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The Benefits of Family Game Night

January 2, 2025

In today’s busy world, finding quality time for family can feel like an uphill battle. Between work, school, and extracurricular activities, it’s easy to let the days slip by without truly connecting. That’s where family game night comes in. It’s more than just rolling dice or shuffling cards—it’s about creating memories, building relationships, and even sneaking in some life lessons along the way. So grab your favorite board game (or video game if you’re a nerd like us) and settle in as we explore why family game night is a tradition worth starting.

Strengthening Family Bonds Through Play

One of the greatest benefits of game night is how it brings everyone together. In our house, the laughter, groans over losing, and cheers of victory are some of the sweetest sounds. For just a few hours, distractions like work emails, school projects, and even screens take a backseat to genuine connection.

Playing games as a family helps bridge the age gap between parents and kids. Whether it’s toddlers stacking blocks in a simple game or teenagers strategizing their way through a game of Catan, the shared experience strengthens relationships. Even when the competitive spirit kicks in, the time spent together outweighs the outcome of the game.

Life Lessons Wrapped in Fun

What’s great about game night is that it’s like a secret classroom. Without even realizing it, kids are learning crucial life skills while they’re busy having fun.

Communication and Teamwork

Games that require teamwork teach kids how to communicate effectively, listen to others, and solve problems collaboratively. These skills are essential not just at home but also in school and later in life.

Emotional Resilience

Let’s be honest—nobody likes losing. But family game night provides a safe space to experience losing gracefully. Learning to cope with setbacks and cheering for someone else’s success are invaluable lessons wrapped in the guise of play.

This new-age notion of “everyone is a winner” might sound nice in theory, but in practice, it does little to prepare our kids for the realities of life. The truth is, that losing is a part of life, and shielding children from it only does them a disservice. When kids are taught that failure isn’t an option, they miss out on crucial opportunities to develop resilience, perseverance, and problem-solving skills.

Family game night is a perfect opportunity to show that losing isn’t the end of the world. It’s a chance to teach our kids that it’s okay to try, fail, and try again. Whether it’s a missed roll in Yahtzee or landing on Boardwalk in Monopoly with someone else’s hotel on it, these moments are valuable lessons in grit and grace.

When we model good sportsmanship and encourage our kids to do the same, we’re teaching them to celebrate the victories of others without diminishing their own efforts. That’s not just a game-night lesson—it’s a life lesson. Life doesn’t always hand out trophies for participation, but it does reward those who keep going, even when the odds are stacked against them. So, no, not everyone needs to “win” every time. Instead, we can focus on helping our kids win in the ways that matter most: through growth, character, and the joy of simply playing the game.

Strategic Thinking and Patience

Games like chess or Monopoly encourage kids to think several steps ahead while waiting their turn fosters patience. These moments of learning often happen naturally and make a lasting impact.

Creating Priceless Memories

In a world where schedules dominate, game night stands out as a time when we can just be together. As a mom, I treasure the moments when everyone’s laughter fills the room or when one of the kids pulls a surprising move that has everyone in stitches.

I remember one night when Addison convinced everyone to play charades. She acted out her favorite character in such a hilariously over-the-top way that we couldn’t stop laughing. Even Ethan, who tends to be more reserved, joined in and had us cracking up with his version of a zombie. Moments like that remind me why family time is so precious.

Tips for a Successful Family Game Night

Game night doesn’t have to be complicated to be successful. Here are some tips we’ve picked up over the years:

Pick the Right Games

Choose games that suit the ages and interests of your family members. For younger kids, simple games like Trouble or Candy Land work well. For older kids and adults, games like Scrabble, Ticket to Ride, or Exploding Kittens can be a hit.

Keep It Lighthearted

The goal is to have fun, not spark arguments. Encourage good sportsmanship and take breaks if things get too competitive.

Make It a Tradition

Choose a day of the week or month that works for everyone and stick to it. Having a regular game night gives everyone something to look forward to.

Snacks and Atmosphere

Turn game night into an event with fun snacks and a cozy atmosphere. Whether it’s popcorn, cookies, or a simple fruit platter, having treats on hand makes the evening even more enjoyable.

For us game night has also turned into pizza night and a movie night! A whole evening for just being together and having fun.

Expanding Beyond the Living Room

Game night doesn’t always have to involve traditional board or card games. Here are a few creative alternatives to keep things fresh:

Outdoor Games: When the weather’s nice, bring the fun outside with cornhole, ladder ball, or a scavenger hunt.
DIY Games: Let the kids get creative by making their own games. Not only does this keep them engaged, but it also sparks their imagination.
Video Game Night: Yes, even video games can be a bonding experience. Choose multiplayer games that require teamwork and include everyone in the fun.

Building a Family Tradition That Lasts

Family game night is more than a one-time event; it’s an opportunity to establish a meaningful tradition. As your kids grow up, these moments become the memories they’ll cherish—and possibly recreate with their own families one day.

Even on weeks when it feels like there’s no time, making the effort to sit down for a game can be the reset button your family needs. Whether it’s a quick card game before bedtime or a long Monopoly marathon on a Sunday afternoon, the benefits go far beyond the game itself.

Ready to Start Your Own Family Game Night?

If you’re looking for more ways to connect as a family, check out our other posts on creating meaningful family traditions and strengthening family bonds. Remember, it’s not about winning or losing—it’s about the time spent together and the memories made.

So, what are you waiting for? Dust off those board games, gather the family, and let the fun begin!

Family Bonding

How to Foster Open Communication with Your Kids: Parent-to-Parent Guide

December 25, 2024

Open communication is the foundation of a strong family bond, but as every parent knows, it’s far from easy. Navigating tough conversations and creating a safe space for kids to express themselves is a challenge we all face. That’s why we’re here to share practical, parent-to-parent tips for fostering honest dialogue within your family.

At Our Family Experiment, we pride ourselves on being open, raw, and honest with our readers and listeners. So, let me be real with you—communicating with kids doesn’t always go smoothly. Just last night, I tried to talk to Addison about something she needed help with, and it did not go well. She wouldn’t listen, got an attitude, and I ended up losing my cool and yelling at her.

Later, after stepping away from the situation, I realized I had failed—miserably. Swallowing my pride, I sat down with her to explain why I got upset and how we could avoid this in the future. It wasn’t easy, especially because my parents didn’t do that kind of thing when I was growing up. This wasn’t an action based on experience—it was based on what I wish had been done for me as a child.

I’ve heard baby boomers say over and over how anxiety attacks, panic attacks, or neurodivergence “weren’t an issue back in their day.” My goodness, just because something wasn’t named or talked about doesn’t mean it didn’t exist. Now, generations since that era are trying to navigate and name the challenges they’ve faced as adults and parents.

That said, as a Millennial with iGen kids, I’ve noticed some people take it to the other extreme. They over-excuse bad behavior, slap a diagnosis on it, and use it as a justification: “This is just how I am because I have this medical issue.” Don’t get me wrong—many people truly need understanding and medical support. But not everything requires a pill or a diagnosis. Sometimes, kids just need good old-fashioned discipline. On that one point, I can agree with the baby boomers.

Finding the balance between understanding, discipline, and open communication isn’t easy, but it’s worth striving for. Let’s figure it out together.

Why Open Communication Matters

As parents, we often wish we could read our kids’ minds. But the reality is, trust and open communication take time to build. Creating a safe space for your kids to share their thoughts and feelings helps them feel valued and understood. This foundation of trust not only strengthens your relationship but also equips them to face life’s challenges with confidence.

Matt and I have had countless conversations with our kids, trying to draw out their feelings—sometimes even about us. Hearing their honest thoughts about how we’ve handled a situation or made them feel is never easy. It’s a tough conversation for everyone involved. The kids may feel scared to share something harsh, worried about being ridiculed or punished for their feelings. Meanwhile, we parents have to sit there, biting our tongues, doing everything we can not to react defensively to the information we’re hearing.

For someone like me, who learns best by seeing something done, this makes parenting an even bigger challenge. There’s no example to follow, no perfect guide to refer to. And that’s why it truly feels like an experiment—an ever-evolving, humbling, and rewarding one.

5 Parent-to-Parent Tips for Encouraging Open Communication

1. Create a Safe Space for Honest Conversations

Children are more likely to open up when they feel safe and free from judgment.

Set aside regular one-on-one time to talk with each child.
Avoid interrupting or dismissing their feelings.
Use phrases like, “I’m here to listen, not judge.”

Parent to parent, we know that fostering open communication takes practice, but the effort is absolutely worth it when your kids feel safe sharing their thoughts with you. Our children should feel secure coming to us with their feelings, questions, or concerns. If they don’t, they may eventually turn to other sources for comfort or develop unhealthy coping mechanisms to manage their emotions. Creating that sense of safety now lays the foundation for trust and resilience as they grow.

Am I a licensed professional? Nope. I’m just a mom speaking from experience—someone who was once a child herself and is now navigating the adventure of raising her own.

2. Model the Behavior You Want to See

Kids learn by example, so show them what open communication looks like:

Share your own thoughts and feelings in age-appropriate ways.
Admit when you’re wrong and apologize sincerely.
Discuss family decisions openly to show respect for everyone’s input.

From one parent to another, modeling vulnerability can feel uncomfortable, but it shows your kids that it’s okay to be human. We may never receive apologies for the things that still sting when we think about them. But if our childhoods have taught us anything, it’s this: there are lessons in what we didn’t appreciate, and those lessons drive us to do better for our own children.

3. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Instead of questions that prompt yes-or-no answers, try these:

“What was the best part of your day?”
“How do you feel about what happened at school today?”
“What’s something you’re excited or worried about?”

Open-ended questions invite deeper conversations and create opportunities for your kids to express themselves freely, without fear of giving the “wrong” answer. Instead of shutting down dialogue with simple yes-or-no responses, these questions encourage them to explore their thoughts and feelings. It’s not just about getting them to talk; it’s about showing them that their opinions, fears, and dreams matter.

Questions like, “What was the best part of your day?” or “How do you feel about what happened at school today?” signal to your kids that you’re genuinely interested in their experiences and willing to listen without judgment. This approach fosters a sense of safety and trust, allowing them to open up more readily over time.

It also strengthens your connection as a family. When kids know they’ll be heard, they’re more likely to share not just the good but also the challenges they’re facing. This can lead to meaningful problem-solving discussions and teach them the value of open communication in all areas of life.

When it comes to our kids, Ethan is the tough nut to crack. Getting him to open up feels like solving a puzzle with missing pieces. Addison, on the other hand, is the complete opposite—she’ll happily share every thought and feeling, whether you asked for them or not!

4. Make Time for Family Meetings

Set up regular family meetings to discuss feelings, plans, or challenges as a group.

Keep the tone light and supportive, not punitive.
Encourage everyone, including you, to share their thoughts.
End on a positive note, such as celebrating small wins or planning a fun family activity.

Family meetings show your kids that their voices matter, creating a space where everyone feels valued and strengthening the parent-to-child connection.

We don’t have family meetings as often as we should, but when we do, they’re incredibly helpful! That said, I have to admit—hearing the words “Family Meeting” instantly takes me back to my childhood. For me, those words usually meant mom and dad had reached their limit, and it was time for everyone to sit down and hear about how bad we’d been and how we needed to do better. It wasn’t an open conversation; it was a lecture. Our thoughts and feelings weren’t always welcomed, and if they were, it often felt like our thoughts and feelings were invalid. To be honest, this is probably why I (Denise) have such a hard time communicating with Matt in intense situations.

I want to be clear—I’m not trying to paint a picture of a terrible childhood. My parents did their best, as all parents do. I simply want to point out that all parents, including Matt and me, make mistakes. Sometimes those mistakes are small, and we learn from them quickly. Other times, we don’t realize they were mistakes until it’s too late.

To be fair, there’s a time and place for that kind of family meeting. Matt and I have had to hold those tough conversations ourselves, and they serve an important purpose. But the memory of those “family meetings” from my own childhood comes with a lot of negative connotations. That’s why we aim to create a different kind of family meeting for our kids—one that invites open dialogue, mutual respect, and understanding, rather than fear or frustration. It’s not perfect, but it’s a step toward fostering the kind of connection we want to have as a family.

Matt also dealt with similar situations with his parents growing up. I can’t speak for him because I wasn’t there. But I was there to witness some of the ways his younger sister was parented. And it wasn’t always pretty. I’ve even been on the receiving end of correction from Matts mom early on in our marriage. Just constant reminders of how I don’t want to act toward my kids. But again, as I admitted early on, I too fail at times.

5. Be Patient and Consistent

Building open communication takes time. Some days your kids may talk nonstop, and other days they may give one-word answers.

Stay consistent in your efforts to communicate.
Celebrate the small moments when they open up.
Let them know you’re always there, no matter what.

Patience and consistency are the secret ingredients to fostering trust and strengthening family bonds. I know how cliché that sounds—trust me, I rolled my eyes at myself as I wrote that. Because, let’s be real, some days it’s easy to be patient and consistent, and other days it’s like calmly explaining algebra to a tween who’s dramatically proclaiming they’ll never use math in real life.

The Benefits of Open Communication

When open communication becomes part of your family dynamic, you’ll notice positive changes:

Your kids will feel more confident sharing their thoughts and emotions.
Family conflicts will be easier to resolve.
You’ll build a deeper understanding of each other, creating a stronger family bond.
You’re kids will actually want to spend time with you. Without force!

Conclusion: Building Stronger Bonds

From our chaotic parenting woes to yours, fostering open communication with your kids is a journey, not a destination. By creating a safe space, modeling openness, asking meaningful questions, and staying consistent, you’re building a foundation of trust that will last a lifetime. If you’ve ever watched a foundation being laid, it something that takes time, patience, knowledge, skills, and at times trial and error. It isn’t something that happens over night. So as you put these thoughts into practice, don’t get dissapointed if you don’t see immediate results!

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Ideas for Building Resilient Kids: Strengthening Emotional Foundations for Your Family

December 17, 2024

Introduction

Raising emotionally strong kids can feel overwhelming, but it doesn’t have to be. If you’re searching for ideas for your family to build resilience, create stronger connections, and help your kids face life’s challenges with confidence, you’re in the right place.

In this post, we’ll explore practical tips, real-life examples, and simple strategies to help your kids grow emotionally while strengthening your family bond. Because when kids learn to manage emotions and overcome obstacles, they don’t just bounce back—they thrive.

1. Creating a Safe Space for Emotions

Building emotional resilience starts with teaching your kids that their feelings are valid and welcome.

Listen First: Encourage your child to share what’s on their mind without jumping in to “fix” the problem. Sometimes, they just need to feel heard.
Model Emotional Awareness: When you’re frustrated, say things like, “I’m feeling upset right now, but I’m going to take a deep breath and calm down.” Kids learn resilience by watching us handle our own emotions.
Tools for Younger Kids: Consider a feelings chart for younger children to name their emotions, or perhaps a journal for older kids over the age of 7.

This is especially important in our household because our daughter Addison experiences a wide range of emotions on a regular basis. Every day, we’re learning a little more about how to help her regulate her feelings, process things that upset her, and prepare for situations that might trigger strong reactions.

Though she’s the loudest in our house and a constant chatterbox, Addison is also incredibly sensitive. She reacts strongly to certain noises, has specific preferences for clothing textures, and is very particular about the foods she eats. Understanding her unique needs has been a journey, but it’s teaching us so much about patience, empathy, and creating an environment where she feels supported.

2. Teaching Problem-Solving Skills

When life gets tough, kids need to know how to work through challenges rather than avoid them.

Encourage Independent Thinking: Next time your child has a problem, ask questions like, “What do you think we should do?” or “What are a couple of solutions you can try?”
Break It Down: Help kids tackle challenges step by step so they don’t feel overwhelmed.
Celebrate Effort Over Outcomes: Remind your kids that trying and failing is often how we grow the most.

✨ Practical Tip: Start a family mantra like “In this family, we try, learn, and try again!”

3. Prioritizing Connection in Your Family

Strong emotional bonds help kids feel secure enough to handle life’s ups and downs. In our family, we’ve found that creating these bonds doesn’t require grand gestures—it’s often the little moments of connection that make the biggest difference. Whether it’s sitting down together for a meal, laughing over a shared joke, or simply being present when emotions run high, these everyday interactions build a foundation of trust and love.

One way we’ve worked on strengthening these connections is by being intentional about how we spend time together. Activities like family game nights or taking time to really listen to what our kids are saying have become simple but meaningful ways to create stability and connection.

There are many ways to strengthen your family’s bonds, from creating special traditions to finding small ways to show support every day. These efforts, no matter how small, provide kids with the stability and security they need to navigate life’s challenges with confidence.

These small, intentional efforts don’t just make kids feel loved—they give them the emotional security they need to face challenges with confidence.

Family Traditions Matter: Whether it’s weekly family game nights or bedtime chats, routines build connection and consistency.
Spend One-on-One Time: Even 10-15 minutes of focused time with each child can make a big difference. Ask about their day, dream with them, or simply share a laugh.

4. Teaching Healthy Coping Strategies

One of the best ideas for your family is helping your kids learn how to manage stress and disappointment in healthy ways.

Breathe Through It: Teach your kids simple deep breathing exercises to calm their minds.
Physical Outlets: Encourage activities like walking, biking, or playing outside when emotions run high.
Create a Calm-Down Space: Set up a cozy corner with soft blankets, books, and stress relief tools such as a box of sensory fidgets for kids who need a break.

In the end, even adults sometimes need a moment to cool down and breathe before reacting or engaging. In fact, I’d go a step further and suggest that those who are quick to react at the drop of a hat likely didn’t have someone teach them healthier ways to cope with their emotions growing up.

I’ll be honest—I struggle with reacting before I think, and I’ve noticed my kids have picked up on that habit too. But the fact that I can acknowledge it gives me hope—for their future and my own. After all, the first step to solving any problem is recognizing that it exists.

5. Practicing Gratitude as a Family

Gratitude shifts the focus from what’s missing to what’s already good in our lives—building a positive, resilient mindset.

Family Gratitude Jar: Have each family member write down one thing they’re grateful for each week and place it in the jar. At the end of the month, read them together.
Gratitude Journals: Encourage kids to list three “good things” each night before bed.
Model Thankfulness: Share your own moments of gratitude out loud.

✨ Reminder: Resilience grows when kids learn to look for the silver lining, even on tough days.

6. Celebrating Small Wins Together

Resilience isn’t about perfection—it’s about progress. Celebrate the effort your kids put into growing, trying, and learning.

Call Out the Little Things: Did your child try something new, stick with a tough task, or handle a disappointment well? Celebrate it!
Create a Family Wins Jar: Write down victories big and small, from “finished my chores without complaining” to “I stayed calm when I felt frustrated.”

Matt and I created an eBook that dives deep into Celebrating the Wins (Big and Small) and is packed with great ideas to help you do just that. Want a copy? Subscribe to Our Family Experiment today, and we’ll send you the eBook for free! It’s our way of saying thank you for joining us on this journey.

Conclusion: Resilience Starts at Home

Fostering emotional resilience in your kids isn’t about having all the answers—it’s about showing up, offering grace, and creating space for them to learn, grow, and bounce back stronger. These ideas for your family can help you build a foundation of emotional strength that will carry your kids through the challenges life throws their way.

Remember, small efforts add up. Every time you connect with your kids, celebrate their progress, or model resilience in your own life, you’re equipping them with tools they’ll carry for a lifetime.

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