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Behind Closed Doors: How to Turn Conflict into Strength

by Denise Wright

In Part 1, we discussed the pressures of constant togetherness. Part 2 tackled the impacts of overstimulation, while Part 3 focused on managing the friction that comes with living, working, and parenting under one roof. But now, let’s shift gears and talk about the silver lining—the growth that comes from navigating conflict. Because, believe it or not, conflict doesn’t have to be a relationship killer. In fact, it can actually help you grow stronger as a couple, if you let it.

Conflict is a natural part of any relationship, and in our house, it feels like it’s almost inevitable. But as we’ve learned over time, how we handle the conflict matters far more than the conflict itself. It’s easy to get caught up in the heat of the moment and let frustration or miscommunication drive a wedge between us, but the truth is, those moments of tension don’t have to define us. Instead, they can be opportunities to deepen our connection and strengthen our understanding of each other.

Turning Conflict into Connection

One of the biggest lessons we’ve learned, and perhaps are still learning, is that conflict can be an opportunity for understanding. When friction arises, it’s easy to see it as a sign of failure, like something is wrong with the relationship. But the reality is, it’s just part of the process. Every time we argue, we learn something new about ourselves and each other. We start to recognize patterns in our communication, discover the things that trigger us, and learn how to respond better in the future.

Take that time when Matt and I had the whole “Ethan didn’t get in trouble because I didn’t hear him” situation. It could’ve been just another fight that left us frustrated and distant. But we chose to dig deeper. Instead of just arguing, we took a moment to pause and reflect on why we were reacting the way we were. I realized that it wasn’t just about what happened in the moment—it was about feeling overstimulated, stressed, and unable to communicate effectively. Once we recognized that, we were able to see the situation through a different lens. And just like that, a fight turned into a moment of growth and understanding.

Communication: The Key to Avoiding Conflict

It’s no surprise that communication is the key to turning conflict into growth. It’s the cornerstone of every strong relationship. But, let’s be real—communication doesn’t always come easily. Especially when you’re both overstimulated or frustrated. It can feel like every word out of your mouth is a potential landmine. But even when things are heated, we’ve learned that taking a step back and communicating calmly can prevent the friction from escalating.

When we’re in the middle of a disagreement, we recognize that it could be helpful to start checking in with each other. Asking questions like, “What’s really bothering you here?” or “How can I help?” could be a great way to shift the focus from winning the argument to understanding each other’s perspectives. I’ll admit, we don’t always do this—but I can see how it would make a huge difference in navigating conflict. It’s not always easy (sometimes it feels like trying to speak two different languages), but this approach could help us connect better, especially when emotions are running high.

Humility and Apologizing: The Secret to Healing

Another key lesson we’re learning is the importance of humility in conflict. I’m not talking about being a doormat, but about recognizing when you’ve been wrong or when your actions have contributed to the friction. For me, this has been a huge eye-opener. Growing up, I wasn’t exactly taught conflict resolution skills, and I was surrounded by people who didn’t often acknowledge when they were wrong or apologize. As a result, I didn’t always see the value in owning up to my mistakes. Over time, though, I’ve learned that taking responsibility doesn’t make me weak—it actually makes me stronger. It’s a sign of maturity and growth in the relationship.

Matt and I are both guilty of letting our pride get in the way sometimes. But we’ve learned that swallowing our pride and offering a sincere apology can go a long way in healing the hurt and rebuilding the bond. When I’ve messed up, I now make a conscious effort to apologize and take responsibility. And when Matt does the same, I’m reminded that we’re in this together—not as opponents, but as a team. It’s not always easy, but it’s always worth it.

Laughing Through the Tension

Now, I know we’ve been talking about heavy stuff, but here’s the good news—laughter can be a great tool for easing the tension during conflict. As intense as things can get, sometimes we just need to stop, take a deep breath, and laugh at how ridiculous we’re being. If we’ve argued about something silly—like the TV remote, or who left the laundry on the floor again—it helps to take a step back and laugh at ourselves.

Looking Ahead: Continuing to Grow Together

The bottom line is that conflict doesn’t have to tear us apart. If we approach it with humility, patience, and a commitment to understanding, it can bring us closer together. Conflict and friction are inevitable in any relationship, but how we handle them can either strengthen or weaken the bond we share. We’re still learning, still growing, and still figuring it out as we go, but with each disagreement, we grow stronger, more connected, and more resilient as a couple.

In the next post, we’ll wrap up this series by sharing the lessons we’ve learned about navigating life’s challenges together. We’ll talk about how we’re continuing to grow as a family, how we deal with conflict on a daily basis, and how we make space for joy—even in the middle of the chaos.

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Behind Closed Doors: How to Manage Friction at Home

by Denise Wright

Part 3: Managing Friction Without Letting It Define You

In Part 1, we talked about the pressures of constant togetherness, and in Part 2, we explored how overstimulation can lead to all kinds of stress. But now, let’s get into the heart of the matter: friction. You know, those moments where the small stuff turns into big stuff, and suddenly, you’re arguing over who left the socks in the hallway like it’s the end of the world. We’ve all been there, right?!

Friction is inevitable in any relationship, especially when you’re living, working, and homeschooling together under the same roof 24/7. It’s like having a constant buzz of static in the background that only gets louder when everything else is stressful. But here’s the good news: even though friction happens, it doesn’t have to control us. We can handle it without letting it define our relationship.

Recognizing the Source of Friction (It’s Not the Socks)

The first thing we’ve learned is that recognizing the source of friction is crucial. And no, it’s not the socks—although sometimes it sure feels like it! The truth is, the small things that set us off are usually just the tip of the iceberg. It’s not about the missing TV remote or who forgot to take out the trash; it’s usually a buildup of everything else—the overstimulation, the stress of work, and the lack of personal space.

For example, that fight over the lens wipes? It wasn’t about the lens wipes. It was about the fact that we’ve both been running on empty, and suddenly, that little inconvenience was the final straw. We’ve had to remind ourselves that friction often comes from the build-up of everything we’re not addressing. The key is realizing that before it explodes into something bigger than it needs to be.

Communicating Through the Friction (Before It Turns into World War III)

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One of the hardest lessons I’ve learned is that when the friction heats up, communication is the best tool to diffuse it. If we’re not careful, frustration can build so quickly that we start snapping at each other over things that don’t really matter. Take the time I was playing with Ethan, being silly, and singing along to a song to make him laugh. I had my headphones in, dancing away, when suddenly Addison started getting obnoxiously loud in the other room. Ethan, of course, yelled at her to “shut up,” which led me to get onto him. I was frustrated because he could’ve handled it better.

Well, some time passed, and the same thing happened again, but this time I didn’t hear Ethan yell. Matt, who was trying to work from the other room, came into the kitchen to get on to Ethan about it. Later, Matt asked me why I hadn’t said anything to Ethan. I told him that I had, but in reality, I hadn’t. I just wasn’t thinking clearly after already being overstimulated and stressed from a previous disagreement with Matt which led me to getting defensive.

Admitting You Messed Up is Hard Sometimes

Matt kept asking why I hadn’t gotten onto Ethan, and eventually, I admitted that I hadn’t heard him that time. It seemed simple enough, but instead of just letting it go, we found ourselves in a back-and-forth argument over something that should’ve been a quick fix. And just like that, what started as a silly, lighthearted moment of play quickly spiraled into frustration.

This is where communication becomes crucial—especially when we’re both overstimulated. Instead of letting our frustrations take over, we have to learn to slow down and talk about how we’re feeling. It’s not always easy, but saying something like, “I’m really overwhelmed, can we hit pause for a second?” helps us reset before we start going at each other like we’re in a boxing ring.

Confessing My Faults

I’ll be the first to admit it: I’m really bad at communicating—about 90% of the time. Whether in calm moments or heated ones, sometimes the words that come out of my mouth aren’t even close to what I meant to say. If I can’t rehearse what I want to say beforehand, it’s almost guaranteed that I’ll end up in a jumbled mess of words and probably trouble. Take, for example, a time I testified at a church event. What I meant to express was that I felt thankful, despite never seeing myself as a pastor’s wife. I wanted to say that God had given me a burden for the souls He’d entrusted to us.

What came out, though? Well, apparently it sounded very different. Members later told me that they interpreted my testimony as if I was saying they were a burden. Talk about a facepalm moment. I honestly wish I’d rehearsed what I wanted to say because, like I said, if I don’t prepare beforehand, I might as well stay silent. It’s definitely left me a little timid about impulsive public speaking, so if I ever seem quiet—yeah, that’s probably why.

What Was I Saying…?

When it comes to communicating how I feel or what I think, my thoughts rarely come out the way I mean them, which gets me into trouble more often than not. This is also why blogging comes so much easier to me—because I can sit down, type out my thoughts, and meticulously go over them until they make sense. In person, though? Not so much. I’ve learned that my memory is awful most of the time, so I’ll say something—or even type something—and then forget where I was going with it. This happens all the time, and I mean all the time.

Take, for example, my recent trip to the salon. I was telling my stylist about how my grandfather’s hair went completely white in his twenties. Well, that was my point, anyway. I started talking, and then suddenly went completely blank. I just looked at her and said, “I forgot what I was saying,” and then, thankfully, she reminded me, and I was able to finish my thought. It’s bad, y’all.

Setting Boundaries to Prevent Escalation (Taking a “Break” Doesn’t Mean Giving Up)

When the friction gets too much to handle, we’ve found it’s important to set some boundaries. And by boundaries, I mean taking a break. I know, I know—it sounds like we’re avoiding the problem, but actually, giving ourselves a break helps us address the issue without letting it spiral out of control.

When Matt and I hit that boiling point, we’ve learned that it’s okay to say, “Let’s take some time and come back to this.” Whether that means stepping outside, grabbing a quick coffee, or locking ourselves in the bathroom for a moment of peace (I’m not above that), a little distance can do wonders. It gives us time to calm down, think clearly, and avoid saying things we’ll regret.

Keeping the Big Picture in Mind (It’s Not the End of the World)

Finally, we’ve learned that it’s essential to keep the big picture in mind when the friction is at its peak. In the heat of the moment, it feels like the whole world is falling apart, but when we take a step back, we realize that it’s just a bump in the road. We aren’t actually each others enemy. This is just something we need to slow down and work through.

I’ll be the first to admit how easy that sounds when everything is currently smooth sailing. And I’d probably roll my eyes at hearing that said to me when I’m in the middle of those kinds of moments. I’m in a work in progress. And I do love and appreciate my husband deeply.

I can’t tell you how many times we’ve had arguments that felt like the end of the world, only to laugh about it later. The small annoyances, the miscommunications, and the little things that cause friction? They’re just part of living together. The key is not to let them define us. We’ve learned to remind each other that our relationship is built on love and trust, and those small issues don’t take away from that.

Looking Ahead: Turning Friction into Growth

In the next post, Part 4: Growing Stronger Through Conflict, we’ll dive into how conflict and friction can actually strengthen our relationship if we handle it the right way. We’ll share the tools we’ve learned to turn these moments of tension into opportunities for growth, understanding, and better communication. It’s not always easy, but with patience and a little humor, we’re learning how to handle it all together.

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Behind Closed Doors: How to Handle Overstimulation

by Denise Wright

Part 2: How to Handle Overstimulation

In Part 2, we’re diving into how overstimulation —whether from parenting, work, or the constant demands of daily life—can impact our relationships. We’ll also share what we’re doing to handle it (spoiler alert: it’s not always pretty). If you’ve been following the series, you know that in Part 1, we explored the pressures of constant togetherness and the friction it creates in our relationships. If you haven’t read it yet, I highly recommend starting there. It will help you understand the foundation of the tension we’re navigating as a family.

The Impact it Has On Relationships

Ever feel like your nerves are about to short-circuit? Either by the endless demands of parenting, working from home, and balancing everything else? You’re definitely not alone. Overstimulation is the real deal, and when it hits, it feels like you’re constantly running on empty. For Matt and me, this is all too familiar. We both get overwhelmed by the sheer volume of life happening around us. Before we know it, small annoyances turn into big problems—think “snapping over the missing TV remote” level problems.

When we’re overstimulated, everything feels like it’s turned up to 11. I’m talking about that moment when you feel like you’re about to lose it. Like just one more interruption will make you burst into a thousand tiny pieces. It’s not that spending the entire day with Matt is the issue—honestly, we could be together all day and it would be totally fine. The problem is when everyone else in the house interrupts our flow. Interruptions are fine, but when you’re overstimulated, even the smallest disruption feels like the last straw.

The Breaking Point: When Small Things Turn into Big Problems

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When overstimulation takes over, it’s like your whole world shifts in an instant. One minute, you’re fine, and the next, you’re mentally screaming, “I CAN’T DO ONE MORE THING!” You’re trying to focus on a task, and then bam—the kids are fighting over who gets to be what character in a game, or someone needs something right now. Suddenly, your mind feels like it’s short-circuiting. The constant noise, the interruptions, the endless to-do list—it all builds up, and before you know it, you’ve snapped. And then, of course, you feel like a jerk for reacting the way you did, but sometimes it’s just too much.

Real Life Examples of Overstimulated Parents

And Matt? He’s in the same boat. When we’re both running on empty, even the simplest exchanges quickly turn into big arguments. For example, I ask him to pass me a couple of lens wipes while he’s working. When I hear what sounds like frustration in his sigh, I automatically assume he’s irritated. I snap, “Never mind, I’ll figure it out myself.” He responds, “You didn’t even give me a chance to respond!” Small things spiral out of control when we’re both overstimulated.

Then there’s the time Matt’s been dealing with the kids arguing all day. I finally get them to bed, only for others in the house to bring more issues our way—things that aren’t ours to solve. I ask, “Is there anything I can do to help?” but before he can fully express how overwhelmed he feels, I interrupt, trying to correct him. “It’s not like that, Matt.” Naturally, that makes things worse. He says, “I can’t even tell you how I’m feeling without you telling me why I shouldn’t feel that way.” When both of us are overstimulated and running on fumes, the miscommunication snowballs into something much bigger than it needs to be.

Recognizing When You’ve Hit Your Limit with Overstimulation

It’s tricky to recognize when you’re overstimulated. It’s like that moment in a TV show when a character faces an intense situation, and you realize you’ve been holding your breath. Then, you suddenly gasp for air—thinking it will help, even though it doesn’t. The problem is, you didn’t even realize you were holding your breath. When we’re both overstimulated, we often forget to pause and check in with each other. Instead, we try to power through, thinking, “We just need to get through this.” But the reality is, we’re both reaching our limits. Instead of addressing it, we push on—and that’s when things start to spiral.

The best way we’ve found to deal with overstimulation is to hit pause. I know, easier said than done, but we’ve learned we have to recognize it before it explodes. When we feel overwhelmed, we need to communicate that. Even if it’s just saying, “I’m about to lose my mind, can we take a quick break?”. It’s not a perfect system, but recognizing when we’re overstimulated before things spiral has helped us more times than I can count.

Where it gets us in trouble is when we acknowledge it and don’t pause because we are right in the middle of a pressing issue or at least it feels pressing because we’ve been trying to accomplish that one thing for hours now.

How We’re Managing Overstimulation

So, how do we manage overstimulation when life keeps coming at us fast? Well, it’s not magic, but here’s what’s been working (and by “working,” I mean it helps most days, but it’s definitely still a learning process):

  • Setting Boundaries for Downtime: We’ve started setting clear boundaries around when we need quiet time. This might mean one of us takes a walk alone or just spends 15 minutes in a room by themselves to unwind. Even a short break can reset our brains and help us think clearly. I’m not saying a full spa day (though that would be nice), just a quick breather so we don’t go completely bonkers.
  • Checking in with Each Other: Communication is key! We try to ask each other how we’re doing throughout the day. Are we both feeling overwhelmed? Do we need to divide up responsibilities? A simple check-in goes a long way in preventing one of us from blowing up over something small (like the fact that the laundry basket is too full—again).
  • Taking Small Breaks: “Me time” isn’t always easy to find, but it’s important. We carve out small moments during the day to recharge. Go to the store alone? Yes, please. Stepping outside for five minutes of fresh air? Absolutely. These mini-breaks make a world of difference, even if they’re short.
  • Understanding It’s Okay to Not Be Perfect: Overstimulation can make you feel like you’re failing as a parent or partner. But we’ve learned that struggling sometimes is okay. We don’t need to handle everything perfectly. It’s okay to ask for help, take breaks, and lean on each other when needed. We’re in this together—imperfections and all.

Looking Ahead: Moving Past Overstimulation

The reality of overstimulation is something many parents face, especially in high-stress situations like working from home and living with extended family. But it doesn’t have to control us. By recognizing the signs of overstimulation and making space for rest, we’re learning how to navigate these challenges more effectively.

In the next post, Part 3: Managing Friction Without Letting It Define You, we’ll explore how to handle the moments when the tension reaches its peak. We’ll dive into how we’re working through our conflicts and finding better ways to communicate so that the friction doesn’t define our relationship. It’s not always easy, but we’re taking it one step at a time, and we’ll share the lessons we’ve learned along the way.

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Why Improving as a Parent is More Important Than Being Perfect

by Denise Wright

Ever feel like the task of improving as a parent is as daunting as climbing Mount Everest? As a mom, it’s easy to get caught up in the chaos of everyday life. You know… like the endless laundry, the never-ending to-do lists, and the moments when everything feels out of control. There are days when I feel like I’m failing as a parent, or as the wife I want to be. There are moments when the weight of responsibility feels overwhelming, and the pressures of life leave me wondering if I’m doing enough. But despite it all, I am beyond grateful for my family.

In the midst of the beautiful mess, I realize that what truly matters is not perfection, but the love and commitment we share with one another. Life will throw challenges our way, and not every day will go as planned. We may face struggles we didn’t see coming, or bumps in the road that feel too big to handle. Yet, when I stop to reflect, I see that I am blessed beyond measure. Because every day, I have the chance to try again. I have the chance to be a little better than I was yesterday. And that, to me, is enough.

Improving as a Parent, One Step at a Time

There’s so much pressure to be the perfect parent, the perfect spouse, the perfect everything. But what I’ve come to realize is that perfection isn’t the goal—improving as a parent is. No matter how hard things get or how imperfect we may feel, what matters most is that we keep showing up. Every single day, we have the opportunity to improve, even just a little bit. Whether it’s being more patient with our kids, being more present for our spouse, or finding the courage to face the day with a positive attitude, it’s all about striving for progress, not perfection.

Today, like every Monday, I had a long to-do list. But every time I started on a task, my daughter had ten things she was dying to tell me—every two seconds. Needless to say, my list didn’t get done. But that’s okay! Why? Because she’ll remember that Mommy embraced the chaos, took the time to play along, and listened. I know this can’t happen all the time, especially with both Matt and I working from home. But the truth is, there’s nothing more important than pausing to engage with your kids. Some kids shy away from talking to their parents—mine, on the other hand, just can’t stop. Am I the only one?

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To me, this is a sign that we’re doing something right. The fact that my kids want to talk to us is proof that, despite all our imperfections, we’re showing up for them. It’s a reminder that, even with all the mistakes we make, we are growing and learning and doing everything we can to raise our kids with all the love we have for them.

When we slip up, when we make mistakes, it’s okay. It doesn’t erase all the love and care we give. What matters is that we get up the next day and try again. We may not be perfect, but we’re always growing. We’re always learning. And we’re always showing our family that no matter what life throws our way, we are committed to improving as a parent, a better spouse, and a better person—for them and for ourselves.

Why Embracing the Chaos is the Key to Improving as a Parent

Through the hard times, the tears, and the frustrations, there’s one constant that keeps me going—my family. My kids and my spouse—they are the reason I keep trying, the reason I keep striving to be better. We are a team, and even when we don’t get it right, the love we share makes everything worthwhile.

No, we don’t have it all figured out. We still make mistakes. But we have each other, and that’s something I’ll never take for granted. The beauty of family is in its imperfection—its messiness, its ups and downs—and through it all, we grow stronger together. The moments of laughter, the shared experiences, and the support we give each other make everything else fade away.

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Sometimes, you just need to sit there and focus on controlling your face as your child enthusiastically tells a story about something they learned. It can take them ten minutes to get to the simple point, and you’re doing your best to stay patient, nodding along, even when you have a million things on your mind.

The Power of Listening: A Simple Way to Improve as a Parent

I remember one afternoon when my daughter excitedly started talking about a show she had watched. She jumped from one detail to the next, revisiting parts of the show, asking questions that didn’t quite make sense, and pausing to make sure I was listening intently. I could see the excitement in her eyes, but all I could think was, please just get to the point already.

In those moments, it’s easy to get frustrated, but I’ve learned to remind myself that this is her way of connecting with me. And if it takes ten minutes for her to share a simple fact, so be it. The joy in her voice and the effort she puts into sharing what she learned is priceless.

As parents, we have the incredible privilege of shaping our children’s lives, but we also have the chance to teach them that life isn’t about being flawless. It’s about love. It’s about trying our best, learning from our mistakes, and always striving to be better, not just for ourselves, but for those we love.

The Importance of Showing Up Every Day

To all the moms and dads out there who feel like they’re not doing enough or who feel like the tasking of improving as a parent is beyond your ability, I want to say this: You are enough. You are doing the best you can with what you have. And that’s what matters. We’re all just trying to do our best, one day at a time. We may not be perfect, but as long as you’re trying, that’s all that matters. And that is something to be proud of.

So, no matter what life throws at you today or tomorrow, remember that tomorrow is a new day—a fresh start. You have the opportunity to be a better version of yourself than you were yesterday. And that’s all you need to focus on. You’re doing great. Keep going.

Conclusion: A Grateful Heart

I’m grateful for my family—for the chaos and the calm, for the laughter and the tears, for the lessons learned and the love shared. No matter what comes our way, we will face it together. Every day is a new opportunity to try again, to improve as a parent, and to love one another more deeply.

So, as I wake up each day, I’m determined to be a little better, to show up with a grateful heart and an open mind. For my family, for me, and for all the little moments that make life truly beautiful. Being not much of a morning person makes this battle twice as hard! But if I can do it, so can you!

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How to Navigate Parenting When You’re Overwhelmed and Exhausted

by Denise Wright

Parenting is hard. There’s no way around it. Some days, it feels like you’re running on fumes, trying to keep up with everyone’s needs while barely managing your own. Whether you’re facing financial stress, mental health struggles, or just the overwhelming exhaustion of raising little humans, you are not alone.

Struggling through parenthood doesn’t mean you’re failing—it means you’re human. And while there’s no magic fix, there are ways to navigate the tough seasons while still showing up for your kids (and yourself).

In this post, I’ll share real-life strategies for parenting when you’re struggling, because let’s be honest—sometimes, survival mode is all we can manage.

And before you start thinking, “Wow, she’s incredible for managing all this content while being a full-time mom,” let me be real with you—I’ve lost count of how many times I’ve been interrupted just trying to write this post.

Parenting When You’re Struggling

It’s easy to push through the motions of parenting without realizing how much you’re mentally, emotionally, and physically drained. But ignoring the signs of struggle doesn’t make them disappear—it delays the crash.

Here are some common signs that you may be struggling more than you realize:

  • You feel constantly overwhelmed—like you’re drowning in responsibilities.
  • Small things set you off—you snap at your kids over things that wouldn’t normally bother you.
  • Exhaustion feels never-ending—no amount of sleep seems to make a difference.
  • You withdraw from loved ones—parenting feels isolating and reaching out seems exhausting.
  • You feel guilty all the time—whether it’s for not being patient enough, fun enough, or ‘good’ enough.

If you find yourself nodding along to any of these, you are not alone. Parenting through struggle is tough, but there are ways to lighten the load.

I can’t even count how many times a day my husband and I look at each other and say, “It’s okay. It’s all okay.” Meanwhile, in the background, our kids are locked in an intense battle over their Minecraft world, arguing about who keeps un-aliving the other. Priorities, right?

1. Lower the Bar and Ditch the Parenting Guilt

One of the biggest struggles when parenting through hard times is the pressure to do it all. But let me tell you—you don’t have to. I know, I know. It’s easy for me to say. Right? That’s what you were thinking. But truly, you can’t do anything for anyone if you don’t take a moment and breathe! We all just gotta breathe!

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When you’re in survival mode, it’s okay to scale back and focus on the essentials:
🔹 Fed is best—Dinner doesn’t have to be homemade. Frozen pizza counts.
🔹 A clean-ish house is fine—Letting the laundry pile up for a day (or three) won’t ruin your kids’ lives.
🔹 Screens won’t destroy them—Sometimes, an extra episode of their favorite show is the only way to get through the day.

Parenting isn’t about perfection. It’s about being present, even when that presence looks different than usual.

👉 Let go of the guilt—doing your best, even if it doesn’t feel like enough, is enough.

2. Create Small Moments of Connection

When life feels overwhelming, it’s easy to feel disconnected from your kids. But a meaningful connection doesn’t have to be elaborate.

Here are simple ways to bond with your children, even on hard days:

  • Five-minute cuddles before bed or while watching TV.
  • Let them help with small tasks—stirring pancake batter or folding socks counts!
  • Laugh together—silly faces, dance parties, or an impromptu tickle fight can turn a hard day around.
  • Give them your full attention, even briefly—put the phone down for a few minutes and be in their world.

👉 Little moments matter. Your kids won’t remember a spotless house or how much money you make, but they will remember how you made them feel. Trust me. That will still stick with them long after you’re gone.

3. Ask for Help—And Accept It

If you’re struggling, you don’t have to do it alone. But asking for help can feel impossible, especially if you’ve convinced yourself you should be able to handle everything on your own. Unless you were bitten by a radioactive spider or rocketed here from Krypton, you’re not superhuman. Even Spider-Man had Mary Jane, and Superman had Lois Lane to lean on when things got tough!

Sorry for nerding out—but hey, even superheroes need a support system. So do you. ❤️

👥 Who can you lean on?

  • Your partner—Be honest about what you need.
  • Friends & family—Let them bring a meal or watch the kids for a break.
  • Other parents—Find a community where you can share openly.
  • Therapists or support groups—Talking to someone outside your circle can be life-changing.

I know—it’s hard. But asking for help isn’t a weakness. It’s one of the bravest things you can do for yourself and your family. I’ve done this so many times in my 11 years of being a mom. It’s simply a lifeline, a get-out-jail-free card, if you will, when you just need to be reminded, ‘I AM NOT ALONE!’.

4. Continue Parenting… But Take Care of Yourself—Even in Small Ways

Self-care often feels impossible when you’re struggling. But taking care of yourself is just as important as taking care of your kids.

Here’s how to sneak in self-care, even on your hardest days:
🛁 A five-minute shower with the door locked.
🎶 A playlist of songs that make you feel good.
☕ A hot cup of coffee (or tea) before everyone wakes up.
📖 Reading a few pages (or chapters) of a book after bedtime.
🚶 A short walk or a few deep breaths outside.

You can’t pour from an empty cup. Taking care of yourself helps you take care of them.

5. Be Honest with Your Kids (In an Age-Appropriate Way)

Kids notice when we’re struggling. They pick up on our stress, even when we think we’re hiding it. And while we don’t need to burden them with every detail, being open (at an appropriate level) helps them understand.

Otherwise, you will do things like snap at the next person that interrupts you. “For crying out loud, what could you possibly need!?”

💬 What you can say:

  • “Mommy’s feeling really tired today, but I love you so much.”
  • “Daddy had a hard day, so let’s have a quiet movie night together.”
  • “I’m feeling a little sad, but it’s okay. We all have tough days sometimes.”

Honesty helps kids develop emotional intelligence. It teaches them that feelings are normal and that struggles don’t mean love disappears. It also teaches them that when mommy and daddy do get overwhelmed, it’s not always because of something they did.

6. Remind Yourself: This Is a Season, Not Forever

When you’re in the middle of struggling, it feels never-ending. But every season—even the hard ones—comes to an end.

📌 Remind yourself:

  • You won’t feel this exhausted forever.
  • You will come through whatever it is you’re facing right now.
  • Your kids won’t always be this little (or this demanding).
  • You are not failing—you are doing your best.

Hold on. Keep going. You are stronger than you feel right now.

Final Thoughts: You’re Not Alone

Parenting is hard, but parenting while struggling can feel impossible. I say this from the other side of one of the most stressful, heartbreaking, “I’m done with people and done with life” moments my husband and I have ever faced. But if there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s this—this too shall pass.

You are not alone. Whether you’re battling exhaustion, stress, anxiety, or just feeling overwhelmed, you are still a good parent.

Take a deep breath. Lower your expectations. Ask for help. And most importantly, give yourself the same grace you’d give a friend in your shoes.

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Feeling Overwhelmed? How to Give Yourself Grace When Life Gets Tough

by Denise Wright

Life Happens—And Sometimes, So Does the Flu

This past week has been a complete whirlwind. I had plans—big plans. A new podcast episode to record, a newsletter to send, blog posts to write, announcements to make. But instead? I got sick. And just as I started feeling human again, my daughter got sick too. The flu hit our house hard, and everything I had scheduled came to a screeching halt.

Saturday came, and with the kids away all day, recording the podcast wasn’t an option. Then Sunday hit, and the moment we got home from church, it felt like one thing after another kept piling up—like a snowball rolling downhill, getting bigger with every turn.

By Monday morning, I turned to Matt and admitted, “I just don’t have it in me. I have to put everything on pause this week.” And sure enough, I started feeling even worse.

Tuesday rolled around, and there was no improvement. That’s when Matt jumped into action, throwing every vitamin and remedy he could think of at me, determined to help me bounce back.

Then came Wednesday morning. Addison walked into our bedroom, her face pale, and said, “I don’t feel good.” Oops. I had officially passed it on.

Since then, she’s been sleeping almost nonstop, and honestly, she’s had it worse than I did. Bless her heart, our girl is down for the count.

I don’t know about you, but when things don’t go as planned, I tend to spiral into frustration. I feel like I’m falling behind, like I’m failing at everything, and like I should be pushing through no matter what. But if this week has taught me anything, it’s this:

Rest Is Not a Failure

As parents, we constantly pour into our families—our time, our energy, our attention. And when we can’t show up the way we want to, we tend to feel guilty. But the truth is, our bodies are not machines. They need rest. They need care. And when we push through sickness or exhaustion just to check off a to-do list, we’re not helping anyone.

If I had forced myself to push through this week, I would have ended up even sicker, even more exhausted, and let’s be honest—probably even more cranky. That wouldn’t have served my family, and it certainly wouldn’t have served me.

The Guilt of Falling Behind

I’ll admit it—there’s a part of me that keeps whispering, You should have done more. The podcast went unrecorded, the newsletter never got sent, and half of my plans fell by the wayside.

But you know what? That’s okay.

Life isn’t a race to perfection. It’s messy. It’s unpredictable. And sometimes, it means we have to press pause whether we want to or not.

The Lesson I’m Taking Away

This past week forced me to slow down and reminded me that my worth isn’t measured by my productivity. I’ve also watched Matt—who has been a force to be reckoned with these past few months—struggle to balance his work while constantly tending to Addison and me.

At one point, when I finally started to feel a little normal again, I looked at him and said, “It doesn’t matter how much money you bring in or don’t bring in today, honey. What matters is that you took care of your family. Some days, that means providing for our financial needs. On other days, it’s taking care of our physical needs. No matter what… you’ve been amazing. I see you. And I appreciate you more than you know.”

This week reminded me that resting isn’t a sign of weakness—it’s a necessity. And that giving myself grace isn’t just something I encourage others to do—it’s something I have to actively practice myself.

So if you’ve had a week (or a month) where things didn’t go as planned, I want to remind you: You are not behind. You are not failing. You are human. And sometimes, the best thing you can do is take a breath, reset, and give yourself the grace to move forward at your own pace.

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Alone Time for Parents: Why Is it Important?

by Denise Wright

Introduction: Why Alone Time Matters for Parents

Parenting is a full-time job that doesn’t come with breaks, and as much as we love our kids, the constant demands can be exhausting. That’s why alone time for parents isn’t just a luxury—it’s a necessity.

This week, Matt and I are making it a priority to carve out some much-needed time together with a date night while the kids stay the night with family. After a particularly rough week, we realized just how overstimulated and overdue we are for some quiet, intentional time to recharge and reconnect—not just for ourselves, but for the well-being of our family as a whole.

In this post, I’ll share why alone time is so crucial for parents, how it benefits your marriage and your kids, and practical tips to make it happen, even with a busy schedule.

Recognizing the Signs of Burnout and Overstimulation

Last week was tough. Both Matt and I could feel the weight of burnout and overstimulation taking a toll on us. It wasn’t just the physical exhaustion—it was the emotional edge that crept into everything we did. The smallest things became triggers, and we found ourselves snapping over things that wouldn’t normally bother us.

It hit me hardest when I started saying things I didn’t really mean—things that came out of my frustration and desire to fix the situation. At one point, I even said, “Well, I’ll just take the kids and leave for a few hours so you don’t have to deal with us.” As soon as the words were out, I regretted them. I didn’t mean it, but it reflected just how drained I felt and how desperate I was for a solution.

Matt and I both recognize these signs of burnout now—the irritation, the short tempers, the way we withdraw from each other without meaning to. It’s not who we are at our core, but it’s a signal that we need to take a step back and prioritize our own well-being and connection.

We know that when we’re operating on empty, we’re not the parents or partners we want to be. And while it’s hard to admit when we’re at that breaking point, it’s necessary if we want to grow and move forward as a family.

Why Alone Time is Essential

Parenting is rewarding, but it’s also demanding. Without time to recharge, it’s easy to feel burnt out, overwhelmed, or disconnected from your partner. Alone time allows you to:

  • Recharge Your Energy: Taking time for yourself helps you refuel emotionally and mentally, so you can parent from a place of calm rather than exhaustion.
  • Strengthen Your Relationship: Spending intentional time with your partner helps you reconnect, build intimacy, and tackle parenting challenges as a team.
  • Set a Healthy Example: When your kids see you prioritizing self-care and your relationship, they learn the importance of balance and healthy boundaries.

How Alone Time Benefits Your Marriage

Date nights and quality time with your partner are more than just a chance to relax—they’re essential for maintaining a strong relationship. Here’s why:

  • Improved Communication: Without the distractions of daily life, you can focus on truly hearing and understanding each other.
  • Deeper Connection: Alone time lets you reconnect as individuals, not just as parents.
  • Shared Joy: Doing something fun or meaningful together reminds you why you fell in love in the first place.

For Matt and me, date nights are our way of hitting the reset button. This Friday, we’re taking the kids to stay with family so we can enjoy an evening just for us. It’s not extravagant, but it’s intentional—and that makes all the difference.

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Practical Tips for Making it Happen

Finding time for yourself or your partner isn’t always easy, but it’s worth the effort. Here are some practical ways to prioritize alone time:

  1. Schedule It In: Treat alone time like any other important appointment. Put it on the calendar and commit to it.
  2. Ask for Help: Don’t be afraid to lean on family or trusted friends for childcare. Most people are happy to help if you ask.
  3. Keep It Simple: Alone time doesn’t have to be elaborate. A quiet evening at home, a walk around the neighborhood, or coffee at your favorite spot can be just as meaningful as a night out.
  4. Make It Regular: Aim for consistency. Whether it’s a monthly date night or a weekly hour to yourself, regular alone time helps you recharge consistently.

Why It’s Good for Your Kids, Too

It’s easy to feel guilty about taking time for yourself, but the truth is, your kids benefit when you do. When parents take time to recharge and strengthen their relationship:

  • Kids see a model of healthy self-care.
  • They feel secure knowing their parents have a strong bond.
  • Parents return with more patience, energy, and joy to share with their children.

Recognizing the Need for a Pause

One of the biggest challenges we face as parents is the constant interruptions from our kids. Could Matt and I isolate ourselves to a single room and close the door? Sure. But somehow, they always find us. Whether it’s the endless questions, the persistent “mom” or “dad” calls, or even the sound of their footsteps coming down the hallway, it’s enough to feel overstimulating after a long day.

Adding to this challenge is the fact that we currently live with my parents. We don’t have a whole house to retreat to—just our bedroom, while the kids share a room of their own. The rest of the house is fair game for everyone. So even when we try to carve out a little space for ourselves, the reality is that there’s no real escape.

It’s not just the interruptions, though. It’s the way the kids argue in the next room, burst in needing something right when we’ve sat down for a conversation, or wander through the shared spaces looking for attention. Even when we love them with all our hearts, those moments can leave us feeling completely drained.

These are the signs we’ve learned to recognize—it’s our internal alarm system telling us it’s time for a pause. When everything feels too loud, too chaotic, and too constant, we know we need to step back, create intentional time for ourselves, and reset.

Prioritizing alone time as a couple isn’t about escaping the kids or neglecting our responsibilities—it’s about recharging so we can show up as the parents and partners we want to be. And sometimes, that means acknowledging that even the little things, like footsteps in the hallway or the lack of personal space, are reminders that we’re overdue for a break.

Conclusion: Prioritizing Alone Time is a Gift to Your Family

Alone time for parents isn’t selfish—it’s an investment in your well-being, your marriage, and your family as a whole. Taking even small moments to recharge allows you to show up as the best version of yourself for your kids and your partner.

This Friday, Matt and I are taking that time, and we couldn’t be more excited. Whether it’s a date night, a quiet walk, or an hour to yourself, I encourage you to find ways to prioritize alone time in your own life. You—and your family—will be better for it.

How do you prioritize alone time as a parent?

I’d love to hear your ideas in the comments. Let’s inspire each other to take care of ourselves and our relationships!

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How Encouraging Kids Can Shape Their Future and Build Their Confidence

by Denise Wright

Parenting is filled with questions, but one of the most important is this: How can we help our kids become the best versions of themselves? Encouraging kids to follow their passions is a powerful way to support their growth, confidence, and happiness. But it’s not always easy. As parents, we walk the fine line between guiding them and allowing them to explore their interests.

In this post, I’m sharing practical, heartfelt advice on how to encourage your kids to pursue their passions and embrace who they’re meant to be.

Why Encouraging Kids to Pursue Their Passions Matters

Encouraging kids to follow their passions isn’t just about helping them find a hobby or career; it’s about nurturing their confidence and teaching them that their interests have value. When kids feel supported, they’re more likely to:

  • Take risks and try new things.
  • Develop resilience when faced with challenges.
  • Build a strong sense of self and identity.
  • Learn the importance of dedication and hard work.

Passions spark creativity and joy, and as parents, we have the privilege of fanning that flame.

Redefining Success: Preparing Our Kids for a Future Beyond the 9-to-5

For Matt and me, we’ve recently come to a profound realization about the future we’re setting up for our kids. We’re not just guiding them toward independence but also encouraging them to think beyond the traditional “career” path. In today’s world, where opportunities extend far beyond the typical 9-to-5 job, we want to prepare them to embrace flexibility, creativity, and self-reliance in how they approach work and life.

Matt and I are both content creators who work from home, and our careers are anything but conventional. Matt is an SEO writer, crafting articles that help businesses thrive online, and he’s also channeling his passion for storytelling into publishing several fictional books. On top of that, he joins me every week on our parenting podcast, where we share the ups, downs, and lessons of raising a family.

As for me, I’ve poured my heart into building and operating our family blog, a space where I connect with other parents to offer advice, share stories, and create resources. Together, our work reflects the kind of future we envision for our kids—one where they can pursue their passions, embrace creativity, and design a life that brings them joy and fulfillment.

By modeling this lifestyle, we hope to inspire our children to explore their interests and develop the skills they need to carve out their own unique paths. After all, the world is evolving, and so should the way we think about careers and success.

Signs Your Child Has Found a Passion

It can be exciting to watch your kids light up about something, but how do you know when they’ve truly found a passion? Look for these signs:

  1. They talk about it constantly.
    Whether it’s art, sports, or science, kids who are passionate will find every opportunity to bring it up. Currently, for our kids, it’s video games, their desire to create custom mods, and how the games can be improved.
  2. They dedicate free time to it.
    If your child willingly spends hours practicing, creating, or diving deeper into their interests, it’s a strong sign they’ve discovered something truly special. Our daughter Addison has recently been honing her drawing skills with the guidance of her cousins and grandfather. Creativity seems to run in my family—several relatives are talented artists, including one who achieved remarkable success as a portrait and sculptor artist. One of my uncle’s proudest moments and missed opportunities was being featured alongside Michael Jackson at his studio in Arizona. It’s inspiring to see Addison carry on this artistic legacy and make it her own.
  3. They show pride in their progress.
    Seeing them beam with pride over a new skill or achievement is a clear indicator that they’ve found something meaningful.

5 Ways to Encourage Your Kids to Follow Their Passions

1. Pay Attention to What Lights Them Up

The first step to encouraging kids is to observe. What excites them? What topics do they keep coming back to? Take note of the activities that spark their interest and ask open-ended questions like:

  • “What do you love about this?”
  • “How does it make you feel?”

Even if their current passion seems fleeting, showing interest tells them their feelings and experiences are valid.

2. Provide Opportunities to Explore

Sometimes, kids need hands-on experiences to truly discover their passions. Look for local classes, workshops, or clubs that align with their interests. For example:

  • If they love animals, consider a junior zookeeper program.
  • If they enjoy building, try a LEGO robotics camp.

These opportunities not only refine their skills but also show them that their passions are worth investing in.

3. Offer Support Without Taking Over

It’s easy to want to jump in and “help” when we see our kids exploring their passions. But there’s a fine line between supporting and taking over. Let your kids take the lead, and remember:

  • Encourage them to set their own goals.
  • Celebrate progress, not just achievements.
  • Be their cheerleader, not their manager.

For instance, if your child is passionate about drawing, provide the supplies and a dedicated space but let them decide what they want to create.

4. Share Stories of Perseverance

Kids need to understand that pursuing passions isn’t always easy. Share stories of people (including yourself!) who overcame obstacles to follow their dreams. Highlight lessons like:

  • Failure is a stepping stone to success.
  • Growth happens outside of your comfort zone.
  • Hard work often leads to the most rewarding results.
  • The things worth having in life take work and consistency.

These lessons help kids see challenges as opportunities rather than roadblocks.

5. Be Flexible and Open-Minded

Passions can evolve over time, and that’s okay! What your child loves today might not be their dream tomorrow. Encourage exploration and remind them it’s all part of the journey.

  • “It’s great that you’re curious about so many things.”
  • “Trying new interests helps you learn what you truly love.”

Early on Ethan was insistent that he wanted to grow up to be an engineer and design robots for a living. However, that has recently evolved into wanting to design wooden toys for children to play with. Only 11 years old and completely addicted to video gaming, I’m confident that his passion will only continue to evolve. One thing is for sure, he has a creative mind like his mama.

Addressing Parental Doubts

Sometimes, it’s hard not to question our kids’ interests, especially if they don’t align with our own. Maybe you’re unsure how a passion will translate into a career or worry they’re wasting time. Here’s the thing: passions are about joy and growth, not practicality. Trust that the skills they gain—like discipline, creativity, and resilience—will serve them no matter what.

What doesn’t always make sense to us as parents might make perfect sense to our kids. And honestly, that’s okay. They’re growing up in a world that’s constantly changing, one that looks vastly different from the one we knew even a decade ago.

How Things Used to Be

Take my husband, for example. Ten years ago, he made the bold decision to leave a traditional 9-to-5 job and pursue a career in writing while working from home—long before remote work became a mainstream concept. It wasn’t an easy decision, and it came with its fair share of criticism. His mom, bless her, had a hard time wrapping her head around it. She was raised in a generation where success was measured by climbing the corporate ladder and staying in a stable job for decades. To her, his choice seemed risky, even irresponsible.

What she couldn’t see at the time was the potential he saw in a new and evolving career path. Her concerns came from a place of love and a desire for him to succeed, but they were rooted in the mindset of her upbringing, not the changing opportunities of today. It wasn’t about doubting his abilities—it was about the fear of the unknown.

Fast forward to now, and that once unconventional decision has paid off in ways we couldn’t have imagined. It taught us an important lesson: just because something doesn’t align with the way we were raised or the rules we lived by doesn’t mean it’s wrong. Sometimes, it’s about trusting our kids to see possibilities we might miss and giving them the freedom to explore their own paths. After all, the world they’re navigating is theirs to shape, and it’s not always going to look like what we expect—or understand. And that’s okay.

How Faith Plays a Role in Encouraging Kids

For our family, faith is the foundation of everything we do, including how we parent. Encouraging kids to follow their passions includes reminding them that they are uniquely designed by God with talents and gifts meant to be nurtured. We often share Jeremiah 29:11 with our kids:

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”

This verse reassures them (and us) that their passions have a purpose, even if we don’t fully understand it yet.

Our Personal Experience with Encouraging Passions

Let me share a story about Ethan and Addison. Ethan discovered his love for building when he was just five years old, using blocks to construct anything from castles to robots. We provided him with opportunities to explore, from LEGO kits to STEM classes. Today, he’s still passionate about creating, and it’s been incredible to watch him grow.

Addison, on the other hand, has a creative soul and loves crafting. While it’s not my forte, I’ve learned to embrace her glitter-covered projects because they bring her so much joy. Seeing her confidence grow has been worth every vacuuming session!

The Benefits of Encouraging Kids to Follow Their Passions

When you encourage your kids, you’re not just supporting their hobbies—you’re building their confidence, strengthening your bond, and helping them discover who they are. Here are some lasting benefits:

  • Emotional well-being: Kids who feel supported are happier and more secure.
  • Stronger relationships: Shared passions create opportunities for connection.
  • Life skills: From discipline to problem-solving, they’ll gain tools for future success.

Final Thoughts

Encouraging kids to follow their passions is one of the greatest gifts we can give as parents. It’s about showing them that their interests matter and helping them grow into confident, capable individuals. So whether it’s art, sports, science, or something else entirely, take the time to cheer them on—you won’t regret it.

Want more tips on supporting your kids’ growth and happiness? Check out our post on 10 Tips for Strengthening Family Bonds and subscribe to our newsletter for weekly parenting inspiration.

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The Benefits of Family Game Night

by Denise Wright

In today’s busy world, finding quality time for family can feel like an uphill battle. Between work, school, and extracurricular activities, it’s easy to let the days slip by without truly connecting. That’s where family game night comes in. It’s more than just rolling dice or shuffling cards—it’s about creating memories, building relationships, and even sneaking in some life lessons along the way. So grab your favorite board game (or video game if you’re a nerd like us) and settle in as we explore why family game night is a tradition worth starting.

Strengthening Family Bonds Through Play

One of the greatest benefits of game night is how it brings everyone together. In our house, the laughter, groans over losing, and cheers of victory are some of the sweetest sounds. For just a few hours, distractions like work emails, school projects, and even screens take a backseat to genuine connection.

Playing games as a family helps bridge the age gap between parents and kids. Whether it’s toddlers stacking blocks in a simple game or teenagers strategizing their way through a game of Catan, the shared experience strengthens relationships. Even when the competitive spirit kicks in, the time spent together outweighs the outcome of the game.

Life Lessons Wrapped in Fun

What’s great about game night is that it’s like a secret classroom. Without even realizing it, kids are learning crucial life skills while they’re busy having fun.

Communication and Teamwork

Games that require teamwork teach kids how to communicate effectively, listen to others, and solve problems collaboratively. These skills are essential not just at home but also in school and later in life.

Emotional Resilience

Let’s be honest—nobody likes losing. But family game night provides a safe space to experience losing gracefully. Learning to cope with setbacks and cheering for someone else’s success are invaluable lessons wrapped in the guise of play.

This new-age notion of “everyone is a winner” might sound nice in theory, but in practice, it does little to prepare our kids for the realities of life. The truth is, that losing is a part of life, and shielding children from it only does them a disservice. When kids are taught that failure isn’t an option, they miss out on crucial opportunities to develop resilience, perseverance, and problem-solving skills.

Family game night is a perfect opportunity to show that losing isn’t the end of the world. It’s a chance to teach our kids that it’s okay to try, fail, and try again. Whether it’s a missed roll in Yahtzee or landing on Boardwalk in Monopoly with someone else’s hotel on it, these moments are valuable lessons in grit and grace.

When we model good sportsmanship and encourage our kids to do the same, we’re teaching them to celebrate the victories of others without diminishing their own efforts. That’s not just a game-night lesson—it’s a life lesson. Life doesn’t always hand out trophies for participation, but it does reward those who keep going, even when the odds are stacked against them. So, no, not everyone needs to “win” every time. Instead, we can focus on helping our kids win in the ways that matter most: through growth, character, and the joy of simply playing the game.

Strategic Thinking and Patience

Games like chess or Monopoly encourage kids to think several steps ahead while waiting their turn fosters patience. These moments of learning often happen naturally and make a lasting impact.

Creating Priceless Memories

In a world where schedules dominate, game night stands out as a time when we can just be together. As a mom, I treasure the moments when everyone’s laughter fills the room or when one of the kids pulls a surprising move that has everyone in stitches.

I remember one night when Addison convinced everyone to play charades. She acted out her favorite character in such a hilariously over-the-top way that we couldn’t stop laughing. Even Ethan, who tends to be more reserved, joined in and had us cracking up with his version of a zombie. Moments like that remind me why family time is so precious.

Tips for a Successful Family Game Night

Game night doesn’t have to be complicated to be successful. Here are some tips we’ve picked up over the years:

Pick the Right Games

Choose games that suit the ages and interests of your family members. For younger kids, simple games like Trouble or Candy Land work well. For older kids and adults, games like Scrabble, Ticket to Ride, or Exploding Kittens can be a hit.

Keep It Lighthearted

The goal is to have fun, not spark arguments. Encourage good sportsmanship and take breaks if things get too competitive.

Make It a Tradition

Choose a day of the week or month that works for everyone and stick to it. Having a regular game night gives everyone something to look forward to.

Snacks and Atmosphere

Turn game night into an event with fun snacks and a cozy atmosphere. Whether it’s popcorn, cookies, or a simple fruit platter, having treats on hand makes the evening even more enjoyable.

For us game night has also turned into pizza night and a movie night! A whole evening for just being together and having fun.

Expanding Beyond the Living Room

Game night doesn’t always have to involve traditional board or card games. Here are a few creative alternatives to keep things fresh:

  • Outdoor Games: When the weather’s nice, bring the fun outside with cornhole, ladder ball, or a scavenger hunt.
  • DIY Games: Let the kids get creative by making their own games. Not only does this keep them engaged, but it also sparks their imagination.
  • Video Game Night: Yes, even video games can be a bonding experience. Choose multiplayer games that require teamwork and include everyone in the fun.

Building a Family Tradition That Lasts

Family game night is more than a one-time event; it’s an opportunity to establish a meaningful tradition. As your kids grow up, these moments become the memories they’ll cherish—and possibly recreate with their own families one day.

Even on weeks when it feels like there’s no time, making the effort to sit down for a game can be the reset button your family needs. Whether it’s a quick card game before bedtime or a long Monopoly marathon on a Sunday afternoon, the benefits go far beyond the game itself.

Ready to Start Your Own Family Game Night?

If you’re looking for more ways to connect as a family, check out our other posts on creating meaningful family traditions and strengthening family bonds. Remember, it’s not about winning or losing—it’s about the time spent together and the memories made.

So, what are you waiting for? Dust off those board games, gather the family, and let the fun begin!

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Dealing with Parental Guilt: Letting Go of the Perfect Parent Myth

by Denise Wright

Dealing with Parental Guilt and Letting Go

Parenthood is one of the most rewarding journeys, but it also comes with its fair share of challenges—one of the biggest being parental guilt. Whether it’s feeling like you’re not spending enough time with your kids, questioning a disciplinary decision, or comparing yourself to other parents, guilt can creep in and weigh you down.

The good news is that you’re not alone. Guilt is something every parent faces, but it doesn’t have to control your parenting journey. Let’s explore why guilt happens, how it affects us, and most importantly, practical ways to let it go and focus on what truly matters.

Understanding Parental Guilt

Guilt is an emotion all parents experience at some point. It often stems from high expectations, societal pressure, or our own inner voices telling us we’re falling short. Here are some common examples you might relate to:

  • You forgot to pack their lunch for school.
  • You missed their big game or recital because of a work deadline.
  • You snapped at them after a long and stressful day.

These moments are inevitable, but they don’t define your worth as a parent. Guilt can actually be a sign of how much you care. However, when left unchecked, it can spiral into feelings of inadequacy or even lead to burnout.

The Impact of Comparison on Guilt

One of the biggest contributors to parental guilt is comparison. It’s easy to look at other parents on social media or in your community and feel like you’re not measuring up. But here’s the truth: what you see is only a highlight reel.

Every family has its struggles, and comparing yourself to others only magnifies feelings of guilt. Instead, focus on your unique strengths and what works best for your family.

How to Let Go of the Guilt: Practical Tips

1. Reframe Your Perspective

Instead of viewing guilt as a sign of failure, see it as a reminder of your love for your kids. Acknowledge the feeling, but don’t let it consume you.

For example, if you missed a school event, remind yourself of the countless other ways you’ve shown up for your child. Focus on the bigger picture rather than one isolated moment.

2. Embrace Imperfection

Perfection doesn’t exist in parenting, and chasing it will only leave you exhausted. Embrace the fact that mistakes are a natural part of the journey.

For instance, if you forget something important, own up to it. Apologizing and taking responsibility can teach your children valuable lessons about accountability and resilience.

3. Focus on Quality Over Quantity

It’s not about how much time you spend with your kids but the quality of that time.

Turn off distractions and be fully present during the moments you share. Whether it’s a family game night, bedtime stories, or a quick chat about their day, these intentional interactions leave lasting impressions.

4. Practice Self-Compassion

Would you criticize a fellow parent for making the same mistakes you do? Of course not. So why hold yourself to impossible standards?

Treat yourself with the same kindness you’d extend to a friend. Remind yourself that you’re doing the best you can, and that’s enough.

5. Communicate with Your Kids

Open communication is a powerful tool for building trust and alleviating guilt.

If you feel guilty about losing your temper, apologize and explain why. For example: “I’m sorry for yelling earlier. I was feeling overwhelmed, but that’s no excuse. Let’s talk about what happened and how we can handle it better next time.”

This not only models accountability but also shows your kids that it’s okay to express emotions in a healthy way.

Additional Strategies for Letting Go of Guilt

  1. Create a Support Network
    Parenting wasn’t meant to be done alone. Surround yourself with people who uplift you and remind you of your worth. This could be fellow parents, close friends, or even online communities where you can share experiences and advice.
  2. Celebrate Small Wins
    Instead of dwelling on what you didn’t do, focus on the small victories. Did you get the kids to school on time? Did you share a laugh over dinner? These moments matter more than you realize.
  3. Focus on Gratitude
    Shift your perspective by focusing on what you’re grateful for in your parenting journey. Gratitude can transform guilt into appreciation for the moments you’ve been given.
  4. Teach Your Kids About Grace
    When you extend grace to yourself, you teach your kids to do the same—for themselves and for others. This creates a culture of understanding and forgiveness in your home.

The Impact of Letting Go of Guilt

Letting go of guilt allows you to be more present and intentional in your parenting. It clears the emotional clutter, giving you space to focus on what truly matters.

Your kids don’t need you to be perfect—they need you to be present. By releasing unrealistic expectations, you’ll find greater joy in the little moments and build stronger, more authentic connections with your children.

The Ripple Effect on Your Family

When you let go of guilt, you also create a healthier environment for your children. They learn that it’s okay to make mistakes, as long as they learn and grow from them. This mindset builds resilience and emotional intelligence, equipping them to navigate life’s challenges with confidence.

Moving Forward as a Parent

Dealing with parental guilt is an ongoing process, but every step you take to let it go makes a difference. Parenting isn’t about being perfect; it’s about showing up, learning, and growing alongside your children.

Need more support? Check out our post on 10 Tips for Strengthening Family Bonds for more ideas on creating meaningful connections with your kids.

Let’s embrace progress over perfection—together.