The holidays are a magical time, but let’s be honest—they can also make it difficult to manage parenting stress, inevitably taking things to a whole new level. Between coordinating schedules, shopping for gifts, and managing the inevitable sugar-induced meltdowns, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed. But don’t worry—you’re not alone, and there are ways to handle the chaos while still enjoying the season.
1. Plan Ahead to Tame Holiday Stress
One of the best ways to start managing stress is to get ahead of the chaos. Use a family calendar or planner to organize events, shopping lists, and meal plans. When everything is written down, it’s easier to see what’s coming up and avoid last-minute panic.
This is something Matt and I have started doing since being back in Oklahoma, living with family especially. Not only do we need to keep track of our own lives, but on occasion, we have to keep up with my parents as well. It’s hard for anyone, let alone busy parents to remember all the things! We started using the See It Bigger Padfolio Planner to help us stay on track with everything from shower schedules to doctor appointments. We can replace the insert every year which makes it convenient. Don’t make it harder than it has to be. Work smarter, not harder! Anything you can do to help manage parenting stress should be a top priority in my opinion!
2. Simplify Your Gift-Giving
You don’t have to do it all! Stick to a simple gift-giving formula, like the popular “Something they want, something they need, something to wear, something to read.” This not only reduces holiday stress but also keeps the budget in check.
I enjoy giving gifts, but don’t you dare ask me what I want or need because I don’t have a clue! As a mom, I’m always thinking about what everyone else wants or needs. I used to get so irritated with my mom when I was younger and would ask her to tell me what she wanted for Christmas or her birthday. She’d say, “I have no idea.” Now here I am… Mrs. I have no idea Jr.
However, when I’m stuck I enjoy visiting Etsy. There is always something there for everyone! I’d tell you what we’re getting the kids and each other… but we all read this blog. So I won’t spoil any surprises. 😉
3. Take Breaks to Recharge
As parents, we’re often so focused on making the holidays perfect for everyone else that we forget about ourselves. Schedule small breaks for self-care—even if it’s just 10 minutes to enjoy a cup of tea or read a book.
For Matt and me, living in someone else’s home makes it challenging to find a quiet space. So, we’ve turned our bedroom into a little getaway suite, complete with my Xbox and TV and Matt’s gaming PC. Most evenings, after the kids are asleep, we unwind together by playing our favorite games and chatting about our day.
It’s honestly my favorite time of the day—especially now that Matt added a wax warmer to his desk that looks like a miniature fire burning! It sets such a cozy, relaxing mood in the room and fills the air with all the holiday scents we love.
4. Delegate and Ask for Help
Remember, you don’t have to do everything alone. Enlist your partner, kids, or extended family to pitch in with decorating, wrapping, or cooking. Sharing the load can reduce parenting stress significantly. Which reminds me… If I don’t put up the kids’ miniature Christmas tree this weekend for them to decorate, they might never let me live it down!
This week in Children’s Church the kids’ teacher brought them each these scratch art ornaments to design however they wanted. I was blown away when my 11-year-old son brought his ornament to show me after church. Nobody suggested to him what to scratch into this ornament, but they had just been learning about the Virgin Mary and her Virgin birth. Didn’t the kids do such a good job?!
5. Prioritize Family Time
It’s easy to get caught up in the busyness, but some of the most cherished memories are the simplest ones. Set aside time for family traditions, like baking cookies or watching a favorite holiday movie together. These moments can ease holiday stress and bring joy to everyone. Do what works for you and your family.
My mother is great about pulling the kids into the kitchen to help her bake cookies. She’s already started her holiday baking spree to hand out trays of cookies to her neighbors. DO NOT touch the cookies. That’s a really difficult thing to do when she so rudely makes it smell like a holiday baker’s market in here. I prefer to do things outside of the kitchen with my kids because the kitchen is my space. HA! This is how I manage parenting stress. I avoid moments that are bound to cause me stress because I know myself pretty well.
Haven’t developed any of your own family traditions for the holidays? I’ll let you borrow one of ours! We love going to our local grocery store and picking up a gingerbread house-making kit to do together. We’ve even been known to order a special kit online a time or two. Check out this adorable gingerbread barn. Or if you’re like me and aren’t a fan of the taste of gingerbread… this chocolate cookie house is a must!
6. Keep Expectations Realistic
Not everything has to be perfect. The tree doesn’t need to look like it belongs in a magazine, and it’s okay if the cookies come out a little burnt. Embrace the imperfections—they’re often the moments you’ll laugh about later.
This is one I’m still working on, to be honest. My nerves and OCD get the better of me. Not gonna lie, I’ve been refraining from adjusting the garland on my mother’s Christmas tree because it isn’t evenly placed toward the bottom. THE GAP IS TO MUCH! I digress. As I was saying… not everything has to be perfect. HA!
Pro-tip: maybe write that on your hand this holiday season so you don’t forget.
7. Focus on Gratitude
During the hectic moments of the holiday season, it’s easy to get caught up in the whirlwind of to-do lists, gift shopping, and family gatherings. But when you feel overwhelmed, take a step back and reflect on what truly matters—what you’re grateful for. The holidays are about so much more than the presents we give or receive; they’re about celebrating the ultimate gift given to all of us—the birth of Jesus Christ.
This season is an opportunity to remember God’s incredible love for us, demonstrated in the gift of His Son, who came to bring hope, joy, and salvation. Share this profound truth with your family as you talk about what you’re thankful for. Encourage your kids to think about the blessings in their lives and how they can share that same love and kindness with others.
By grounding your family in gratitude and focusing on the real reason for the season, you can create a holiday filled with meaning, connection, and joy. After all, it’s not about the gifts under the tree, but the gift of grace that was given to us all. ✨
Closing Thoughts to Manage Parenting Stress
The holidays don’t have to be perfect to be memorable. If you think about it, your most memorable holiday moments probably weren’t these grand expensive gestures. But the simple smell of Grandma baking a card table full of homemade pies or riding on your brand new bean bag down the basement stairs with your siblings hoping mom doesn’t stop you.
By taking a step back, planning ahead, and prioritizing what truly matters, you can enjoy the season while keeping parenting stress at bay. Remember, the best gift you can give your family is a happy, present version of yourself.
If these tips resonate with you, share your own strategies for managing parenting stress during the holidays by sending us a quick email to [email protected]. Let’s navigate this season together!