly takes me back to my childhood. For me, those words usually meant mom and dad had reached their limit, and it was time for everyone to sit down and hear about how bad we’d been and how we needed to do better. It wasn’t an open conversation; it was a lecture. Our thoughts and feelings weren’t always welcomed, and if they were, it often felt like our thoughts and feelings were invalid. To be honest, this is probably why I (Denise) have such a hard time communicating with Matt in intense situations.

I want to be clear—I’m not trying to paint a picture of a terrible childhood. My parents did their best, as all parents do. I simply want to point out that all parents, including Matt and me, make mistakes. Sometimes those mistakes are small, and we learn from them quickly. Other times, we don’t realize they were mistakes until it’s too late.

To be fair, there’s a time and place for that kind of family meeting. Matt and I have had to hold those tough conversations ourselves, and they serve an important purpose. But the memory of those “family meetings” from my own childhood comes with a lot of negative connotations. That’s why we aim to create a different kind of family meeting for our kids—one that invites open dialogue, mutual respect, and understanding, rather than fear or frustration. It’s not perfect, but it’s a step toward fostering the kind of connection we want to have as a family.

Matt also dealt with similar situations with his parents growing up. I can’t speak for him because I wasn’t there. But I was there to witness some of the ways his younger sister was parented. And it wasn’t always pretty. I’ve even been on the receiving end of correction from Matts mom early on in our marriage. Just constant reminders of how I don’t want to act toward my kids. But again, as I admitted early on, I too fail at times.

5. Be Patient and Consistent

Building open communication takes time. Some days your kids may talk nonstop, and other days they may give one-word answers.

  • Stay consistent in your efforts to communicate.
  • Celebrate the small moments when they open up.
  • Let them know you’re always there, no matter what.

Patience and consistency are the secret ingredients to fostering trust and strengthening family bonds. I know how cliché that sounds—trust me, I rolled my eyes at myself as I wrote that. Because, let’s be real, some days it’s easy to be patient and consistent, and other days it’s like calmly explaining algebra to a tween who’s dramatically proclaiming they’ll never use math in real life.

The Benefits of Open Communication

When open communication becomes part of your family dynamic, you’ll notice positive changes:

  • Your kids will feel more confident sharing their thoughts and emotions.
  • Family conflicts will be easier to resolve.
  • You’ll build a deeper understanding of each other, creating a stronger family bond.
  • You’re kids will actually want to spend time with you. Without force!

Conclusion: Building Stronger Bonds

From our chaotic parenting woes to yours, fostering open communication with your kids is a journey, not a destination. By creating a safe space, modeling openness, asking meaningful questions, and staying consistent, you’re building a foundation of trust that will last a lifetime. If you’ve ever watched a foundation being laid, it something that takes time, patience, knowledge, skills, and at times trial and error. It isn’t something that happens over night. So as you put these thoughts into practice, don’t get dissapointed if you don’t see immediate results!

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How to Manage Parenting Stress During the Holidays

by Denise Wright

The holidays are a magical time, but let’s be honest—they can also make it difficult to manage parenting stress, inevitably taking things to a whole new level. Between coordinating schedules, shopping for gifts, and managing the inevitable sugar-induced meltdowns, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed. But don’t worry—you’re not alone, and there are ways to handle the chaos while still enjoying the season.

1. Plan Ahead to Tame Holiday Stress

One of the best ways to start managing stress is to get ahead of the chaos. Use a family calendar or planner to organize events, shopping lists, and meal plans. When everything is written down, it’s easier to see what’s coming up and avoid last-minute panic.

This is something Matt and I have started doing since being back in Oklahoma, living with family especially. Not only do we need to keep track of our own lives, but on occasion, we have to keep up with my parents as well. It’s hard for anyone, let alone busy parents to remember all the things! We started using the See It Bigger Padfolio Planner to help us stay on track with everything from shower schedules to doctor appointments. We can replace the insert every year which makes it convenient. Don’t make it harder than it has to be. Work smarter, not harder! Anything you can do to help manage parenting stress should be a top priority in my opinion!

2. Simplify Your Gift-Giving

You don’t have to do it all! Stick to a simple gift-giving formula, like the popular “Something they want, something they need, something to wear, something to read.” This not only reduces holiday stress but also keeps the budget in check.

I enjoy giving gifts, but don’t you dare ask me what I want or need because I don’t have a clue! As a mom, I’m always thinking about what everyone else wants or needs. I used to get so irritated with my mom when I was younger and would ask her to tell me what she wanted for Christmas or her birthday. She’d say, “I have no idea.” Now here I am… Mrs. I have no idea Jr.

However, when I’m stuck I enjoy visiting Etsy. There is always something there for everyone! I’d tell you what we’re getting the kids and each other… but we all read this blog. So I won’t spoil any surprises. 😉

3. Take Breaks to Recharge

As parents, we’re often so focused on making the holidays perfect for everyone else that we forget about ourselves. Schedule small breaks for self-care—even if it’s just 10 minutes to enjoy a cup of tea or read a book.

For Matt and me, living in someone else’s home makes it challenging to find a quiet space. So, we’ve turned our bedroom into a little getaway suite, complete with my Xbox and TV and Matt’s gaming PC. Most evenings, after the kids are asleep, we unwind together by playing our favorite games and chatting about our day.

It’s honestly my favorite time of the day—especially now that Matt added a wax warmer to his desk that looks like a miniature fire burning! It sets such a cozy, relaxing mood in the room and fills the air with all the holiday scents we love.

4. Delegate and Ask for Help

Remember, you don’t have to do everything alone. Enlist your partner, kids, or extended family to pitch in with decorating, wrapping, or cooking. Sharing the load can reduce parenting stress significantly. Which reminds me… If I don’t put up the kids’ miniature Christmas tree this weekend for them to decorate, they might never let me live it down!

This week in Children’s Church the kids’ teacher brought them each these scratch art ornaments to design however they wanted. I was blown away when my 11-year-old son brought his ornament to show me after church. Nobody suggested to him what to scratch into this ornament, but they had just been learning about the Virgin Mary and her Virgin birth. Didn’t the kids do such a good job?!

5. Prioritize Family Time

It’s easy to get caught up in the busyness, but some of the most cherished memories are the simplest ones. Set aside time for family traditions, like baking cookies or watching a favorite holiday movie together. These moments can ease holiday stress and bring joy to everyone. Do what works for you and your family.

My mother is great about pulling the kids into the kitchen to help her bake cookies. She’s already started her holiday baking spree to hand out trays of cookies to her neighbors. DO NOT touch the cookies. That’s a really difficult thing to do when she so rudely makes it smell like a holiday baker’s market in here. I prefer to do things outside of the kitchen with my kids because the kitchen is my space. HA! This is how I manage parenting stress. I avoid moments that are bound to cause me stress because I know myself pretty well.

Haven’t developed any of your own family traditions for the holidays? I’ll let you borrow one of ours! We love going to our local grocery store and picking up a gingerbread house-making kit to do together. We’ve even been known to order a special kit online a time or two. Check out this adorable gingerbread barn. Or if you’re like me and aren’t a fan of the taste of gingerbread… this chocolate cookie house is a must!

6. Keep Expectations Realistic

Not everything has to be perfect. The tree doesn’t need to look like it belongs in a magazine, and it’s okay if the cookies come out a little burnt. Embrace the imperfections—they’re often the moments you’ll laugh about later.

This is one I’m still working on, to be honest. My nerves and OCD get the better of me. Not gonna lie, I’ve been refraining from adjusting the garland on my mother’s Christmas tree because it isn’t evenly placed toward the bottom. THE GAP IS TO MUCH! I digress. As I was saying… not everything has to be perfect. HA!

Pro-tip: maybe write that on your hand this holiday season so you don’t forget.

7. Focus on Gratitude

During the hectic moments of the holiday season, it’s easy to get caught up in the whirlwind of to-do lists, gift shopping, and family gatherings. But when you feel overwhelmed, take a step back and reflect on what truly matters—what you’re grateful for. The holidays are about so much more than the presents we give or receive; they’re about celebrating the ultimate gift given to all of us—the birth of Jesus Christ.

This season is an opportunity to remember God’s incredible love for us, demonstrated in the gift of His Son, who came to bring hope, joy, and salvation. Share this profound truth with your family as you talk about what you’re thankful for. Encourage your kids to think about the blessings in their lives and how they can share that same love and kindness with others.

By grounding your family in gratitude and focusing on the real reason for the season, you can create a holiday filled with meaning, connection, and joy. After all, it’s not about the gifts under the tree, but the gift of grace that was given to us all. ✨

Closing Thoughts to Manage Parenting Stress

The holidays don’t have to be perfect to be memorable. If you think about it, your most memorable holiday moments probably weren’t these grand expensive gestures. But the simple smell of Grandma baking a card table full of homemade pies or riding on your brand new bean bag down the basement stairs with your siblings hoping mom doesn’t stop you.

By taking a step back, planning ahead, and prioritizing what truly matters, you can enjoy the season while keeping parenting stress at bay. Remember, the best gift you can give your family is a happy, present version of yourself.

If these tips resonate with you, share your own strategies for managing parenting stress during the holidays by sending us a quick email to [email protected]. Let’s navigate this season together!

From Our Family Experiment to yours… Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!

Family Traditions
Faith and Family

The Importance of Building Strong Family Traditions

by Denise Wright

Family traditions are more than just routines—they’re the threads that weave together a family’s identity. From simple rituals like Friday movie nights to elaborate holiday celebrations, traditions help create a sense of belonging, stability, and love within a family. They remind us of who we are and what we stand for, even amidst life’s constant changes.

In this post, we’ll explore why building traditions is vital for family stability and share tips for creating meaningful rituals that your family will cherish for generations.

Why Are Family Traditions So Important?

1. They Create a Sense of Belonging

Family traditions provide a sense of connection that strengthens family bonds. Whether it’s a weekly Sunday dinner or an annual camping trip, these consistent practices remind everyone that they are part of something bigger.

In today’s world, the concept of family is being redefined in ways that often stray from its biblical roots. The family unit, as God designed it, is foundational to society—a husband and wife committed to one another, raising children in love and faith. Yet, modern culture often diminishes the importance of this sacred institution, promoting ideas that normalize divorce for reasons like “falling out of love” or redefining family in ways that stray from biblical teachings.

This shift can lead to confusion, instability, and the loss of the deep meaning and purpose God intended for families. Family traditions rooted in biblical principles help ground us in God’s design, creating a firm foundation that honors His plan and provides a sense of security and identity for children.

2. They Promote Family Stability

Traditions offer a comforting sense of predictability, which becomes especially valuable during times of change or uncertainty. Children thrive on routine, and knowing certain traditions will always be there provides a sense of security and stability.

Simple rituals, like a bedtime routine or a family holiday tradition, can serve as anchors, offering comfort and reassurance even during the most challenging times.

During one period when we lived with my parents, our kids shared a room with a bunk bed. We developed a nightly routine together: family devotion, prayer, and lights out. Our prayers were heartfelt moments where we asked God to watch over each child, bless them with restful sleep, and give them sweet dreams. When we eventually moved into our own home and the kids had their own rooms again, they wouldn’t let me get away with praying for just one of them. They insisted on hearing me pray for each other in their separate rooms. Addison would remind me, “Mommy, you didn’t pray for Bubba.” “Of course, I did… when I tucked Bubba into bed,” I’d respond.

This small tradition became a meaningful way for our children to feel connected, both to their family and to God. It wasn’t just about routine; it was about the love, faith, and reassurance that our prayers symbolized. Moments like these show the lasting impact of traditions—they provide stability in uncertain times and create a legacy of connection and care that children carry with them for years to come.

3. They Pass Down Values and Culture

Family traditions are a powerful way to instill values and share cultural heritage. By involving your kids in meaningful rituals—whether it’s holiday celebrations, cherished family recipes, or cozy storytelling nights—you’re passing down a part of who you are. These moments teach your children about respect, gratitude, and love while ensuring your family’s legacy continues for generations.

When Matt and I got married, we quickly realized our family traditions couldn’t have been more different. Now and then, I’ll share a story about a tradition from my family or a quirky habit of one of my siblings. Without fail, Matt will respond with, “Yep, we were definitely raised by two very different sets of parents.”

I grew up in a Christian home. My father, a minister, and retired pastor, and my mother who still embodies the role of the quintessential pastor’s wife—creative, compassionate, and always brimming with ideas, even as she works tirelessly to help others while maintaining a full-time secular job. Sitting still isn’t her strong suit; she’s always busy, often worrying about everyone else’s needs.

Matt, on the other hand, grew up in a non-Christian home where drinking, cussing, and a more casual approach to family life were the norm.

Despite these differences, one thing remains constant: both of our families have traditions. Over the years, we’ve taken pieces from each of our upbringings and blended them into something uniquely ours. These combined traditions have become the foundation of what we pass on to our children—traditions we hope they will carry forward to their own families one day, Lord willing.

How to Build Meaningful Family Traditions

1. Start Simple

You don’t need elaborate plans or a big budget to build family traditions. Start with something small and meaningful, like a game night, a monthly picnic, or a “family gratitude jar.”

The key is consistency—make it something your family looks forward to and can rely on.

ome of our family traditions that come to mind are simple yet deeply meaningful. For example, every Thanksgiving, Matt insists on having his mother’s cornbread dressing. It’s a recipe he cherishes, especially now that his mom has passed. Making it each year is more than just preparing a dish—it’s a way of honoring her memory and keeping her presence alive during the holidays.

Another cherished tradition is letting the kids pick out a new Christmas ornament every year for the tree. It’s a small tradition, but over time, our tree has become a timeline of memories. Each ornament tells a story—what they were interested in that year, or even a reminder of the season of life we were in as a family. Unboxing those ornaments every December is like taking a stroll through a scrapbook of our lives.

Even our dogs are included in our family traditions! Every year, for each of their birthdays, we take them to PetSmart. The kids look forward to this just as much as the dogs do. It’s become a ritual: we let them pick out a new toy and a special treat, and the joy it brings is something we all share.

These traditions, while seemingly small, weave together the fabric of our family life. They offer comfort, joy, and a sense of continuity—reminding us of the value of honoring the past while creating new memories together.

2. Get Everyone Involved

The best family traditions are those that reflect everyone’s interests and personalities. Ask your family members for ideas and ensure that everyone has a say.

For instance, let each person choose a favorite meal for family dinner night or pick a holiday activity that everyone can enjoy together.

One tradition my mother started, and that I’ve continued with my own family, is letting everyone choose their favorite dinner and dessert for their birthday meal. This tradition often means I’m cooking up a storm in the kitchen—unless, of course, it’s my own birthday. On my special day, we usually end up going out to eat, or on rare occasions, Matt will step in and take over the kitchen, cooking or grilling something I love. It’s a fun and meaningful tradition that makes each birthday feel extra special.

3. Make It Unique

Traditions don’t have to follow societal norms—they should reflect what makes your family unique. Whether it’s creating a yearly playlist for your family or hosting a “family awards night” to celebrate each other’s accomplishments, building traditions that are truly yours adds an extra layer of meaning.

Growing up in tornado-prone Oklahoma, my family’s favorite movie was Twister. We can quote it word for word, and by the end of the movie, you’ll either be wondering what’s wrong with us or be completely sucked in—just like the “suck zone”! Now, after 13 years of being part of my family, my husband has embraced our quirky hand gestures and sayings, all of which stemmed from that film.

We always thought our traditions—rooted in Twister—were uniquely ours, until one day my dad saw a friend of his doing the exact same things with his own kids. That’s when we realized Twister had made its way into more families than we realized!

4. Be Flexible

While consistency is important, I’ve learned that flexibility is what truly allows traditions to grow and evolve with our family. As the kids get older and circumstances change, I’ve come to realize that being open to adjusting our rituals helps keep them meaningful and enjoyable. It’s the adaptability that allows these traditions to stay relevant and continue bringing us together.

For example, our bedtime story routine, which was once a nightly ritual when the kids were younger, has naturally shifted over time. While we still enjoy reading together, it’s also become a time for us to share more personal moments, like praying for each other or talking about our day. As the kids get older, the stories and conversations we have together become richer, and it’s been wonderful to watch them evolve.

Adapting Traditions to Grow with Your Family

Another example of how we adjust traditions is how we celebrate birthdays. When the kids were younger, it was all about the party and the toys, but now that they’re getting older, we’re finding that we prefer to focus on spending quality time together. Whether it’s doing something special like volunteering or simply reflecting on the past year, our birthday celebrations are becoming more about connection and creating lasting memories, rather than just gifts and parties.

I think the flexibility in our traditions also reflects the blend of both mine and Matt’s backgrounds. We’ve both brought pieces of our own family traditions into ours, and the way we’ve combined them has made them even more meaningful. As our children grow, the traditions we’ve started together evolve too. Something as simple as our bedtime prayers, which once focused on the comfort of routine, now reflects our children’s personalities and needs, and it’s beautiful to see how they contribute their own ideas to it.

Flexibility ensures that the traditions we’ve built will continue to hold significance in the years to come, no matter how much our family changes. It allows us to celebrate who we are and how we’ve grown, while still keeping that same foundation of love, faith, and connection.

Examples of Family Traditions to Build Stability

  • Weekly Rituals: Family game night, movie night, or a special breakfast.
  • Seasonal Activities: Picking pumpkins in the fall, decorating the Christmas tree, or summer beach trips.
  • Milestone Celebrations: Celebrating birthdays with handwritten letters or hosting a “first day of school” photo tradition.
  • Faith-Based Practices: Attending worship services together, reading devotionals, or participating in service projects as a family.
  • Cultural Celebrations: Honoring heritage through recipes, stories, or traditional festivities.

Traditions Create Lifelong Memories

The importance of family traditions goes beyond the present moment. They become the stories your children will tell, the practices they’ll carry forward, and the moments they’ll treasure long after they leave home.

By intentionally building traditions, you’re giving your family the gift of stability, love, and a shared identity. In a constantly changing world, these rituals remind us of the strength and beauty of family.

What Are Your Family Traditions?
We’d love to hear about the traditions that make your family unique. Share them with us at [email protected]!

Family Bonding

10 Tips for Strengthening Family Bonds

by Denise Wright

Family bonds are the glue that holds us together through life’s highs and lows. A close, connected family doesn’t happen by accident—it’s built through intentional actions, shared moments, and consistent love. In a world full of distractions, making time for each other and prioritizing these connections is more important than ever.

Here are 10 simple but powerful tips for strengthening family bonds and fostering a deeper connection with your loved ones.

1. Prioritize Family Time

In the hustle and bustle of life, it’s easy to let family time take a backseat. Make it a point to schedule regular moments together, whether it’s a family game night, Sunday dinner, or a quick walk around the neighborhood. These moments create shared memories and strengthen relationships. 

At my (Denise’s) mother’s house, she has weekly family dinners for the entire family. We come, eat, and hang out! It’s usually very loud and by the time it’s all over Matt and I in our introvertedness are ready for peace in our bedroom, (since we are living here with my parents), but are thankful for the time we got to spend with everyone.

Scheduling regular family activities creates shared memories and strengthens relationships. Here are some of our family’s favorite board games and video games:

2. Practice Open Communication

Encourage open, honest, and respectful conversations with your family. Create an environment where everyone feels heard and valued. Ask open-ended questions like, “What was the best part of your day?” or “What’s something you’re excited about right now?” If you are like me and have trouble with small talk or just starting the conversation, I’ve found that TableTopics has a Family edition of their conversation starter cards and they are SO helpful!

This is easy with our daughter because she has the gift of gab. You best be prepared for a long drawn-out answer from her. Not to mention half a dozen rabbit trails. However, these types of questions are overwhelming to Ethan. He’s like his momma. The spoken word terrifies me. I’d rather be writing. Otherwise, I better have a script or an idea of what I need to say before I say it. He will answer these types of questions, it just takes him a bit longer. So patience is key!

3. Unplug and Be Present

Technology is a wonderful tool, but it can also be a major distraction. Set aside time to unplug from devices and focus solely on each other. Whether it’s during meals or designated family hours, being present helps deepen your connection.

This is easier said than done. Can you imagine the look my husband and I give each other when one of us grounds the kids from their devices!? Like… “What have you done? Now they will be all over us and constantly seeking our attention because they are bored!” All jokes aside though, it is important to unplug. We will often take short drives just to get out of the house. Go to the park. Get our favorite drinks from Sonic. When it’s warm, take the drone and RC cars out in the cul-de-sac and play! 

It really doesn’t matter how glamorous the activity… what matters is just being in the moment. Don’t let your kids remember you by how much time your face was glued to your phone or computer. Not only are you an example, but you are THE main example impacting the very core of their being. And your children will be affected by what you do or do not do. Be there in every way. Mentally and physically.

4. Create Family Traditions

Traditions, big or small, give your family something special to look forward to. It could be baking cookies every Christmas, having pizza on Friday nights, or taking a yearly camping trip. These rituals create lasting memories and give your family a sense of identity.

For us, especially around the holidays, it’s shooting the BB gun on Thanksgiving at whatever target we can grab. Mostly sheets of paper on a box, but occasionally momma’s rotten pumpkin decor. Or how we go out every year and let the kids pick out a new Christmas ornament to put on the tree.

Traditions might seem small and insignificant, but over time, they add up. And years from now your children will be sitting around with their children reminiscing about their childhood. What do you want them to remember or carry on with them when you are gone?

Establishing rituals fosters a sense of identity. Ideas include:

Personalized Ornaments: Allowing each family member to choose or create an ornament annually adds personal significance to holiday traditions.

Holiday Craft Kits: Creating decorations together can become a cherished tradition.

5. Show Gratitude and Appreciation

Take time to recognize and celebrate each other. A simple “Thank you” or “I’m proud of you” goes a long way in strengthening family bonds. Encourage your kids to do the same with their siblings and other family members.

Our daughter is constantly drawing something new. And over the last year, she has amazed me as she learns and develops new ways to draw and color things. Just recently she asked for new crayons because she wanted to be able to add texture to her drawings. Texture!? Okay!

It’s really easy to passively say, “Oh that looks good.” and then go about my day. But it’s really important to stop for the whole 1 to 2 minutes it might take to really look at what your child has done and actually commend them for a job well done. And being the artsy mom I am, even give her a couple of tips here and there.

This shows two things. 1. I see you, I hear you, I love you, and I’m proud of you. And 2. I want you to feel seen, heard, loved, and proud of yourself!

Expressing thanks strengthens bonds. Tools to facilitate this:

Recognition Boards: A family bulletin board to post achievements and positive notes to celebrate individual contributions.

Gratitude Journals: Encourage family members to document daily appreciation, fostering a culture of gratitude.

6. Pray Together

Prayer is a powerful way to bring your family closer, not just to each other but also to God. Whether it’s a daily family prayer, grace before meals, or coming together during tough times, prayer helps create a foundation of faith and unity. For our family, we pray every night before bedtime. If the kids sleep over anywhere or we are ever away, they expect our bedtime routine to continue regardless.

7. Serve Each Other and Others

Acts of service within your family build mutual respect and love. Helping a sibling with their homework or surprising your spouse with a chore they dislike shows care. Additionally, serving others as a family—through volunteering or donating—teaches compassion and reinforces your shared values. 

This year Addison has learned about Angel Trees and really has the heart and desire to be a blessing to a little girl her age this year for Christmas. So we are planning on adopting a child to buy a Christmas gift for through the Tulsa Salvation Army.

It’s a small thing to us, and the least we could do, but it’s also something we are trying to teach our children. Jesus wants us to care for the homeless, the orphans, the widows, etc. So we are teaching them to be like Jesus. 

8. Learn and Grow Together

Make learning a family affair. Whether it’s cooking a new recipe, taking a class, or working on a DIY project, shared experiences help your family grow closer. Plus, it’s a fun way to create memories and discover new talents together.

Back in June of 2024 and then again in November, I (Denise) had surgeries on both of my elbows. Which meant I needed help in places like the kitchen and making dinners. Don’t get me wrong… takeout was our friend. Ha! But when we just wanted a home-cooked meal instead, the kids, and even Matt got to be my hands and listen to instructions as I taught them how to make something. Whether by scratch or from a box. It led to some pretty funny moments, and even a few… ugh just let me do it moments as well!

9. Practice Forgiveness

No family is perfect, and disagreements are inevitable. What matters is how you handle them. Practice forgiveness, both giving and receiving, and teach your children the importance of apologizing when they’re wrong. Forgiveness fosters peace and keeps relationships strong.

I’m (Denise) terrible at accepting responsibility for my mistakes. I can only assume this is due to how I was raised. Perhaps I just didn’t pick up this life skill early on. Who knows? I avoid confrontation at all costs. I beat myself up when I mess up more than anybody I upset possibly could.

But as I continue to grow up and life presents more and more opportunities to get it right, I’m maturing and learning that how you respond to situations matters. As I listen to the way my children respond to each other and other people sometimes, I’m constantly reminded of the example I’m being. Which pushes me to beat myself up as a parent, but then try my hardest to be better tomorrow.

10. Celebrate Each Other’s Strengths

Each family member brings something unique to the table. Take time to recognize and celebrate individual talents, achievements, and qualities. This not only boosts self-esteem but also reminds your family how much they’re loved and valued.

Matt is so good and explaining things. He remembers everything and I’m often jealous of the way his mind operates. This allows him to be the amazing writer he is, and what will allow him to achieve his goal of publishing his first fiction book in the coming months!

I’m artsy. I could design things all day long and be completely content. I might have gotten my kids hooked on Minecraft for the simple joy of being able to create something while also spending time with the kids. 😉

Ethan is in that stage where he’s trying to figure out what to do with himself. He’s good at a lot of things. But his favorite thing to date is gaming. And he can tell you everything you need to know about Minecraft, Ark, and Fallout.

Addison is so smart. I’m convinced she can be anything she wants to be when she grows up. My dad has been teaching her Spanish and she’s picking it up so quickly. She loves gaming too, but she’s especially fond of crafting and drawing!

Building a Legacy of Love

Family bonds don’t strengthen overnight—they’re built one moment, one choice, and one intentional act at a time. By prioritizing love, respect, and faith, you’re not just creating a happier home—you’re building a legacy of connection and trust that will last for generations.

Which of these tips do you want to try in your family? We’d love to hear how you strengthen family bonds! Share your thoughts and stories by emailing us at [email protected]. Together, we can inspire each other to create closer, more connected families.